Should a man be required to continue paying alimony to his ex-wife after the ex-wife has a sex change operation?

Boopie 2007/03/28 20:33:06
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Lawrence Roach (of Florida) and his wife Julia divorced in 2004, after 18 years of marriage. Lawrence agreed to pay $1,250 a month in alimony to Julia, until she dies or remarries.

Since then, Julia underwent a sex change, and legally changed her name to Julio Roberto Silverwolf.

Attorneys for Lawrence argue that the obligation to pay Julia alimony should end, because Lawrence agreed to pay alimony to the woman he divorced, not the man she became after the sex change.

"It's illegal for a man to marry a man and it should likewise be illegal for a man to pay alimony to a man," said John McGuire, one of Roach's attorneys. "When she changed to man, I believe she terminated that alimony."

A lawyer for Silverwolf, Gregory Nevins, said the language of the divorce decree is clear and firm. The operation doesn't alter the agreement.

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  • BRADY969 2007/05/20 01:50:15
    If I have to pay....he should have to pay! I don't care if his ex grew a dick or not! All that should mean is his ex will spend that money on electronics now and not shoes!

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  • Carole 2008/03/18 01:32:43
  • Roxie 2008/03/13 11:25:25
    It would be the same if reversed
  • VotedRight - CENTRIST 2008/03/11 21:33:11
    VotedRight - CENTRIST
    Obviously the wife had deep seated sexual identity issues, which could not of cropped up over night but rather during her entire adult sexual life. Therefore, she falsely entered into a heterosexual union with this man who unknowingly married her......that would of been my line of defense against the his Ex.
  • josodf 2008/03/09 14:23:24
    Since Julie/Julio underwent a sex change one would wonder how sincere she/he may have been in any attempt to "work through" a troubled marriage if her/his feelings to make such a drastic change were so strong..... I believe that alone would be strong grounds for arguement in Lawrence's behalf.
  • Space Kitty 2008/01/14 01:08:09
    Space Kitty
    Its till te same person who was married just Chance I Agree!
  • mrsmagoo777 2007/12/22 00:05:23
    I think alimony is ridiculous anyway. Why is it that you no longer love someone, but still expect them to pay your way through life? get on with your life, and let them get on with theirs. Also why should the guy pay?It seems he obviously paid for the operation...so not fair!!!
    If my man and I split, I would take his money for the kids, but only until they could pay their own way, but not for my personal use.I have too much pride in myself to continue taking his money after we split up.
  • Scott W 2007/12/19 21:58:27
    Scott W
    She should have to pay him for pretending to be a wife all those years.
  • dogs voice 2007/11/08 20:49:17
    dogs voice
    It just ain't right!
  • AngelEyes 2007/09/13 15:21:40
    I think that the only time an ex should get any kind of money is if they have had kids together, then you pay child support, for alimony, get you butt up off the sofa, get a job and be a man/woman, that is what is wrong witht he world today, nobody wants to do for themselves. The kids are the ones that pay for the adults and their stupid mistakes. They did not ask to be brought into this world so be a man/woman and take care of your kids.
  • Smokey 2007/08/31 18:00:24
    I don't think that alimony should be an automatic type of thing. It should be case by case.

  • Randall 2007/08/28 04:07:10
    If she has the money for that operation, then she does not need the alimony
  • the vin-man 2007/08/12 08:48:25 (edited)
    the vin-man
    She is now a he.Since the beginning of time the "he's" have been getting the short end of the stick in most divorces,and he should be no exception. Welcome to the club,dude.
  • Wolfman 2007/07/29 03:35:18 (edited)
    I don't agree with long-term alimony in a lot of cases, but yes, he should have to cont. paying if he agreed to it originally. Personal decisions she made after the fact shouldn't negate that. BUT if HE were to get a sex change...could he ASK for alimony???
  • Derek 2007/07/24 06:46:51
  • BRADY969 2007/05/20 01:50:15
    If I have to pay....he should have to pay! I don't care if his ex grew a dick or not! All that should mean is his ex will spend that money on electronics now and not shoes!
  • Sajama BRADY969 2007/07/19 05:03:38
  • Ozzy 2007/05/18 12:22:31
    the alimony would be for her to continue the lifestyle they had together but if she is now a he, he should be able to provide his own lifestyle.
  • kimmpossiable 2007/04/28 02:18:46
  • Roni 2007/04/25 16:12:57
    Because she is not his ex wife in the sense that a wife is a woman and she is no longer a woman.
  • tmr 2007/04/24 17:47:18
    She/he is not the person he married. This "man" can take care of himself.
  • US 2007/04/20 12:48:26
  • Uncle 2007/04/17 19:19:12
    Hell no get a job and move on. Your a big scum if your collecting money from some one unless it is for your kid(s). How ever he got his money it's his and you need to get your sorry ass a job or anothe man. Alimony is a joke.
  • Curious E 2007/04/15 06:27:55
    Curious E
    Why reward the freak???
  • Orianne D'Ychem 2007/04/03 14:34:57
    Orianne D'Ychem
    This counts for me like terms of employment. If you cannot be forced to wear a uniform if you weren't required to when you took a job, you should not have to pay out to a legally different person than you married, and this should include major differences in status like becomming employed/unemployed or remarrying.
  • Rudai 2007/04/02 22:26:59
    See what the judge said: http://www.miamiherald.com/772/story/55287.html
  • Poacher 2007/03/31 08:00:28
    Hey if he had known that was going to happen, he wouldn't have signed the papers....two men married have all sorts of rights these days.
  • yosefa 2007/03/29 05:13:26
    The husband should pay the alimony. In the future men that will seek a divorce will add a clause that will free him from paying alimony to a wife that will have a sex chanegd.
  • Orianne... yosefa 2007/04/03 14:36:32
    Orianne D'Ychem
    Sometimes a person marries knowing their partner had gender issues. If they are prepared to accept a transvestite, should they be prepared to accept a transsexual? Just a devil's advocate question...
  • Boopie 2007/03/29 04:02:32
    It's an interesting argument, but the husband entered into a legally binding agreement with his ex to pay alimony until the ex's remarriage or death. He therefore assumed the risk that the ex would never remarry, and that he would be on the hook to pay lifetime support. The transsexual is still the same person, but with a different name and identity.
  • Tammy 2007/03/28 22:17:06
    But they should go on Jerry Springer to fight it out.
  • Arbutus Punch 2007/03/28 21:34:23
    Arbutus Punch
    This is where his alimony money is going?
  • OMG itz IRENE 2007/03/28 20:46:17
    OMG itz IRENE
    Nice try by the attorneys, but I don't think that's enough to get him out of his agreement. He'll have to wait until his spouse either remarries or dies to get out of alimony.

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