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PUBLIC OPINION > Victims of 'Surprise STDs' Should Not Get Compensation

News 2012/06/08 13:00:00
The media recently reported on a 49-year-old woman who received genital herpes from a 69-year-old man she met on eHarmony. The woman won $900,000 in court after convincing the judge that the man did not tell her about his disease, and aggressively refused to put on a condom. We wanted to know what the public thought about "surprise STDs."



The overall vote was enough to make a judgement call, but it was close and controversial. One reason it was so controversial is because the situation is inherently vague. Even in the case cited above, it's very unclear what the actual circumstances were. If the defendant was aggressive enough to refuse a condom, why wasn't it called "rape"? Should that even matter? What if a victim lies about being informed, just to make a profit? There are a lot of variables.

Conservatives Dismiss the Court

The only demographic to play a major role in this issue was politics, and you can probably guess the outcome: Liberals were keen on punishment, while conservatives were quick to dismiss the court. The primary argument against punishing people who spread STDs without warning is that the victim had a certain level of responsibility, as well -- assuming, of course, it wasn't rape.

Teens Know to Use Protection

The age breakdown was interesting. Teens were the most likely to deny compensation, probably because they're still going through sex ed and know just how important protection is. However, support for compensation formed a sort of bell curve, peaking at the 25-34 range, probably about the age skimping on protection becomes the most tempting.

Men Are More Likely to Punish

We were curious to see if gender affected the results -- maybe women would be more likely to sympathize with the victim in this particular case. But there was hardly any difference at all, and the difference that did exist was the exact opposite. Women were a little bit more likely to let the defendant off the hook.

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  • Amelia 2012/06/08 16:16:02
    Amelia
    +9
    No. sorry you slept with him, you dealt with the STD. If he said no condom, you best get out of that bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • sundance Thom Payne 2012/06/10 08:49:28
    sundance
    He isn't saying that sex out of wedlock is wrong. He is saying that sex without a condom, especially with someone who's sexual history is a mystery, is stupid....Just a thought...
  • Thom Payne sundance 2012/06/11 18:54:45
    Thom Payne
    I am sure that it came up before intimacy and that he left out that one little thing...
  • sundance Thom Payne 2012/06/11 20:45:28
    sundance
    +1
    So.....And this little tidbit called personal responsibility, has no bearing in this at all? By the way. You cant get more or less responsible. Responsibility is a binary idea. So, to that truth, they are both "equally" responsible....Just a thought....
  • Thom Payne sundance 2012/06/11 21:04:17
    Thom Payne
    So, they man bears NO responsibility for knowingly exposing her to herpes?
  • sundance Thom Payne 2012/06/12 04:35:40
    sundance
    +1
    Oh hell yea he does. You bet. However, as I stated earlier, responsibility is the device by which both parties protect themselves. Give up responsibility, and give up protection. This is not an alien idea. This is logic...Just a thought...
  • Thom Payne sundance 2012/06/12 16:37:15
    Thom Payne
    Okay, so they BOTH agreed to have unprotected sex, but HE had the infection and he KNEW it.

    She learned a lesson. What, then, should HE be taught?
  • sash 2012/06/08 16:57:07
    sash
    +4
    Having unprotected sex with someone you hooked up with online? Who would have thought that was a bad idea?
  • Thom Payne sash 2012/06/08 17:18:54
    Thom Payne
    It was eHarmony....and they screen their people as best possible...and it was the fourth date, not a one night stand.
  • sundance Thom Payne 2012/06/09 09:25:15
    sundance
    Wow, fourth date? I have read several of your posts and I have one little fundemental question. What part of "they" had sex, did you miss? What part of "they" had unprotected sex, did you miss? What part of "they" now have an STD, did you miss? I have no desire to start the whole religious thing (though I am more than informed), but your overlooking the obvious here. What "they" did, according to the Bible, God, Jesus, the freakin Pope, and every religious leader on earth (except Jerry Falwell), was a sin, pure and simple. So, as I see it, maybe we are witnessing devine intervention at its finest. Did God not give us free will? Did they not exersice that free will? Did they not pay the price?.......Tag, your it
  • Thom Payne sundance 2012/06/11 18:55:49
    Thom Payne
    They had sex, yes. He knew he had an STD and not only didn't bother telling her but was aggressive about having sex without a condom.

    How is it that you can still blame her?
  • sundance Thom Payne 2012/06/11 20:46:38
    sundance
    BECAUSE GENIUS....SHE DIDNT SAY NO.....
  • Thom Payne sundance 2012/06/11 21:04:42
    Thom Payne
    She didn't have all the facts, either.
  • sundance Thom Payne 2012/06/12 04:42:52 (edited)
  • Thom Payne sundance 2012/06/12 16:38:21
    Thom Payne
    Realistically, he should have told her - one of their first conversations, as a matter of fact.

    When they spoke about kids, it should have been the first thing out of his mouth.
  • sundance Thom Payne 2012/06/12 19:18:12
  • john n Thom Payne 2012/06/09 16:36:07
    john n
    +1
    He had four chances to tell her but decided not to. He deserved the judgment even though she is a fool...
  • Thom Payne john n 2012/06/11 18:56:04
    Thom Payne
    +1
    Exactly
  • sundance john n 2012/06/12 19:20:21
    sundance
    +1
    She had one chance to avoid the entire scenario, when he refused to use protection. Big bell and red flag, and she "chose" to ignore....Just a thought...
  • sash Thom Payne 2012/06/19 20:14:49
    sash
    A co-workers sister met her boyfriend on eharmony too, he was physically abusive. You can meet someone anywhere that is a seemingly decent person and they can be a monster. The bottom line is you can't know someone after 4 dates, especially someone you meet online...you don't know any of their friends or family or anything about their life other than what they tell you. It's a mistake so many people make, but if you willingly have unprotected sex, then you better be ready to deal with the consequences and be accountable for what was ultimately your poor judgement.
  • Gracie ... sash 2012/06/08 17:46:35
    Gracie ~Gun Totin' Gracie~
    Right you are!
  • john n sash 2012/06/09 16:32:36
    john n
    A++
  • ..tisha... 2012/06/08 16:38:26
    ..tisha...
    +6
    "surprise stds?" what kind of STD is welcomed? I would hope most adults would know that if you don't use protection, you may get an STD- there shouldn't be a reason to be surprised about it- or to be compensated as well. So what if he knew he had Herpes and didn't tell her, if he aggressively refused to use a condom, then she should have aggressively refused to continue with it.
  • J ..tisha... 2012/06/08 18:11:23
    J
    +1
    Perfectly stated!!!
  • john n ..tisha... 2012/06/09 16:37:11
    john n
    A++
  • Amelia 2012/06/08 16:16:02
    Amelia
    +9
    No. sorry you slept with him, you dealt with the STD. If he said no condom, you best get out of that bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • sundance Amelia 2012/06/09 01:57:02
    sundance
    +3
    Sounds like logic knocking. Might want to listen. Well put Amelia.....
  • Sheila 2012/06/08 16:14:38
    Sheila
    +2
    From the person sure. Sue away. Public funds? HELL NO.
  • Christo... Sheila 2012/06/08 16:42:39
    Christopher Kirchen
    +1
    Either way the public pays for it; who do you think funds the court system?
  • Sheila Christo... 2012/06/08 16:51:39
    Sheila
    In civil court? The loser!
  • Thom Payne Christo... 2012/06/08 17:16:48
    Thom Payne
    In this case it would be the losing party. His homeowners insurance will pick up part of the tab, and you can bet your last dollar that the award was appealed and will be significantly reduced before any final settlement is arranged.
  • John Hall 2012/06/08 14:35:34
    John Hall
    +1
    if one of these people got a std from someone who said they didnt have one when they really did they would change there mind .
  • sash John Hall 2012/06/08 16:58:33
    sash
    +1
    Not everyone has unprotected sex with a random online hook up.
  • john n sash 2012/06/09 16:38:53
    john n
    Never have and never will...
  • sundance sash 2012/06/12 19:21:51
    sundance
    Avoid the whole thing and go meet real people....Just a thought....

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