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Is It OK for a Child to Have More Than Two Parents?

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California Democrats want to increase the number of parents a child can have. SB 1476 would allow a child to have more than two parents at the same time in order to accommodate same-sex parents, surrogates, assisted reproduction, and other non-traditional parental relationships.

SacBee.com reports: Mom and Dad, same-sex couples or blended families, California law is clear: No more than two legal parents per child. State Sen. Mark Leno is pushing legislation to allow a child to have multiple parents.

"The bill brings California into the 21st century, recognizing that there are more than Ozzie and Harriet families today," Leno said. But some disagree. "It comes as no surprise that he would try to say that a child has more than two parents – that's absurd," said Benjamin Lopez, a legislative analyst for Traditional Values Coalition, a Bible-based civil rights group.

SacBee points out potential problems and complexities caused by SB 1476:
Tax deductions, citizenship, probate, public assistance, school notifications and Social Security rights all can be affected by determinations of parenthood, notes the Association of Certified Family Law Specialists.

Examples of three-parent relationships that could be affected by SB 1476 include: 1) A family in which a man began dating a woman while she was pregnant, then raised that child with her for seven years. The youth also had a parental relationship with the biological father. 2) A same-sex couple who asked a close male friend to help them conceive, then decided that all three would raise the child. 3) A divorce in which a woman and her second husband were the legal parents of a child, but the biological father maintained close ties as well. How do you feel about the proposed bill?

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  • AlliCat 2012/07/07 10:37:02 (edited)
    Yes
    AlliCat
    +2
    I have a mother, a father, a father-like figure, and both my mother and father have boyfriends, though they aren't my legal parents. I can only have two parents. My mother and my father. I also say no, because having that many parents IS quite stressful, and I would not wish my situation upon another child.
  • Nibiru AlliCat 2012/07/08 03:19:51
  • bt sedlock Nibiru 2012/07/08 19:34:43
    bt sedlock
    +1
    I also agree.
  • Cross Chhuang 2012/07/07 03:21:15
    No
    Cross Chhuang
    This is firstly nature of the world for some people ,and to compare with the law, as for me , should not allow ,because ,1( q). why do many people get badnames?,1.sex.so ,in order to have a child like that ,from here we can get it,most people can't controll with sex,so it carry the people to evilhappiness.without being preacher of evilwords ,it is more and more than christian everyday.(people ever take to the wrong way up of everything)
  • happyday49 2012/07/07 02:42:43
    No
    happyday49
    +1
    We knew this would happen. Same sex marriage is not enough- we need more descriptions of what parents should be, as well as traditional marriage!!!
  • Kozmo 2012/07/06 22:01:28
    Yes
    Kozmo
    It would be similar to Polyamory. Various 'people of responsibility' have a variable-weighting' extended family for direct material care for descendants of Co-Lovers.
  • ✞Knight of Honor 2012/07/06 22:01:28
    No
    ✞Knight of Honor
    Not whenever available.
  • Deborah Donnison 2012/07/06 21:27:28
    Yes
    Deborah Donnison
    I say YES! Like the old saying goes " It takes a town to raise a child". I have already posted my complete response.
    All of the potential problems can be delt with quite easily. But leave it to some who have to be negative about everything...you give them one possitive thing and they will give 15 reasons why it is not.
  • Deborah... Deborah... 2012/07/06 21:29:28
    Deborah Donnison
    To Stryder....I bet that is your response to everything
  • bt sedlock Deborah... 2012/07/08 19:43:40
    bt sedlock
    +1
    It doesn't take a town to raise a children, that's what Hillary Clinton said when she was First Lady. I think she wrote a book about it and she's always been a scheming oppurtunist. It's supposed be the parents' the siblings' and sometimes the relatives' responsbility to raise a child not a town.
  • EricVanSingleton 2012/07/06 21:15:45
    No
    EricVanSingleton
    +1
    Too many cooks...
  • Taxman 2012/07/06 20:47:58
    No
    Taxman
    +1
    Not including step parents or adoptive parents. Passing laws like this just creates more government.
  • The Bee Guy 2012/07/06 19:34:36
    No
    The Bee Guy
    +1
    Two, wth a marriage by a widowed parent making another, is confusing enough for most children, without having step... and more step... because of a selfish parental lifestyle...
  • Bullmoose 2012/07/06 17:00:07
    Yes
    Bullmoose
    +1
    This is a complex question and the Yes/no answer is woefully inadequate. The scenario (that a friend experienced) that came to mind was a situation where a couple split and maintained joint shared custody of the child. both parents remarried and the child spent approximately 1/2 the time in each home and all 4 adults were very much on the same page in raising the child. while the child was at the father's home and the mother and step father were on vaction the father on a business trip the child developed appendicitis suddenly - the step mom brought the child to the er, but until one of the biological parents could sign & fax a consent form to the hospital surgery could not do the surgery. luckily it all turned out well but it did take several hours to reach the father.
  • acacia86 Bullmoose 2012/07/06 19:04:18 (edited)
    acacia86
    +1
    And that is exactly why I say legal rights should extend to step-parents as well as biological parents. Now suppose it had been a God parent, that's even worse as we have no legal say while the biological parents are alive, the only way we'd gain parental rights is if the biological parents signed rights over to us and even then it's only temporary. My friend lives in Alberta, and I'm in Ontario. If this sort of law came into effect here, and my god children were visiting, guaranteed if they needed emergency medical attention they'd get it. As it stands, they'd have to wait for a fax from the mother in Alberta if something serious happened to her children while in my care.
  • CG 2012/07/06 16:48:01
    No
    CG
    Step parents would be one thing, people divorce and remarry, it's unfortunate but it happens. But this constant need by society to recreate the family is obscene. There is a point where enough is enough and we have already gone well past that point. This sort of thing in connection with legalizing gay marriage will open the door for plural marriages as well.
  • JD1980 2012/07/06 16:21:09
    No
    JD1980
    +1
    Two parents are sufficiant...everybody else is there to support the family. I'm both a father and a step-father and have no problems with that. Start giving step parents or others a way to finagle their way into legality, and it won't be long before a non-blood relation is challenging a full blooded parent over the children, and they then become a pawn again. Why is it that everyone wants to change everything we know and make it something else for a select few?
  • Charles R. Anderson 2012/07/06 13:54:08
    Yes
    Charles R. Anderson
    +1
    There are clearly rational reasons for some children raised in some circumstances to have more than two parents. Government has no business preventing many such circumstances, so the realities that result should be recognized by governments. Also, they should be recognized by all rational people, though of course many people choose not to be rational and should be allowed to follow their own consciences.
  • metasebia 2012/07/06 13:25:46
    No
    metasebia
    Oh......my.....
  • DOriginalDonald 2012/07/06 11:42:05
    No
    DOriginalDonald
    +1
    Doesn't California have more pressing issues to deal with????????????
  • TransicaHester 2012/07/06 11:02:21
    Yes
    TransicaHester
    +1
    Personally, as long as it's a bit like Dangerverse... Yes. Multiple parents who all love a child and give them multiple respectable adults to turn to is a good thing. To all you Christians who are against it: Would you disown God? I'm a Christian. I don't wanna disown God.

    God has given me a beautiful family, and I don't care that some are not conventionally related to me. I love them, and they love me. One day, I hope to and plan on at least acknowledging this, legally. I don't see what's sinful about my desire AT ALL!
  • JD1980 Transic... 2012/07/06 16:28:45
    JD1980
    My family is made up of his, hers, and ours...together, and at times it can be challenging, but givin that fact, I would no more want someone to make decisions or challenge my decisions over my blood children, culture, traditions, than I would expect someone to be offended trying to make decision for theirs. Input is one thing, legality is quite different.
  • opa62 2012/07/06 10:26:35
    No
    opa62
    Two parents is the right amount. Everyone else can be the child's "support system".

    All the different permutations just create potential areas of strife for the child and children should live with as little unnecessary stress as possible.
  • SilveryRow 2012/07/06 09:22:25
    Yes
    SilveryRow
    The 'traditional' family moniker should be rethought; what is traditional today? Half of the people I know had their parents divorce whilst they were children (including me) and have/have had step-parents since then, often equally as important as their own blood due to the amount of time spent together.
    That said, I don't know what repercussions it would have on an official level.
  • knybee 2012/07/06 07:42:29
    No
    knybee
    In nature it is easily shown that a male and female procreate. Yet men no longer go by that example nor do they want to apply simple reason. if they want to, it will be done. The lie that it can be for the good of the child is just that, a lie. Think about it. Men often take years and years to test drugs so that they can reasonably assure themselves that those drugs will not harm us. And yet they still make mistakes when approving those drugs because often there are unknown variables. How much more valuable are our children? But those in authority are willing to take that chance! With whose children?
  • Flyingbug 2012/07/06 05:29:45
    No
    Flyingbug
    No, no, absolutely NOT! It takes ONE mother and ONE father to properly raise a child. What is wrong with what actually works?
  • newleaf Flyingbug 2012/07/06 06:11:17
    newleaf
    In the cases described it actually works in a different than traditional way. It is already happening or in this case happened. They are just asking the law to follow reality! Please accept that reality is not always a fairy tale, not everyone lives happily ever after!
  • Rosy 2012/07/06 05:27:42
    No
    Rosy
    The Jackasscrats are at it again! One Mom and one Dad have been sufficient since ancient times; extended family is another thing, i.e. grandparents, aunts and uncles. The libs have been trying their level best to send our society straignt down the sewer. A "family" loaded with illegal aliens used to live in our neighborhood; 10 kids lived at the same house address, all were the same age. The local school district busted them when this info came to their attention; and it took a full 2 years to evict them from the house and deport most of them back to Mexico. One mom and one dad, what a concept!
  • Boetica 2012/07/06 04:09:25
    No
    Boetica
    +1
    As if children in non-traditional families don't have enough difficulties. This just shows how selfish adults are.
  • Brandi ... Boetica 2012/07/06 16:53:54
    Brandi Angela
    +2
    My family is non-traditional. And I think I turned out just fine. I am happy and I feel super loved. My parents divorced when I was 5. My dad got re-married when I was 7. My mom and my step mom are friends. We have gone on vacations together. We go to dinner together. My mom sometimes even babysits my step-sisters kids. I think that is pretty non-traditional. But I think that every 'broken family' should be like this, put the differences aside and act like decent human beings. People say that I am from a broken home because my parents divorced. I don't think my home or family is broken. I think my family is perfect. I always wanted siblings and now I have 2 older sisters.
  • MOMMA THOMAS 2012/07/06 03:38:03
    Yes
    MOMMA THOMAS
    +2
    BECOMING A STEPMOTHER MADE ME A PROUD THIRD PARENT.
  • charles nelson 2012/07/06 03:31:48
    Yes
    charles nelson
    The reason is unimportant as long as its really for the good of the child and not someones ego.
  • charles... charles... 2012/07/06 03:37:29
    charles nelson
    Maybe the kid will get lucky and get who loves em out of the bunch.
  • kawaiigurl1234 2012/07/06 03:29:53
    Yes
    kawaiigurl1234
    If stepfathers/mothers count
  • KingTez 2012/07/06 03:24:33
    Yes
    KingTez
    Someone has to be there for the kid since they will suffer potential bullying and serious confusion on what sex they should date.
  • Brandi Angela 2012/07/06 03:23:27
    Yes
    Brandi Angela
    I don't see the problem, while I don't admit it to my mother (for fear of hurting her feelings) I consider my step mother to be another mother to me, and in some cases I go to her for advice over my own mother. What about when a gay couple has a child? What if they have a good friend of theirs who also wants a child be the surrogate or sperm donor? Then that child has three parents, a mother and two fathers or a father and two mothers. Why would it not be okay?
  • Boetica Brandi ... 2012/07/06 04:11:58
    Boetica
    Because it is unnatural.
  • Brandi ... Boetica 2012/07/06 16:54:40
    Brandi Angela
    How is love unnatural?
  • Edward 2012/07/06 03:10:26
    No
    Edward
    +3
    Never fails. Damn democraps are now making it legal to have mommy, daddy and whatever pervert is attached to either one. All that to teach young children that perverts are just like them.
    The tradition is tradition because it promotes the values that work and had been proven best over millenia. Children need two parents, mom and dad. Anything extra is confusing and destructive.
  • charles... Edward 2012/07/06 03:34:01
    charles nelson
    +1
    damn there are some cranky old farts around here.

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