Why do people hate me just because I'm shy?

Same here. For some reason, I'm more outgoing if I am only talking to one person. I'm a lot more shy around groups of people.

Oh, that's really understandable. It's just that some people are so outgoing that they cannot understand. But don't worry, just be yourself. :)

Some times being quiet if good. That being said I do sympathize with you. I wish I knew what to say more often to start conversations and get the social ball rolling. Just me I suppose. One thing to remember is most people are more concerned with how 'they' are presenting themselves and how people look at them than care as much about how you or any other person in the room looks or acts.
That little info helped me a lot in social situations that I to often felt lost or in a near panic with.

Hope that helped.

If they hate you just because of that, they are not worth knowing.

Aw, I'm sorry honey. Some people just don't understand, and some unfortunately just don't care. People tend to pick out those who are different and tease them for it. It's hard to overcome shyness because there's so many different reasons for it. All I can say is try to focus on the kind of person you are. You're not ugly, you're not a freak, you're just you. All I can say is maybe try to talk to people online and work on your social skills. Once you make friends that way, it can help you build up your confidence and then maybe it'll be a little easier in public.
I mean, to me, it sounds like you have low self-esteem, which is really common in women, and it's hard to overcome. If you ever need someone to talk to though, feel free to message me. I know what it is to feel the way you do :) You're not alone sweetie.

Thank you.

I suspect you are still young and will learn self confidence as you experience more in life. It's ok to listen, you will learn a lot that way. I am quieter than most people too, I don't need to be the center of attention, I enjoy observing.
Try to remember that most people are concerned with their own appearance and how to impress others. Some compensate for insecurity by being loud.
You seem very nice. Don't force conversations, be yourself,
good people will allow you to do that. If they cannot accept who you are, they are not good friend material.

Katie
just relax, you know when it's safe to open up
remember what mother said "don't talk to strangers "
and then there's all that fraud artist fear
best thing to do is just be yourself, don't worry about how others are reacting to your nature
people don't hate you for being the way you are
people are taught to be rude when they don't get exactly what their expecting
people have a very hard time accepting peace in their lives
people are competing in a communication war

pat

Don't fret, If the people that you meet don't accept your shyness then they aren't your true friends to begin with and you should seek out real friends that accept your ways no matter what.
I don't hate you because to like or hate you I would have to get to know you and as of right now I don't. I do however accept your ways and perhaps on your ways we can build a friendship.

I feel your pain everything you said thats me...I am slowly learning to overcome that ..Look back into your childhood maybe its a bad experience you had when talking to someone maybe your parents told you not to talk to strangers..etc.......Just dont pay attencion to what other people think

I didn't have a bad experience or anything. There's a lot of reasons why I'm shy. I pay to much attention to what others think, and most of the time I don't know what to talk about.

People don't hate you because you're shy, You're shy because you think that people hate you. They really don't, but you put such a wall between yourself and them that they eventually give up trying to get through it, and go to someone else. That makes you even harder on yourself, and you build that wall even thicker and higher. You need to examine all the likeable things about yourself and concentrate on putting those on display so others can see them, and stop dwelling on all the things you don't like about yourself, so that maybe, other people will notice them less. There has to be something you like about yourself. a talent, a hobby, an interest- something you're good at- start with that! let other people see it, and get interested in you.

People may think you're conceited. Don't worry, quiet people observe more and understand others better. While others are busy shooting off their mouths, people like you are quietly absorbing. I would value your opinion much more so than some opinionated blabber mouth. You obviously are living among shallow people. You'll eventually find the right mix. I think there's a book out entitled something like: "The Introvert Advantage" or something like that. Maybe this will help you.

I don't hate you! Tell me who hates you, I'll bunch them in the eye!

u dont seem very shy
but yeah im not shy at home
when i get new friends and they come over there like wtf? y arent u like dis at school im just like idk
i normally stick to shy people thoe cuz its easier to talk to shy people then loud people

you can't hate someone for being shy...you just simply ignore them because they figuratively aren't there

Thers an old song.I Forget its name.But the Closest I can find it a Hank Williams jr. talking about---If You Don't Like Hanh Williams,You can Kiss My Arse...

don´t think to much about those people. you are who you are and no one should change this just be who you are

It`s all about tolerence, in any relationship with other people, but when we spite we have a level of tolerence,as people have a little wiggle room with that some more or less than others. This is also created with bonding over a period of time as comfort levels increase with trust...

No one hates you, they just are unable to relate to you, they don't have the communication skills yet..I was a shy kid also...you just have to find where you shine...then others will find a way to relate to you...you're going to be just fine...

I doubt they hate you. But it is possible that it is hard for them to understand you because they are such social butterflies.....

don't worry..I'm just like you...i just don't care what people think about me...i suppose that with your friends you're not shy, isn't? you should just don't give a shit about people's opinion and try to be confident in yourself

I used to have that problem but i learned to come out of my shell. Dont feel intimidated by people because they are no better than you. People dont hate you, they just think that by you not talking as much as they are, you are hiding something or thinking that you hate them. Its a hard thing to overcome! I use to ask myself what was wrong with me. I cant think of anything to say sometimes and thats fine! But if someone is talking about something your interested in, feel free to jump in and speak up!

Same reason those same ppl probably hate me cuz I'm bold! They dislike themselves so they look for reasons to dislike others.

No, it attracts!!!! you're like the backdoor porch light and I'm a moth!!! beating my head at the light bulb!! boing!! boing!! boing!! Ouch!!! :)

lol - well my apologies - I hope I didn't cause a concussion or that my bulb hasn't blinded you to the reality that in just another opinionated idiot on SH.

I may not respond to all of your posts, but I do read quite a few...I enjoy them alot...and for the concussion...I man up and take a tylenol and I'm good to go!!! :) Now go and kick some butt!!! :)

Sometimes feel that is overbearing and it makes them feel uncomfortable...

Why would you give a damn about folks who "hate" you for not talking? I think you are hyper-sensitive about how people will react to you and so you don't act. When you constantly worry about what everyone will think, you cannot be your authentic self.

If there really are people who dislike you for being shy then they are shallow and not worth your time and concern. There are lots of great people on this planet; don't waste any of your life on the hateful and/or shallow people.

I think that your overeacting and nobody hates you.If you have trouble speaking up then do as I do.Look them in the face and nod your head a few times.At least they will think that your in the conversation.Just do that and smile.They won't give it a second thought.They are probaly too busy with themselves anyway. Personally,I love a quite woman,they are rare indeed.

I have a social anxiety which I have been working on for years. I have a slight stuttering problem that gets worse when I think about it or if I am put in a position where I have to recall events that may have happened a while ago.

In either case I tend to worry to much about things and think to much. I have found that it is best to say "F#*# IT!!" ;o) ...

Nothing is worth being to overly shy about or worried about. However, if you are shy there is nothing wrong with that if it is purely for the sake of being shy.

One big vicious circle ... :( for me it used to be......

I wouldn't say that I'm that bad. I just have a low self esteem and I don't have many good conversation starters. I'm sorry that you have social anxiety disorder, that must be horrible... I'm not sure if I have social anxiety disorder, but I know that I'm definitely not a loud person.

well mine is much more under control now.. (without meds) ;)

I used to be the same way. All the kids thought I was an antisocial weirdo, but really I just like to "scope out" people before I talked to them to see if they were even people I wanted to talk to. Most of them weren't, so I was quiet a lot. Nowadays, I'm a lot more extroverted. I got things to say, dammit!

i feel the same! and idk people dont understand i guess

If anyone on here can belive i am quite shy.. i've gained alot of confidence by doing things outside of school an work expericence. If people you know are having a conversation join in contribute an more people will notice you, from the start of my school i was shy as ever, now i'm one of the loudest people of my friends, yet still can be a bit shy..

I know how you feel. I'm the same way.