My 14 year old wants to read the satanic bible, should i let her?

by chris. Posted 2012/08/03 08:45:33

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		ignore it, and this, too, shall pass
		tell her in no uncertain terms that i strongly disapprove and it is forbidden until shes an adult.
		let her read it and hope for the best
		force my religious views on her
		shame her into not reading it
		Undecided (Please leave a comment)
		None of the above (Please leave a comment)

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	ignore it, and this, too, shall pass	1 vote	3%
	tell her in no uncertain terms that i strongly disapprove and it is forbidden until shes an adult.	4 votes	10%
	let her read it and hope for the best	12 votes	31%
	force my religious views on her	0 votes	0%
	shame her into not reading it	0 votes	0%
	Undecided	6 votes	15%
	None of the above	16 votes	41%

i know shes just trying to be shocking, but if i flat out refuse, it will become even MORE tempting. i realize she is making a play for attention, im having trouble figuring out a way to let her know she doesnt have to resort to satan to be unique. i understand rebellion all too well, so i know where shes coming from, but it seems any negative feedback i give her over it will just make it more enticing. so im trying to tell her that its crap, and not even very good crap at that, just people trying desperately to conceal their fears about life. i dont want to come off as dismissive because i want her to know that i dont think its appropriate in any way for a young teen. if she decides later to read it, thats her choice, but now i dont want her making any connections to a troubling philosophy that might get hardwired into her brain. this isnt the time in her hormonal life to be studying the dark side- teen life is tough enough without tying a weight around your neck. so, now im just playing the waiting game, i havent outright denied her like i want to because something keeps telling me if i make a huge deal out of it, ill lose what tenuous grasp i have on her. she respects my opinions because i never disrespect hers, but i hate this and i want it to GO AWAY without leaving a mark on her. STOOOOPID LIFE---cant we argue about curfew, or pot, or the telephone????? MUST it be SATAN????? jeeeeeeeeez, no rest for the weary....

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ZeldaFan13 2012/08/05 22:10:51

None of the above

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Let her read whatever she wants. Don't shove your beliefs on your kids. Let them follow whatever beliefs they want.
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tristandavis666 2012/11/21 12:32:49

None of the above

You seem to be a fairly rounded parent. However it wasn't all that long ago that i stopped being a teenager myself and know that this kind of rebellion only get worse if you try and stop her. My father had the same thing with me and marilyn manson, he refused to let me near any of his music, when really he should have know that his son just liked heavy metal, and wasn't one of those deluded psychopaths that use books or music as the reason for their terrible actions. I guess you have to be honest with your self; Is your daughter particularly cruel, violent, unpredictable, easily obsessive? if so then maybe you need to take a more heavy handed approach to this if not let her have some freedom to make up her own mind about her beliefs. However if you are a devout Christian family, i completely understand you demanding that the book never enter your house, you should however still allow her her religious freedoms outside of the house. Well that's my 10 cents

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Sayer Stewart 2012/09/07 02:56:19

None of the above

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Let her read it, don't force your religious beliefs on her.

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me being me 2012/08/11 09:08:57

Undecided

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I agree that if u did or didn't allow her to read it she may do it anyway. But I would ask her to also be open minded to other bibles and religions as well. It may be a phase or she maybe really interested but keeping an open mind is important to. I was raised in a Pentecostal religion but as I got older may beliefs changed

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ZeldaFan13 2012/08/05 22:10:51

None of the above

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Let her read whatever she wants. Don't shove your beliefs on your kids. Let them follow whatever beliefs they want.

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ANGEL 2012/08/05 18:06:11

None of the above

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Why don't you read it with her? Then you can address questions as they arise. I strongly suggest that you don't tell her what to think - but you can always share your viewpoint and preface it with "Here are my thoughts about that". Its hard. I've had 14 year olds. But I think it is very important that they research, learn about other views, and ultimately, decide for themselves.

I had to laugh when I read your comment about arguing about curfews, pot, etc. There are so many times, too many times, that an issue needs to be addressed that we as parents are just not ready for!

I wish you the best of luck. You are obviously a very caring parent.

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Lydecho Rain (Лидия) 2012/08/04 15:31:03

Undecided

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I don't believe in "Satan" so I don't think it matters.

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caninev69 2012/08/04 02:09:20

let her read it and hope for the best

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You probably won't stop her from reading it if she really WANTS to, but I'd insist she read the the normal bible first - PROPERLY! She doesn't necessarily have to BECOME a christian, but she should try the 'regular' before 'fringe' version.

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sky blue pink - American 2012/08/03 11:30:45

Undecided

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She is testing you. Put your foot down and say No.
Have a nice day !

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666_Maggots~PassionForGlory... 2012/08/03 09:41:57 (edited)

None of the above

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As a LaVeyan Satanist and I find your reaction quite ignorant. How about if you be good parent and let your daughter explore different religions, knowledge is power, and by the way, I'm assuming she's talking about the one for LaVeyan Satanists. WE DO NOT BELIEVE IN SATAN. WE DO NOT WORSHIP HIM. WE DO NOT BELIEVE IN YOUR IMAGINARY FRIENDS.

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chris. to 666_Mag... 2012/08/03 10:12:42

the actual satanists arent a part of my question. im referring to the satanic bible. whatever you choose to believe is your choice, and i couldnt care less about it. im trying not to fall into the trap she has laid for me, by making the wrong decision. shes pushing me for reaction, and im treading very carefully. your religious views are the same as everyone elses, and not the topic here.

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666_Mag... to chris. 2012/08/03 10:30:51

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I'm using myself as an example. I'm saying let her learn about other religions. So then she can find out what works for her.

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chris. to 666_Mag... 2012/08/03 10:40:42

i hope that she will. i just dont want to place too much emphasis on any one belief system.

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666_Mag... to chris. 2012/08/03 10:43:30

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Well if it interests her... Do you know which denomination? Luciferian or LaVeyan?

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chris. to 666_Mag... 2012/08/03 10:53:26

laveyan

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666_Mag... to chris. 2012/08/03 11:40:24

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Then what's the issue? There's nothing really "wrong" with the religion. Even my strictly Jewish parents approve of it. It's really a harmless religion...

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chris. to 666_Mag... 2012/08/03 12:27:32

THERES something "wrong' with all of them as far as im concerned, i dont want her letting ANY book spoonfeed her, her ideas and opinions. and i am just as opposed to christianity, but shes had that thrust at her for so long that she automatically rejects it. i dont necessarily want her to reject everything either, just get a taste of it and move on....when she finds 'the one' thing that truly resonates with her then she will know it and feel it deeply just like everyone else. i think its just my personal distaste for written philosophies and the opinions of others. i want her to find her spirituality by asking it of a higher power, not by reading rules and regulations written by humans.

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666_Mag... to chris. 2012/08/03 17:09:42

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That should be for your kid to decide HER religion. HER religion is NOT YOUR choice. If she wanted to read the Satanic bible she will with or without your permission.

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chris. to 666_Mag... 2012/08/11 09:44:44

yep

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ed 2012/08/03 09:23:54

Undecided

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I would say no to my daughter and let her know if when she has her own place then she could do as she pleases but while I'm feeding her and clothing her ,she has to go by my rules.

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D D 2012/08/03 09:12:09

Undecided

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I would say it is not allowed in your home. It is your house. I agree that she is trying to be shocking. Trying to be a rebel. I agree if you say no that it will make her determined to read it even more. I think the road of not bringing it into your home is very reasonable. Of course, said not in anger. Good luck.

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JustMe 2012/08/03 09:10:31

None of the above

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I think it is good for her to explore various beliefs and religions and then stay with what suits her. She isn't trying to get shock factor, she is trying to expirament and grow as a person. What is wrong is forcing your views on her instead of letting her find what suits her

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JMCC 2012/08/03 09:09:08

None of the above

Knowledge and experience are very important in the development of a person as it forms the basis for people to make informed decisions.

Yet there is a time and a place for everything, which is why there are laws restricting minors from certain activities until they are mature enough to handle them.

Whilst the whole idea makes me feel uncomfortable, have you considered saying to her that when she is 16 or 18 or whatever that you go through it together?

That way at least you would be able to discuss its contents and point out it's obvious flaws...

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chris. to JMCC 2012/08/03 10:21:06

that sounds like a good idea, but then id have to read the stupid thing and frankly i don wanna. im trying to point out its flaws now, but mildly, so its no big thing, but its so dang hard to figure out exactly how much attention to give it. i cant remember any other subject bothering me so much before, so maybe its just my own personal distaste for it, and you know, whatever mom doesnt like must be cool.....double face palm.........

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JMCC to chris. 2012/08/03 10:29:41

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I understand your reluctance to read it, and you shouldn't if you don't want to.

"Patience is a virtue", delaying permission shows that you are not closed to the idea and gives you space to research the thing other ways...

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chris. to JMCC 2012/08/03 10:52:45

yep, and maybe by then the interest will just have faded away, just like the 20 other unfinished projects that she lost interest in....lol......i guess she knows she cant shock me with drugs, or piercings, or music, but lord does she ever try. one day she likes country music, the next its satanic metal,....she wont get her ears pierced, but she has a tongue and nose piercing. so i got MY tongue pierced and then she lost interest in THAT. its just a constant game of push to the very edge and then back off a little. find something new and blah blah blah. im very leary of what shes going to pull to top satan.

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JMCC to chris. 2012/08/03 10:59:08

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I can empathise.

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Lord Emperor Kami Guro Bage... 2012/08/03 09:08:32

None of the above

watch this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?...

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chris. to Lord Em... 2012/08/03 10:37:55

yeah, im very familiar with the tenets of satanism, i researched it and many other religions, and philosophies. i dont want to learn about it, i just want it to fade out of her attention like every other passing thing. but i dont want to give the impression that i approve, because i think the subject matter is inappropriate for her age. i understand that it is a philosophy, but it has too much negativity attached to it for me to feel comfortable.

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Lord Em... to chris. 2012/08/03 10:39:08

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Oh.... You could always temper it with something you do approve of

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chris. to Lord Em... 2012/08/03 10:56:13

thats actually a good idea, anything i approve of shes SURE to lose interest in...lol

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chris. to chris. 2012/08/03 10:57:24

maybe i should pretend i think its the coolest ....she would leave a trail of fire escaping from THAT!

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Lord Em... to chris. 2012/08/03 10:59:18

Okay

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chris. 2012/08/03 08:58:04

None of the above

im actually not refusing her outright, instead im asking her why she chose that, and im playing around with the idea that she is welcome to read it , as long as she also reads the bible, the torah, the quran, and the vedas. then she can write me a long report about each of them and she has to attend a service of each, excepting the devil worshipers of course.

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james.bowman.146 2012/08/03 08:52:26

Undecided

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Eh. She is stubborn and will want to read it anyway. The Satanic Bible is incredibly stupid. Anyone with half a brain realizes that in a week. :P Good luck!

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ZeldaFan13 to james.b... 2012/08/05 22:11:48

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And the Christian Bible ISN'T Stupid!? >.> Wow...

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james.b... to ZeldaFan13 2012/08/05 22:29:41

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I never said it wasn't.

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