Who told you life was fair and someone owed you something?

by Gracie - Proud Conservative Posted 2012/08/10 01:35:49

Related Topics: parents, Time, Father, Born, Living, 50 Years, Fair, Home, Envy

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My father was from a very early era compared to my friend's parents. He was 53 when I was born and by the time I left home he had had children living at home for a whopping 50 years! We were taught that life was what you made it, it was your choice and you lived and died by those choices. Bad things happen to good people and good things can happen to bad people. Life isn't fair and no one owes you anything. If you want something or want to be something, you go for it and you achieve it. Don't envy what others have that you weren't willing to work for. I thought that was the message from all responsible parents but either they've forgotten it or were never taught it.

So, is that what you were taught and if not, how is it wrong?

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MR. 2012/08/10 04:07:16

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*IF ANYONE WILL NOT WORK, NEITHER SHALL HE EAT *(2 THESS. 3:10) NKJV.
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mikeeonly 2012/08/12 13:42:34

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I don't feel anyone owes me anything. the views of our parents, at least as I've found out, were narrow minded and judgemental

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Gracie ... to mikeeonly 2012/08/12 16:57:06

I think their views are more relevant than ever, at least mine.

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KAREN JAMES 2012/08/12 03:05:05

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After complaining to my father about my mother, he told me "You get the parents you get, but the ones you might want. You just get what you get."

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Gracie ... to KAREN J... 2012/08/12 03:12:34

I like that!

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rightside 2012/08/12 02:41:25

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When we farmed, you couldn't take a day off. Everything had to be fed and cows had to be milked and when the cherries were ripe, you had to pick them right then. Hay had to be cut and baled at a certain time.
You couldn't put it off.
We didn't get a paid vacation. If you didn't work you didn't get paid. That should be everybody's mentality.
When my mom wasn't working on the farm, she drove school bus. My dad was in Viet Nam. Twice.
I picked fruit for my school clothes and mowed orchards.
Life was only fair if you did your fair share! Someone only owed me something when I worked for them.
That's the way life should be.

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Gracie ... to rightside 2012/08/12 02:44:29

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AMEN!

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mae 2012/08/11 22:31:29

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Nobody. I was told the opposite by my best friend's father who was an orthopedic surgeon, in the 6th grade while discussing how unfair it was for a particular group of girls in our class to be continually picked to fill class govrnment postions, cheerleading positions, etc. Another of my best friends, her father-a veternarian- told us the same thing later in the same week. We were lucky to have heard this from educated adults who impressed on us the value of a good education in leveling the playing field. We all got the message.

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Dan (Politicaly Incorrect) 2012/08/11 21:56:49

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That's in the imaginary Liberal Social Contract.

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Monkey D. Luffy 2012/08/11 14:26:46

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My dad says the same thing..He can only help me in some matters but eventually, I have to walk alone..I think the only person who owes me is myself..I need to take care of myself, my needs, my wants, my whims..and my success and my failure, I'm responsible for it all..Then I need to teach my kids that :)

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Matt 2012/08/11 09:15:20

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Our elected officials owe us representation. We are not getting it.

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Soundstorm 2012/08/11 06:48:10

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I don't want life to be a bowl of cherries. They're too tangy and noisy for my taste buds.

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WhereIsAmerica? ~PWCM~JLA 2012/08/11 05:08:23

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The entitlement mentality is killing the USA, literally.

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rightside to WhereIs... 2012/08/12 02:42:30

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Yes!

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Alex 2012/08/11 03:28:51

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Barack Obama.

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nails 2012/08/11 02:22:32

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Obama has been tellin people that for three year's and seven months now.No one ever
told me them words when I was comming up.

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pbunny 2012/08/10 23:02:22

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It is not wrong Those are American values. This new message of hope and change has been passed around before by every dictator who ever manged to bamboozle the people. Only the very pathetic ones fall for it only to be crushed under the heel of the person they thought would save them.

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☆ Queen... to pbunny 2012/08/11 00:46:51

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well said pbunny

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pbunny to ☆ Queen... 2012/08/13 00:13:52

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Thank you.

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mich52 2012/08/10 21:59:52

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Life isn't fair and never will be.
But we do try to take care of our own citizens..

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Gracie ... to mich52 2012/08/10 22:02:57

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Do you mean, "we try and make the successful take care of the failures"? We do need to take care of those who truly cannot take care of themselves. However, we need to stop taking care of people who choose not to try.

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mich52 to Gracie ... 2012/08/10 23:09:43

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Still having comprehension issues I see....

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Gracie ... to mich52 2012/08/10 23:22:31

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I'm not really in the mood for the personal insults. State your opinion or move on.

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mich52 to Gracie ... 2012/08/10 23:49:46

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Simple answer, did I say this?
"Do you mean, "we try and make the successful take care of the failures"?

NO

I said this
Life isn't fair and never will be.
But we do try to take care of our own citizens..

And I'm not in the mood to play your stupid games.

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Gracie ... to mich52 2012/08/11 00:34:46

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And my question to you is by what means do we take care of our citizens? That could mean any number of things and the insult wasn't necessary.

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mich52 to Gracie ... 2012/08/11 04:27:24

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I don't consider saying "you were having Comprehension issues" an inslut and I explained why already too...

This isn't true;
"we try and make the successful take care of the failures"?
That in itself is offensive..

EVERY taxpayer pays take care of our poor, etc..
The Wealthy pay a lower percent then most middle-class in taxes..

So are we playing games again.

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Gracie ... to mich52 2012/08/12 01:51:07

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We have an "INCOME TAX" not a wealth tax.

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mich52 to Gracie ... 2012/08/12 02:26:35

Where did I ever say we had a wealth tax?

I didn't!

I said:
"The Wealthy pay a lower percent then most middle-class in taxes.. "

I won't say what I should to be polite to you.. Try the same and not insult my intelligence with stupid crap..

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HOMBRE to mich52 2012/08/11 00:36:47

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On someone else's money of course

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mich52 to HOMBRE 2012/08/11 04:28:39
HOMBRE to mich52 2012/08/11 04:38:19

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Until the money gone

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mich52 to HOMBRE 2012/08/11 06:54:04

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Its been going on for 30 years and right know you want to fix it..
Great stupid idea.

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dallasjoe 2012/08/10 20:49:54

just One Question One mom for all you Kids or did he just trade her in for a Newer model?

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Gracie ... to dallasjoe 2012/08/10 21:15:09

It was his second wife, she was 17 years younger than him. He didn't trade his first one in, she left him with all five of his kids. She was caaarazy!

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dallasjoe to Gracie ... 2012/08/10 21:25:14

so the second was a Civil Union

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Gracie ... to dallasjoe 2012/08/10 21:27:34

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I'm not going there with you again. If you don't have anything of value to say, go away.

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AdLib 2012/08/10 20:41:21

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One in 7 people in the US are "Working Poor." Please explain that.

Being sanctimonious will not solve the problem.

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ComeOnNow to AdLib 2012/08/10 20:54:30

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Maybe the government should stop beating up on businesses and investors so that they have more opportunity. They could also always improve their skill set. That typically works as well. Blaming others never does it.

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Gracie ... to AdLib 2012/08/10 21:17:42

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I bet a quick glance at their decisions would clear that all up for you. To escape poverty you need to finish high school, don't have children before you're 19 and married. That's all you have to do, but should you screw up before that, you can always have a second, third and unlimited chances to do better. You do have to want to do better. Our poor in America are the world's rich. Our poor have things I never had growing up.

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dallasjoe to AdLib 2012/08/10 21:26:51

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i agree with you US only Industrial nation that does not have nationized health care UK JAPAN FRANCE ITALY AUSTRAILIA and ONLY nation with no set by law Vacation time We are slaves to the Capitalists

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rightside to dallasjoe 2012/08/12 02:45:31

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Oh sure, If you sit on your butt and expect things.

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