Why do people hate me just because I'm shy?

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

Borrowed from http://www.carlkingdom.com/10...

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Wow, I know exactly how you feel. I mean, it feels like I'm the only one in my entire school who just doesn't talk as much as others do. I also don't talk loud which seems to upset my family(especially my twin sister). She likes to put me down and tell me that I make conversations awkward when people have to say, "WHAT?" or "HUH???" for them to hear me, but that's usually just when it's really loud in a room or something like that. I also find it extremely annoying when people ask me why I'm so quiet. I get that question at least ten to twenty times each school year. Now before I give you my strongest advice, I have to tell you that I'm in marching band. And in marching band you HAVE to SPEAK up in order to survive. So, today I went to marching camp, which band members have to go to during the summer. Of course, new freshmen come in every year and we pretty much have to relearn how to march every single stinkin year. So first we have to break it up to properly learn how to do the marching technique. And while doing this we must yell at the top of our lungs, "FIVE AND SIX!! AND PEAL TWO THREE FOUR TILT TWO THREE FOUR TOUCH TWO THREE FOUR!!!!" and that's only the beginning. Well anyways, I was challenged today to be louder that this hilarious and obnoxious senior(I'm a sophomore). I excepted the challenge and I was louder than her. I had to go waaaaaay out of my comfort zone for this. I thought that I would only make a fool of myself, but when we were done, everybody was all happy and my opponent, who I knew quite well, gave me a big old hug. Surprisingly, I gained so much confidence from that and wasn't afraid to step out of my comfort zone for the rest of the rehearsal. My best advice would have to be, smile a lot, enjoy life, and stop worrying about what other people think. It will also be beneficial to get involved in something because when your with a group of people who enjoy doing the same thing as you do, the hate sorta just melts away. Also, don't be insecure about the way your voice sounds. I used to because I have a real heavy southern accent that sounds deeper that other girls voices. But that's just how my voice is and no one can change that about me. People can't just hate you because of that, and if they do then they are stupid.

I'm shy too but only with people I'm not comfortable with like strangers. I know its annoying when people ask those kind of questions too...Its just life, I guess. There is so many people in the world, if these ignorant idiots don't appreciate you, go talk to someone else, there is an equal chance for them to like you or dislike you. "Hate" is a really strong word...I don't hate anyone but of course there are people I don't like ( the loud, bitchy, ignorant type of people) and the same goes for me, I know some people hate me. They just don't understand you, your personality clash and they may not find you approachable. Some people give off a " Don't come near me" vibe and then others would just back off.
I had a "friend" who I met 3 years ago and we got on well for the first year but after an argument, I realized she hated me and that she only used me because she had no friends at that time....but now she is really popular. I got really hurt and upset and acted bitchy too but i realized i was wrong so i apologized....she told me we can't be friends but we can try get along but the next day I heard her laugh her head off in the toilets in school. We never got along together after that but she had to continue to be a bitch and badmouth me on Facebook. But!...thanks to her, I found out who are my friends and who are the liars. Its life. Not all people are going to like you but I believe sometime in life I will meet so lifetime friends that I will be able to lean on, so can you! Come out of your shell and smile to the haters and say " Its your loss that we can't be friends".

They are just ignorant! You are wise! You just have to believe it!!!!!! Become wiser! Don't let anyone get to you! They came into the world the same way you did. Love them no matter what though. We all perceive things differently.
I went through all that for the longest time! Stick to your guns and love yourself no matter what. Don't try to hard to fit in. I am 40 years old now. I haven't been told that I was quiet in a long time, but I do remember getting sooooo overwhelmed by it. It's like you just want it to go away. Believe me, you are making a mountain out of a mole hill. I remember thinking, this is crazy and I will never change, until I went to a wonderful duel diagnosis rehab. I ended up on drugs because of my low self-esteem. I was taught Dialectical Behavior Therapy. I saw miracles happen. Not supper natural ones, but I am sure because of my faith, there was divine intervention there.

I think some (quiet) people just have a mellower way about them and the loud people don't understand and combine that with having low self-esteem, from everyone making a big deal out of your quietness, instead of being like ADULTS, they like to make them selves feel superior, but they are not. At, least not in the real world. I brought that into my adult life. I am not an expert, but I think there are more kids out there that suffer from this, but in different degrees, depending on their environment growing up.

My dad was an alcoholic and mother had mental issues. I was practically left to figure out life on my own. My dad made broken promises to me and my twin sister and my mother never validated our feelings and ideas. It was like competition all the time. My sister had the same experience too. I think I took it harder.

Anyway, like I said, I am 40 now and I went to rehab and had Dialectical Behavioral Treatment and they taught me to love myself. Truly, love myself.

I will give you a couple things to practice that I had learned there.

1)Take baby steps to confront your fears. When you confront them, they do go away. Use a scale from 1-5 and measure your anxiety when around people. If you start to feel like a 4, back off and don't push yourself.
2)Write 10 positive affirmations about yourself everyday. Don't say, example, "I am getting better." Instead say, "I am better". I swear the more you do this, you will believe it about yourself and you will really like yourself and the constant consiousness (?) that you feel about other people will go away.
3) Write 5 things you are grateful for everyday.
4)Get this book, The 4 Agreements and meditate on it.
5)Practice being in the moment. Listen to you lungs as they are the only part of your body that exists and breath deep in through your nose and out your mouth.

Always tell yourself, "I am worthy!", "I am loved" and "I forgive myself!"

Who cares what people think. If you read the 4 Agreements and practice, practice, practice the Agreements, you will be on your way to loving you and not giving a crap what anyone thinks.

I used to hate when I heard people talking in a group and I was by myself. I would think they were gossiping about me! No!
Now, I think it's funny when people do it, because they think they are all cool and I don't let it hurt me anymore. Why let people's "WORDS", hurt you?

I believe in you and you should too!!!!

Give me an Amen! LOL!!!!

Pam : )