Why are there so many haters of people who are gay or lesbian?

I admire your passion but not your logic my friend. Calling something a sin is not "hate" it is simply a statement of something one believes to be a fact such as stating the chair I am sitting on has four legs or that stating water is wet. Now any statement may be correct, partly correct or incorrect and of course some statements are more difficult to prove than others.

I would also point out to you that hating a sin is not the same as hating the person who commits the sin. Let's look for example at Jesus. Jesus did not condemn the woman taken in adultery. Does that mean that adultery is not a sin? No, Jesus made clear that adultery is indeed a sin. Did Jesus hate the woman taken in adultery? Again no. We know from other portions of Scripture that Jesus hated no one. What Jesus hated was sin. Let me ask you if you had a child and that child stole something from a store would that be a sin? Most people would answer yes, depending upon how old this child was it was probably a sin to take something from the store that belonged to the store without paying for it. Now would you hate the child? Most people would answer no they would not hate the child even though the child committed the sin of theft.

You claim that homosexuality is not a choice and I agree with you. But it isn't attraction that some claim to be a sin it is same sex sex which is an action. Those who make the claim that same sex sex is sinful do so mainly due to two reasons 1) The Scriptural Record 2) Holy Tradition. There are portions of Scripture that seem to declare that same sex sex is sinful. Recently some scholars have questioned whether these portions of Scripture are correctly translated and understood but regardless that is why most people who are Christians believe what they do about same sex sex.

As Christians our duty is to spread the good news of the Gospel. Part of that good news is that we are sinners, and as sinners we are separated from God. Whether same sex sex is a sin or not will be debated I am sure for far more years than either of us has left on this planet. What is important is our behavior. We as Christians are called to treat all with love. We are called to share the truth with love. We are even called to love those that would be considered our enemies, even to the point of death. St. Stephen prayed that those who were killing him would be forgiven, we are called to do no less. So pointing out sin is necessary but should always be done with love and kindness and with the goal of bringing one to repentance and reconciliation with the Father. If one does not understand that they are lost it is unlikely that they will understand their need to be found. If one does not understand their sin it is unlikely they will understand their need for forgiveness.

Unfortunately we live in a world in which sharing the truth in love and because of love of God and neighbor is the exception as opposed to the rule.

I pray this bit of rambling has helped your understanding a bit.

Blessings Upon You