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How can I deal with the craziness in my own family? Read description.

How can I deal with the craziness in my own family? Read description.

by crinklemynoseandsmile Posted November 27, 2009 01:05:41

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For Thanksgiving we had a family reunion. Now, EVERYONE in my family is Baptist. Except me, dad, mom, and little brother. Me, dad, and brother are Wicca, mom is Agnostic. My grandma and grandpa doesn't give a damn. My aunt, from the minute she stepped into the house, decided to pull out TWO bibles are start converting...immediatly. She goes behind my dad's back and tells me "I know you don't want to be Wicca, you just feel pressured by your father." This is not true. She criticizes me because I have no problem with gays and thinks I'm crazy for wanting to work as a psychiatrist in a mental institution (God-forbid). We can't enjoy a nice family time because she always has to pick on out faith.

We have abosulutly no problem. We don't convert people. All of my friends are Christian! How do I deal with my crazy aunt!?

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+2 A Lawliet loves CEREAL - K-... November 27, 2009 01:48:15

ignore her
just say yes to everything she says
and that's it
thats what i'm doing with my mother everytime she gets against me
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hannah December 20, 2009 17:38:53

If i were u, i'd tell her that you apreciate her concern for you, (you don't have to mean it), but explain that you're happy with the path you've chosen. Tell her if she doesn't stop trying to convert you, you won't be able to talk to each other anymore.
Boris Badinov November 28, 2009 00:00:41

Hey cnmas, I am Christian. Your crazy aunt is right and she just wants you to know the Lord. If she is not a Christian you can talk to find a genuine Christian who will talk with you honestly. Jesus matters....really ! - God bless...
Wickels November 27, 2009 11:22:43

It is very frustrating at times to deal with family members who don't understand, trust me I know. Just do your best to respect what they believe, but do not allow them to deminsh your own beliefs. Reassure her you are not trying to convert anyone, but that you, your mom and dad, and little brother have your own belief system. Your parents should also be on your side and help out this this.

Blessed Solstice.
Tho Sun in reborn!!

Kristin
Chuck November 27, 2009 05:45:46

Other than kicking her out or flat out telling her to STFU, I really don't know of anything else that will work.
That's cool that you want to be a psychiatrist, I'm going to school to become a forensic psychologist, so I'll be providing you with more patients lol.
Rubyzandra November 27, 2009 04:59:02

Dealing with craziness in the family is useless. Just pray they take an early out so you have lots of time to unwind after they leave.
will November 27, 2009 04:53:28

No matter which religion you wish to follow or none at all, the most important thing is love between you and your family. I am not familiar with Wicca beliefs or values, but my guess is they believe with almost the same things as most religions, and or non religious people. I would continue to invite all family members, and do and say what all loving people do. The key to keeping your sanity is communication, with love and peace.
. November 27, 2009 04:23:44

Next time you see her, tell her you met these nice people who came to your door, and you are doing bible study with them. It's kinda like her bible only 'better' and you are really really interested, and that maybe she might like to come to a Kingdom Hall meeting with you.

good luck
;^)
Captain Sticky November 27, 2009 03:49:49

Your Captain would confront her and tell her that her activities are not welcome and she should cease unless she wants to mess up the relationship she has with you. My entire family on my mother's side is dysfunctional and I've had no problem throwing some of them out of my home. Would you really want to have to put up with someone who's a constant pain in the ass? Blood is NOT thicker than water. Best of luck.
Incensed November 27, 2009 02:47:38

Remind her of the scriptures she is harping on..... That would be the Judge not lest ye be judged and the love your neighbor as yourself, and so on. But don't be hateful. Just remember that she is worried about you and your family and your spiritual well-being. See, I understand both sides of the coin, because I was raised by a Wiccan mother and a Southern Baptist father. So I know the pressures can be great. But I also know that, in the end, my mother is Christian now, as well as me and my brother. I suggest serious study into both religions, and serious time seeking out God, and, in the end, make your own decision, but give Christianity a true chance. If one truly researches Christianity with an open mind and open heart, it may just convince you of its truth.
belle November 27, 2009 02:18:37

Just let her do her thing, sounds like all the family is very aware of her actions.
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A Lawliet loves CEREAL - K-... November 27, 2009 01:48:15

ignore her
just say yes to everything she says
and that's it
thats what i'm doing with my mother everytime she gets against me
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gingin6 November 27, 2009 01:34:08

Have a talk with her. If she don't listen, don't invite her anymore if it's at your place. Or
have a dinner with a few relatives that are respectable.
crinkle... to gingin6 November 27, 2009 01:37:48 (edited)

We tried talking to her. She says she loves us, and I'm sure she does, but I know she doesn't respect us. She trying to save us from burning in hell for not worshiping her god.

And we never invite her. My grandma does. She IS family, and I love her. I just cant respect someone who doesn't respect my choices.
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gingin6 to crinkle... November 27, 2009 01:47:21

Seems like your grandma needs to be explained to not to invite her. I wouldn't like
leaving someone out either, but if you can't enjoy your time together than what's the
point of all getting together? Maybe leaving her out on a few get together might help
sink in her head to stop interfering with what you believe. Another rule is to keep
religion out of the conversations. We have different beliefs and some of my family
don't believe in god so we keep religion out of the conversation. It does help.
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..tisha... November 27, 2009 01:19:00

.....I would have deadpanned with "God told me he doesn't like you."
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Miaka99: Plague Rat November 27, 2009 01:13:53

That Really Sucks. I know How You Feel. I'm Wiccan to, and have a very Religious Grandmother. And I also Want to be a psychiatrist ^___^ My Friend's Aunt Has a very Religious family also, and He and Her Children Are Wicca....needless to say her Family Doesn't Like it. XD But She's An Awesome Person cause she gives Me and My friend advice on any Wiccan things we need to know ^__^
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crinkle... to Miaka99... November 27, 2009 01:26:25

Sounds like a party! Haha. Also sounds like my life.... except your grandma and my aunt are switched. How do you deal with your grandma without being rude? I want a nice relationship with my aunt (I went to therapy for her!) and she's not helping at all...
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Miaka99... to crinkle... November 27, 2009 01:29:27

I don't See My Grandmother Much That's How I Deal With Her XD and If I do We Don't Talk Religion.
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crinkle... to Miaka99... November 27, 2009 01:31:23

Ahh, I tried that. My dad and aunt are a pain. Thanks for your response!
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corrinne November 27, 2009 01:09:04 (edited)

See, this is why nobody in my family is really sure of my religious beliefs. I just don't bring it up, and so the only thing they can do is guess. And it's great that you want to work as a psychiatrist. We might be meeting eachother someday, lol.
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crinkle... to corrinne November 27, 2009 01:12:24 (edited)

Haha. Its not my first choice, but when she brought it up, and I said it's interesting and I might take a degree in it, she said "Why would you want to work with mentally handicapped people?!". And I wanted to hide my religion, but my dad couldn't keep his big mouth shut. He likes to push people's buttons, and he dragged me into it.
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corrinne to crinkle... November 27, 2009 01:17:04

ah, I see. Yeah, I've always been interested in psychology. But people generally frown on an inmate running the aslyum. It's a shame that you got dragged into it. I'd like to tell my family my beliefs, but I hate drama and that's what would ensue if I said anything.
crinkle... to corrinne November 27, 2009 01:28:13

Yeah, really. But i don't think my dad really believes. I think he's just reliving his teenage years and trying to rebel against the family....which is kinda worse..

Ugh.
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corrinne to crinkle... November 27, 2009 01:41:35

Ennh... Sounds like your Thanksgiving was fun, lol.
crinkle... to corrinne November 27, 2009 01:49:35

Haha. Ohyeahtotally :/ *sarcasm*

EPIPHANY! Holyshit. Another thing in common! youre name is Corrinne....mine is Corina!
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corrinne to crinkle... November 27, 2009 01:57:33

Holy Hollyberries Batman! That's cool! ^_^
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lonewolf November 27, 2009 01:07:54

one should never force their reglion on others.
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crinkle... to lonewolf November 27, 2009 01:09:10

Thank you!

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