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Is it rape if your married and your wife or husband rapes you?

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  • Niki 2009/05/06 00:32:10
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    Niki
    +5
    yes... rape is forced sex... the fact of being married doesn't give one of the two people the choice and the choice ALONE to decide when sex should happen...

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  • kudda.kat 2013/11/07 00:30:23
    no (comment)
    kudda.kat
    Rape? If a man takes care of his responsibilities as a man! Which is to provide and protect and you choose to not please him? Please seen him to me I would love a man that works and still wants to come home and enjoy himself. Also if you're so unattracted to your spouse that you would think of saying no! Why in the hell did you marry him!!!??? You can't say you didn't have a choice! Women really have changed over the years... you all are walking men since some of you act like you don't need a penis.
  • Brittany 2011/09/30 22:06:37
    yes (comment)
    Brittany
    The SECOND a man or woman says "no" "I do not want to" "not right now" or anything else along those lines it IS rape. Marriage does not give someone the right to brutalize their partner. Did they not take vows to protect and love each other? Rape is a violation of all promises in a marriage.
  • KimberlyDawn67 2011/08/19 11:14:46
    yes (comment)
    KimberlyDawn67
    Partner Rape is defined as sexual acts committed without a person's consent and/or against a person's will when the perpetrator is the individual's current partner (married or not), previous partner, or co-habitator.

    3 types of Partner Rape:

    Battering rape- the experience of both physical and sexual violence within a relationship. Some may experience physical abuse during the sexual assault. Others may experience sexual assault after a physical assault as an attempt to "make up."
    Force-only rape- motivated by a perpetrator's need to demonstrate power and maintain control. Therefore, he/she asserts his/her feelings of entitlement over his/her partner in the form of forced sexual contact.
    Obsessive/Sadistic rape- involves torture and perverse sexual acts. Such rape is characteristically violent and often leads to physical injury.
    Emotional & Physical Reactions:
    Physical:

    Injuries to the vaginal and anal areas
    Lacerations
    Soreness
    Bruising
    Torn muscles
    Fatigue
    Vomiting
    Broken bones
    Black eyes
    Injuries caused by weapons
    Miscarriages
    Stillbirths
    Contraction of STIs , including HIV
    Emotional:

    Anxiety
    Shock
    Intense fear
    Depression
    Suicidal ideation
    Post-traumatic stress disorder
    Betrayal
    Fundamental loss of trust
    Research indicates that survivors of partner rape are more likely to...
    Partner Rape is defined as sexual acts committed without a person's consent and/or against a person's will when the perpetrator is the individual's current partner (married or not), previous partner, or co-habitator.

    3 types of Partner Rape:

    Battering rape- the experience of both physical and sexual violence within a relationship. Some may experience physical abuse during the sexual assault. Others may experience sexual assault after a physical assault as an attempt to "make up."
    Force-only rape- motivated by a perpetrator's need to demonstrate power and maintain control. Therefore, he/she asserts his/her feelings of entitlement over his/her partner in the form of forced sexual contact.
    Obsessive/Sadistic rape- involves torture and perverse sexual acts. Such rape is characteristically violent and often leads to physical injury.
    Emotional & Physical Reactions:
    Physical:

    Injuries to the vaginal and anal areas
    Lacerations
    Soreness
    Bruising
    Torn muscles
    Fatigue
    Vomiting
    Broken bones
    Black eyes
    Injuries caused by weapons
    Miscarriages
    Stillbirths
    Contraction of STIs , including HIV
    Emotional:

    Anxiety
    Shock
    Intense fear
    Depression
    Suicidal ideation
    Post-traumatic stress disorder
    Betrayal
    Fundamental loss of trust
    Research indicates that survivors of partner rape are more likely to be raped multiple times when compared to stranger and acquaintance rape survivors. As such, partner rape survivors are more likely to suffer severe and long-lasting physical and psychological injuries.
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  • TheBorgie 2010/12/26 22:12:35
    no (comment)
    TheBorgie
    Marriage is a legally binding contract were both parties agree to give up their bodies on demand.
  • KendraJae 2009/06/14 10:56:34
    yes (comment)
    KendraJae
    http://new.vawnet.org/Assoc_F...

    Summary

    Spousal Rape Laws (2000) by the National Center for Victims of Crime

    Excerpt:
    "Until the late 1970s, most states did not consider spousal rape a crime. Typically, spouses were exempted from the sexual assault laws--laws traceable to a seventeenth-century judicial prouncement that a husband cannot be guilty of rape of his wife 'for by their mutual matrimonial consent and contract the wife hath given up herself in this kind unto the husband which she cannot retract.' In the late 1970s, however, feminists began efforts to change these laws. Currently, rape of a spouse is a crime in all 50 states and the District of Columbia."
    "While spousal rape is now considered a crime, victims often have to overcome additional legal hurdles to prosecution not present for other victims of rape. These include time limits for reporting the offense, a requirement that force or threat of force be used by the offender, and the fact that some sexual assault offenses still preclude spousal victims."
  • shortnsweeet~In God We Trust~ 2009/06/09 23:53:33
    yes (comment)
    shortnsweeet~In God We Trust~
    +1
    yes rape is rape! If one or the other says no then it means no. Married does not mean you own one another
  • Edward 2009/06/07 01:23:50
    yes (comment)
    Edward
    IT SHOULD BE ANY MATBE IT IS IN SOME STATES
  • Illjwamh 2009/06/05 20:23:28
    yes (comment)
    Illjwamh
    +2
    No means no, and rape is rape.

    And yes, women can rape men; it's just not very common.
  • Brittany Illjwamh 2011/09/30 22:09:25
    Brittany
    +2
    Or perhaps it is only less common because our society tells men that they have to be stronger and thus they are afraid of what to others will think/say of them if they tell anyone.
  • Illjwamh Brittany 2011/10/01 11:14:12
    Illjwamh
    That is certainly a factor. But I would also say that the actual number of incidents is indeed smaller on the whole as well.
  • cincin88 2009/06/05 04:30:12
    yes (comment)
    cincin88
    +2
    No means No! Weather your married or not!
  • Raven♥ 2009/06/05 03:56:18
    yes (comment)
    Raven♥
    +1
    If it is forced sex then yes, it's rape. comment forced sex rape
  • June-Bug 2009/06/05 03:47:48
    yes (comment)
    June-Bug
  • Lady D.J 2009/06/05 01:42:40
    yes (comment)
    Lady D.J
    +2
    RAPE- "any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person."
    If sex is forced on you, evan if your married, it is rape.
  • devontae jones 2009/06/05 01:14:59
    yes (comment)
    devontae jones
    It is in America, but not in Islamic countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, and if you google it Hamed Karzai is about to sign this into law in Afghanistan at the request of religious leaders, a man CANNOT rape his wife in Islam, she is his property.

    Get used to it, Amerika
  • **JessiGirl** 2009/06/04 21:26:40
    yes (comment)
    **JessiGirl**
    +1
    "Rape, also referred to as sexual assault, is an assault by a person involving sexual intercourse with or sexual penetration of another person without that person's consent. Rape is generally considered a serious sex crime, as well as a civil assault."
    So yeah pretty much. Married or not, it's not cool to force upon sex, so even if that person is your partner or something, I'd mark it as rape. yeah pretty married cool force sex person partner mark rape yeah pretty married cool force sex person partner mark rape
  • snazzycracker 2009/05/24 17:06:04
    yes (comment)
    snazzycracker
    any form of unconsenual sex is rape as far as i'm aware.some countries have dubious laws surrounding it and i had heard that it only fairly recently became against the law in many countries,including the uk.
  • Tiger cub ♥ Rawr! 2009/05/24 14:23:38
    yes (comment)
    Tiger cub ♥ Rawr!
    +2
    Even if your married,it doen't mean that your husband/wife wants to have sex.Rape is FORCED sex.If one of you doesn't want to do it and the other does(and forces you to have sex)then it is considered rape! doent husbandwife sex rape forced sex doesand forces sexthen rape And real women don't rape,either!
  • Capri 2009/05/24 06:23:07
    yes (comment)
    Capri
    +3
    Of course it's rape! That's what unwanted sex is, and it doesn't matter if you're married to the person who you either force yourself on or if they force themself on you, nonconcensual sex means rape, PERIOD!
  • Amy 2009/05/24 01:37:19
    yes (comment)
    Amy
    +1
    It does not mean that the other spouse can just take it when they want!!
  • Ron 2009/05/23 20:29:23
    yes (comment)
    Ron
    +2
    a Marriage license does not mean ownership.
  • JDLogan 2009/05/23 15:16:19
    yes (comment)
    JDLogan
    +2
    Sex without consent is rape. A relationship with a history of consensual sex does not change this.
  • Isma'ila (God has heard)! 2009/05/23 02:13:54
    yes (comment)
    Isma'ila (God has heard)!
    +1
    No means no regardless!
  • Joecamel 2009/05/22 21:54:09
    yes (comment)
    Joecamel
    Of course it is! Then again, did you say "I do" to that "love honor and OBEY" thing in your vows? :)
  • hunt16 2009/05/22 20:47:08
    yes (comment)
    hunt16
    if its forced hell yes!
  • Andric Lucid 2009/05/20 11:23:41
    yes (comment)
    Andric Lucid
    Unless it's a roleplay lol
  • Brandi 2009/05/20 11:20:42
    yes (comment)
    Brandi
    +2
    Yes, if you say 'NO' then its rape..... No means no and even emplies to you husband/wife...
  • Niki 2009/05/06 00:32:10
    yes (comment)
    Niki
    +5
    yes... rape is forced sex... the fact of being married doesn't give one of the two people the choice and the choice ALONE to decide when sex should happen...
  • sky blue pink - American 2009/04/05 12:23:16
    yes (comment)
    sky blue pink - American
    +2
    that is a form of Spouse Abuse.
  • Ms.Jonas 2009/03/07 20:15:38
    yes (comment)
    Ms.Jonas
    +3
    It could be. It doesn't matter if your married or not, If it's against your will, It's rape.
  • *AW3S0MN3SS* 2009/03/05 20:17:00
    yes (comment)
    *AW3S0MN3SS*
    of course. he cant make you do, what you dont want to.
  • Tutboy 2009/03/05 15:02:32
  • desi Tutboy 2012/06/14 02:58:47 (edited)
    desi
    +3
    It's the most awful feeling ever having no control over the man I marrried.. we got into a argument he left came home drunk he forsed me in the room without nanny cams and threw me on bed grabbed my throat and force me to have sex I said no so many times. He hurt me very rough and now I'm bleeding down there....he was so forceful and hurtful. I said no and was fighting him. But I was over powered. I felt so helpless. I don't know what to do. I'm so hurt physically and emotional. We have been married 9 years April and have 4 kids. I don't know what to do?
  • yes (comment)
    Lady Jules ♥♥ in Lestat I trust ♥♥
    +1
    No still means no...
  • Ginger Snapp 2009/03/05 14:23:46
    yes (comment)
    Ginger Snapp
    yeah it sure as hell is.
  • taxidrivr 2009/03/05 14:19:46
    yes (comment)
    taxidrivr
    +2
    If its forced its rape

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