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Is It OK for a Child to Have More Than Two Parents?

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California Democrats want to increase the number of parents a child can have. SB 1476 would allow a child to have more than two parents at the same time in order to accommodate same-sex parents, surrogates, assisted reproduction, and other non-traditional parental relationships.

SacBee.com reports: Mom and Dad, same-sex couples or blended families, California law is clear: No more than two legal parents per child. State Sen. Mark Leno is pushing legislation to allow a child to have multiple parents.

"The bill brings California into the 21st century, recognizing that there are more than Ozzie and Harriet families today," Leno said. But some disagree. "It comes as no surprise that he would try to say that a child has more than two parents – that's absurd," said Benjamin Lopez, a legislative analyst for Traditional Values Coalition, a Bible-based civil rights group.

SacBee points out potential problems and complexities caused by SB 1476:
Tax deductions, citizenship, probate, public assistance, school notifications and Social Security rights all can be affected by determinations of parenthood, notes the Association of Certified Family Law Specialists.

Examples of three-parent relationships that could be affected by SB 1476 include: 1) A family in which a man began dating a woman while she was pregnant, then raised that child with her for seven years. The youth also had a parental relationship with the biological father. 2) A same-sex couple who asked a close male friend to help them conceive, then decided that all three would raise the child. 3) A divorce in which a woman and her second husband were the legal parents of a child, but the biological father maintained close ties as well. How do you feel about the proposed bill?

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  • Ron Jen 2012/07/07 17:00:21
    Ron
    First of all I have a MILLION reasons to bash Liberals, I agree with you and if we could be adults in this country and use logic it wouldn't be necessary to make a law. Reasonable intellegent people would be able to see what you have pointed out and act accordingly, thats how it should be and how it used to be back when I was young. However today we can't Trust the Government or Liberals not to abuse their power.
  • WinterLynn Ron 2012/07/05 14:40:59
  • L K Ron 2012/07/05 15:05:37 (edited)
    L K
    +1
    Why is it ridiculous? My first husband and I divorced when my oldest son, now 39, was ten months old. I remarried almost a decade later and my second husband was more of a Dad to him than his real father. When my second husband passed away from cancer after 25 years of marriage, ( last December), both my sons, ( one from the first and one from the second) were devastated. Legally, my oldest had another father. But he called his step Dad "Pops", because he was the one who REALLy was his father for all those years. The one who showed up for conferences at school and at sports events with me. Sometimes multiple parents just happen. Like I wrote above, as a teacher for 36 years, I have seen all kinds of parenting. The ones who give the children love, a home, proper guidelines etc. Those are just as much parents as the biological ones. It isn't a question of liberal or conservative. it is a question of honor, decency, and love. And my son, whose father left when he was ten months old, married a woman with a child from another marriage. They now have two of their own and he has welcomed this other little girl as if she was his own. There is no limit to how many people who can love a child.. I say I have 3 grandchildren, even though only two are biological. I love them all.
  • Ron L K 2012/07/07 17:10:16
    Ron
    I totally agree with you, I took the question to be what Hillery was pushing and what the Libs would love to have and that is state control of raising our children. I believe that children should have 2 parents that love and care for them where ever they may come from. I agree that a non-biological parent can be a better parent than their biological ones I am just sick & tired of the Government sticking their nose where it doesn't belong. Sometimes I go a bit overboard see the Libs desire to control everyone in the questions.
  • L K Ron 2012/07/08 20:10:34
    L K
    You give liberals too much power. I am liberal on many things and conservative on many things too. It just depends on the issues. You can't generalize about all liberals or conservatives. I think most people generally vary on issues. When my kids were teens they thought I was too conservative, my bosses often thought I was too liberal. Ya can't win. LOL I find that I just follow my instincts or belief system and go with what I think is right. And yes we do agree that two parents, biological or not, who love their kids and treat them right, make the best parents.
  • Patric 2012/07/05 10:57:17
    No
    Patric
    one mom, one dad..

    now, if the question was if ok for more than one to raise the child ? yes....

    parents can have children

    children only get one mom and dad....
  • Jiorgia Patric 2012/07/05 14:26:04
    Jiorgia
    +1
    What about step parents, adoptive parents, foster parents, god parents and legal guardians?
  • Patric Jiorgia 2012/07/05 17:02:11
    Patric
    step parent is not a parent.. nor are any of the others ,,

    you / I / we all get one mom and one dad..

    ok, so we do not get into a slug fest on this... I am not , NOT , dissrepect on those you listed, it is honorable and responsible to take over the duties of a parent , but that can never change , at conception dictates parent.. and there are 2 of them , 1 dad , 1 mom...

    after wards things change, names can change , but your mom will always be your mom , and same with your dad.. even if neither is raising you / I IMO>>>>
  • Jiorgia Patric 2012/07/06 00:45:01
    Jiorgia
    this question is talking about legal parents, all of those people can be legal parents.
  • Patric Jiorgia 2012/07/09 01:03:12
    Patric
    hmm,,, legal guardian ?/ yes , I agree, a child can have many , multiple,,
    but a parent is a very different story, IMO, your get 2 and that is all you get, no more, no less,

    and I think one of the break downs in society is .. the break down of the parent / child sacred relationship,, when we degrade the bond of parent / child into a farce of a community circus of multiple psudo " parents"

    multiple step parent , lots of legal guradians, foster, adoptive, darn there are many different non parent substitues .. but , still only 2 parents... IMO , looks like I hold the value of parent and child a little higher and important than some do...
  • Brad 2012/07/05 10:52:47
  • Blank Blank Blank 2012/07/05 10:39:39
  • Angela Chambers 2012/07/05 09:13:58 (edited)
    Yes
    Angela Chambers
    +2
    I don't think it's anyone's business but the people involved. I have a step-dad and real dad. I have two dads. Okay?
  • AL 2012/07/05 09:02:04
    No
    AL
    +1
    I can't think of a better way to confuse a child myself!
  • Nimitz 2012/07/05 08:34:14
    Yes
    Nimitz
    . . .And no.
  • ileana.a.stan 2012/07/05 08:21:43
    No
    ileana.a.stan
    +1
    No. Only 2 parents. Dad and mum.
  • Justin Teufel Hunden 2012/07/05 07:58:06
    Yes
    Justin Teufel Hunden
    +3
    Divorced usually equals 3 or 4. Sometimes less because a spouse dies or never remarried. More love = good things.
  • Jiorgia 2012/07/05 07:29:38 (edited)
    Yes
    Jiorgia
    +5
    I had 4 at one point and 6 over my life (and a whole bunch of grandparents), I was never confused.
    plus my sisters who were legal guardians makes 8.
  • Happy21... Jiorgia 2012/07/07 05:46:55
    Happy212121
    Earlier it was 8. This is talking about LEGALIZED parents...not helpers.
  • Jiorgia Happy21... 2012/07/07 07:02:55
    Jiorgia
    yes, i forgot about my sisters in this comment...
  • Eyes See Wide North 2012/07/05 06:49:52
    Yes
    Eyes See Wide North
    +2
    We never asked if it was ok for a child to have just two parents.
  • Marek 2012/07/05 05:58:13
    No
    Marek
    Not at the same time.
  • YeahISaidIt 2012/07/05 05:26:11
    No
    YeahISaidIt
    +2
    Seriously that's confusing for a kid.
  • Jiorgia YeahISa... 2012/07/05 07:31:19
    Jiorgia
    +1
    why, its their life and how they have grown up, they will be more confused by others then themselves.
  • YeahISa... Jiorgia 2012/07/05 13:13:02
    YeahISaidIt
    Wait... What????
  • Jiorgia YeahISa... 2012/07/05 14:16:08
    Jiorgia
    +2
    why would it be confusing to grow up with more then 2 parents?
  • YeahISa... Jiorgia 2012/07/05 15:05:58
    YeahISaidIt
    +2
    Um maybe because of the back and forth. Parents can depend on the other to be the hard, voice of reason and kids are manipulative enough to understand that. Having more than 2 people to flip flop and say one thing while the others say something else is confusing. I know kids play favorites with their parents.
  • Hope 2012/07/05 05:17:30
    No
    Hope
    eh it doesnt really matter to me and i honestly dont really care,but it'll be okay for a child to have more than two parents.
  • David 2012/07/05 05:07:33
    No
    David
    +2
    Parents are a thing of the past. Bring in the robots.
  • Grandbrother 2012/07/05 05:05:48
    Yes
    Grandbrother
    +1
    Tricky situation. I can certainly see the need for it in the types of scenarios listed, but I'm not sure what the right way to deal with it might be.
  • GeminiWolf 2012/07/05 05:04:53
    Yes
    GeminiWolf
    +2
    In this modern world, it should be expected and accepted.
  • WatchTh... GeminiWolf 2012/07/05 05:58:40
    WatchTheRhythm
    Expected? Almost any scenario with the need for more than two parents' custody is the result of irresponsibility and lack of planning.
  • GeminiWolf WatchTh... 2012/07/05 11:09:25
    GeminiWolf
    +1
    Actually quite the opposite. Surrogate mothers and gay parenting (adoption or otherwise) take lots of planning and responsibility.
  • Live Fr... GeminiWolf 2012/07/05 19:52:13
    Live Free Or Die
    Aren't there laws regarding egg donation, surrogacy and other rights already? If those biological moms and dads want to sign a contract to share custody, fine. But the whole law regarding biological parental rights will be thrown out the door to accommodate a few. Sometimes a step-parent should be the rightful parent and a child and the other parent lose out, but in the vast majority of cases step-parents aren't granted the same rights as biological parents for good reason. Can you imagine the new family mom and step-dad ganging up on a single dad, or the opposite on a single mother? Not a good situation.
  • salama_hady 2012/07/05 04:05:19
    No
    salama_hady
    +1
    IF THE MOTHER UNABLE TO RECOGNIZE HER CHILD'S FATHER..IT CANNOT BE A MOTHER..BUT A ........
  • Jiorgia salama_... 2012/07/05 07:34:14
    Jiorgia
    +1
    what about open adoptions or surrogates or step parents etc etc etc.
  • Lucy 2012/07/05 03:59:03
    No
    Lucy
    +4
    No. It is confusing enough to have two parents when they disagree or tell you conflicting things. Aunts and uncles and grandparents are good, but not three or more parents. Poor kids.
  • YeahISa... Lucy 2012/07/05 13:13:59
    YeahISaidIt
    +1
    I just went through that confusing crap about getting a cat. I can't imagine 3 parents.
  • Lucy YeahISa... 2012/07/06 00:08:16
    Lucy
    Ha-ha. I hope you got the cat. Doesn't it make your head spin to hear more than one opinion? It does me.
  • Marianne 2012/07/05 03:48:03
    Yes
    Marianne
    +1
    Why not.

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