Why are some people more successful than others?
Dwight-AFCL>dogsbody
2012/07/05 16:18:03
There is much argument over this question today, and it has a many facets as a diamond. I have a personal metaphore that I've been tossing around for years and I want to share it for discussion. It's hardly perfect, and leaves out those who obviously have advantages involving family wealth and possition. I don't even try to factor those in my theory.
Mostly I have just concerned myself with those who manage to rise from humble or modest means because, let's face it, people like the Kennedy and Rockerfellers manage to give their ofspring and advantage beyond natural tallent. Even a fairly casual study of history will show that family wealth is transitory, meaning it both increases and declines with time and the abilities of those who inherit and wheither they manage or squander.
My theory is simple. Picture children learning to color. Watch them and you will see four distinct groups of differing size. You can subdivide these groups if you want, I don't think it will matter much.
1) A few learn quickly to color inside the lines. Even her there is some difference, but they learn quicker than othersto color with skill.
2) The next group is larger and can easily be subdivided if we want. this group lears slower than the first to stay within the lines, and a good portion takes time to develope the skill. But being willing to work at it these children learn with variable difficulty how to do the job well.
3)The third group just can't. For whatever reason, mental or physical handicap, this group will never develope the motor control, or perspective to be successful "colorers".
4) The forth group is the problem group, IMO. This groupe can be equally draw from children who Should be in either of the first two groupes. They are intelligent and able. They have no handicap, at least that's not self imposed. They simply choose to not bother learning to "color". This groupe is the whinners, the ones who most likely will develope the habit of blaming all their failures on someone else, wheither anothers lack of concern or anothers unwillingness to "share' what they have accumilated.
i don't claim that my metaphor is perfect, and I'm willing to hear critisim. I hope you'll share this post and generate some discussion on the subject of individual success.
Mostly I have just concerned myself with those who manage to rise from humble or modest means because, let's face it, people like the Kennedy and Rockerfellers manage to give their ofspring and advantage beyond natural tallent. Even a fairly casual study of history will show that family wealth is transitory, meaning it both increases and declines with time and the abilities of those who inherit and wheither they manage or squander.
My theory is simple. Picture children learning to color. Watch them and you will see four distinct groups of differing size. You can subdivide these groups if you want, I don't think it will matter much.
1) A few learn quickly to color inside the lines. Even her there is some difference, but they learn quicker than othersto color with skill.
2) The next group is larger and can easily be subdivided if we want. this group lears slower than the first to stay within the lines, and a good portion takes time to develope the skill. But being willing to work at it these children learn with variable difficulty how to do the job well.
3)The third group just can't. For whatever reason, mental or physical handicap, this group will never develope the motor control, or perspective to be successful "colorers".
4) The forth group is the problem group, IMO. This groupe can be equally draw from children who Should be in either of the first two groupes. They are intelligent and able. They have no handicap, at least that's not self imposed. They simply choose to not bother learning to "color". This groupe is the whinners, the ones who most likely will develope the habit of blaming all their failures on someone else, wheither anothers lack of concern or anothers unwillingness to "share' what they have accumilated.
i don't claim that my metaphor is perfect, and I'm willing to hear critisim. I hope you'll share this post and generate some discussion on the subject of individual success.
that is decent and beneficial to humanity.
success is about risk, it is about hard work, it is about dedication and accountibility. Some is predicated upon who you know and perhaps rich kids are introduced to family friends that offer them opportunities we have to struggle for.
There is nothing stopping the avarage guy from working hard or from networking.