Facebook Is a deadly game (What Do You Think About This?)
jrci1
2012/07/18 17:23:56
On March 2, 26-year-old Hayley Jones changed her Facebook status from "married" to "single." Ten days later, the mother of four and longtime girlfriend of 31-year-old Brian Lewis, was dead.
Murdered in her UK home and found by her children, aged 3 to 10, Jones had been spending more time online as her relationship of 13 years unraveled.
"Hayley started to expand her social life and was spending a lot of time on internet sites, in particular Facebook," prosecutor Mark Evans told the court, according to the BBC.
Jones and her boyfriend referred to themselves as married, but the prosecutor argued that she had made it clear to the boyfriend that their relationship was over. Although she reportedly kept her Facebook activity private, Lewis told friends that he would not lose her to another man.
Court reports offer differing arguments about why the couple's relationship was ending. One rationale is that Lewis lost his job, placing financial strain on the family. The other is that Jones was spending too much time online.
"Lewis told police the only tension between him and Hayley was the use of the home computer," the prosecutor told the court.
Lewis allegedly stabbed Jones with a kitchen knife while she was sleeping. Lewis reportedly called police but fled before they arrived at the scene. In the interim, Lewis and Jones' children discovered their mother's body. Jones' was fatally wounded through three layers of clothing and two bags that covered her.
Lewis later turned himself into authorities but now denies that he killed his girlfriend.
While the trial continues and the life of a young mother is mourned, it is worth noting how violence within relationships seeps into all aspects of daily living. While abuse between partners often only occurs behind closed doors, it is common for work, friendships, family, church, and other parts of a victim's life to be brought in to play to attempt to justify the violence. In a 2.0 world, it was sadly only a matter of time before social network sites and status updates would be pulled in to rationalize horrific acts such as this one.
I wonder if and how we can protect people who are at risk for abuse -- or even murder -- by their partners while they are online. Although virtual friendships and support networks can greatly impact our health and well-being, I wonder if it is even possible to prevent abusers from infiltrating sites that make us feel like we are surrounded by friends.
This isn't the first time a Facebook status update has spurred a murder. And as much as I hate to say it, I can't imagine it will be the last.
What do you think we can do to protect ourselves and our own social network tribe from being the victim of a crime like this?
Have you ever felt unsafe about publishing your relationship status online?
Murdered in her UK home and found by her children, aged 3 to 10, Jones had been spending more time online as her relationship of 13 years unraveled.
"Hayley started to expand her social life and was spending a lot of time on internet sites, in particular Facebook," prosecutor Mark Evans told the court, according to the BBC.
Jones and her boyfriend referred to themselves as married, but the prosecutor argued that she had made it clear to the boyfriend that their relationship was over. Although she reportedly kept her Facebook activity private, Lewis told friends that he would not lose her to another man.
Court reports offer differing arguments about why the couple's relationship was ending. One rationale is that Lewis lost his job, placing financial strain on the family. The other is that Jones was spending too much time online.
"Lewis told police the only tension between him and Hayley was the use of the home computer," the prosecutor told the court.
Lewis allegedly stabbed Jones with a kitchen knife while she was sleeping. Lewis reportedly called police but fled before they arrived at the scene. In the interim, Lewis and Jones' children discovered their mother's body. Jones' was fatally wounded through three layers of clothing and two bags that covered her.
Lewis later turned himself into authorities but now denies that he killed his girlfriend.
While the trial continues and the life of a young mother is mourned, it is worth noting how violence within relationships seeps into all aspects of daily living. While abuse between partners often only occurs behind closed doors, it is common for work, friendships, family, church, and other parts of a victim's life to be brought in to play to attempt to justify the violence. In a 2.0 world, it was sadly only a matter of time before social network sites and status updates would be pulled in to rationalize horrific acts such as this one.
I wonder if and how we can protect people who are at risk for abuse -- or even murder -- by their partners while they are online. Although virtual friendships and support networks can greatly impact our health and well-being, I wonder if it is even possible to prevent abusers from infiltrating sites that make us feel like we are surrounded by friends.
This isn't the first time a Facebook status update has spurred a murder. And as much as I hate to say it, I can't imagine it will be the last.
What do you think we can do to protect ourselves and our own social network tribe from being the victim of a crime like this?
Have you ever felt unsafe about publishing your relationship status online?

















and check this out
Abusive and Violent Women in Relationships
- Recognizing the Signs -
You don’t find many women volunteering for DNA tests to prove their word nor many courts requiring it.
This page was last updated on Thursday, 12 April 2012
Abuse and violence are behaviors chosen by women to cause physical, sexual, or emotional damage and worry or fear. Women who behave this way are often promiscuous, selfish, and narcissistic. She uses her moods, rage, and impulses to control the people around her and she will not be satisfied until she is the center of attention. Then these women choose deceit, fury, and assault to get their own way. Then they will present a personable public image to conceal their true character. These women then will revel in the exhilarating and addicting emotional unrest they create. This is called sexual sadism.
These women will lie, connive, and extort to get their own way while humiliating their partner by making a scene. In doing so, some will insult and humiliate their partner while others will use offensive language in th...
and check this out
Abusive and Violent Women in Relationships
- Recognizing the Signs -
You don’t find many women volunteering for DNA tests to prove their word nor many courts requiring it.
This page was last updated on Thursday, 12 April 2012
Abuse and violence are behaviors chosen by women to cause physical, sexual, or emotional damage and worry or fear. Women who behave this way are often promiscuous, selfish, and narcissistic. She uses her moods, rage, and impulses to control the people around her and she will not be satisfied until she is the center of attention. Then these women choose deceit, fury, and assault to get their own way. Then they will present a personable public image to conceal their true character. These women then will revel in the exhilarating and addicting emotional unrest they create. This is called sexual sadism.
These women will lie, connive, and extort to get their own way while humiliating their partner by making a scene. In doing so, some will insult and humiliate their partner while others will use offensive language in the presence of others including their children. These women are driven by jealousy and view others as rivals. This is why they treat their partner as possessions, striving to isolate them from friends and family. Moreover, these women will falsely accuse their partners of infidelity while they have affairs. Nearly all exhibit erratic mood changes, feign illnesses or injuries, and most are practiced actresses. They are not sick; they simply play the multiple roles of the terrorist, the tyrant, the fiend, and the victim.
So at some point, she will falsely accuse her husband of abuse when in fact, she is the abusive spouse and this behavior is called projection. However, the courts still refuse to recognize this established criminal behavior and the legal term is called perjury. This is why false allegations of abuse continue to be a common feature in divorce proceedings and the courts continue to ignore the problem. By doing so, the courts have become part of the problem and false allegations have become a woman's weapon of choice. This why domestic violence and spousal abuse are so easy to fabricate and hard to refute. These women simply crave the sadistic erotic pleasure that comes from destroying their husband. And so they create a climate of terror. Some people call this sensation ‘walking on pins and needles’ and once you experience that sensation, it is time to reject this shrewish woman for that is what she truly is.
Those who are in an abusive relationship, often experience bewilderment, fear or shame. They have tried everything but nothing works. The reason that she doesn’t change is that she enjoys hurting others and she is addicted to the sexual release that often follows her moods. That is why she is a narcissist and will change her persona fit her self-image at the drop of a hat. So in one moment she is caring and thoughtful and demonic in the next.
So her victims have found themselves not knowing what will happen next, it's like riding on an emotional roller coaster that they cannot escape. That is why they are depressed, humiliated, and just plain exhausted. Many have lost everything they had and are worried about their future. But these violent and abusive women have no limits and so their outrageous behavior escalates to unbelievable levels; as a result, no one believes the victim.
Many women become vindictive when faced with the breakup of a relationship, especially in a marriage, and abusive women become very dangerous. The problem is that when others believe her, they join in with more abuse, and the frustrated husband or partner finds himself a victim of undeserved malice, hatred, defamation, and abuse. So when she doesn’t show up at court, it’s your fault and not a sign of her guilt. Justice is never blind to assigning blame to men but always appears blind to the truth. This time it is not her way or no-way, it’s their way or no-way and so the abuse continues in an unending parade of broken promises, false hopes, and lies. You don’t find many women volunteering for DNA tests to prove their word nor many courts requiring it.
This is why some women fake or inflict injuries on themselves, or use an accomplice, a relative or new lover, to frame her husband. The most common behaviors are pressing false criminal charges, stealing or destroying property, snatching children, and engaging in bad faith litigation. This is why an abusive wife must be treated with unrelenting resolve for she is the criminal and not her husband.
Divorce courts must understand that these women cannot see beyond their narcissism and so mediation is pointless. Unfortunately, the legal process regarding divorce requires negotiation and mediation and this provides another opportunity for these women to abuse their husband. We do not negotiate with tyrants nor we negotiate out of fear and any judge who chooses and forces that gambit is the enemy of all that is good.
This is why husbands must not accept telephone calls, conversations, visitations, appeasements or plea’s for reconciliation from their wife. This acceptance only bolsters her belief that she remains in control her husband and that is exactly what she wants. So any threat from her or her representative or any court will be considered a credible threat that will not be ignored. Any claim based on immunity whether judicial or based on gender will be proof of guilt. Stalling and the failure to appear is also proof of guilt. Moreover, it shouldn't take years to decide an issue unless the court is corrupt. This is only one reason to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment and that reason is sufficient.
Once your spouse or companion has chosen abuse, end the relationship promptly and irrevocably before she accuses you of her of own behavior. In psychology, this phenomenon is called projection. So get a restraining order and change the locks, sue in civil court now and, when the assailant is your spouse, file for divorce. There is nothing wrong with using modern recording devices to prove your claim. Most have a time/date stamp that is based on an atomic clock maintained by the National Institute of Standards and Technology. Some recording devices have embedded frame counters to discourage frame editing and other tampering.
The courts must realize that these women derive sadistic pleasure by destroying their husbands through extended litigation. Her refusal to attend proves that. But only arrest and imprisonment will prove that these women are guilty and nothing can change that because they are addicted to inflicting abuse. Punishing men for the transgressions of guilty women is wrong and that practice must be abolished because these women chose to be violent and they chose to lie. DNA testing has proved that before and can do it again. This should be the basis for a mandatory arrest policy for untruthful and violent women.
Ratify the Equal Rights Amendment.
The Equal Rights Amendment was written by Alice Paul and introduced to Congress in 1923 and it has not been ratified by the States. This amendment contains only three simple sections.
Section 1. Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or any State on account of sex.
Section 2. The Congress shall have the power to enforce, by appropriate legislation, the provisions of this article.
Section 3. This amendment shall take effect two years after the date of ratification.
The reason that this amendment was never ratified was that the Senate added the Hayden rider that said: "The provisions of this article shall not be construed to impair any rights, benefits, or exemptions now or hereafter conferred by law upon persons of the female sex." As a result, the Hayden rider would exempt women from any crime that they have committed or will commit. It also means that women, as an identifiable group would have unfettered and complete immunity. So the only change that I would make would remove the Hayden rider and that the amendment would take effect within one year of ratification. So far, twenty-one states have a version of the ERA in their constitution. However, many women oppose this amendment and that is why it hasn't been passed. The reason for this is that it does not bestow exclusive privileges upon women which would make the amendment unconstitutional.
According to the information that I have, the ERA does not have a deadline for ratification. As a matter of interest, the Twenty-seventh Amendment was proposed by Congress on September 25, 1789 and was ratified on May 7, 1992. So the ERA is still viable in its original form without the Hayden rider. The only provision that I would add is that this amendment shall not be altered to deny any person equality under the law.
Women don't commit as much violence in hetero relationships as men do..sorry. I know what I've witnessed and experienced since childhood.
Perhaps you should not be involved with women...period. Men like you are at the very least emotionally abusive.
Guess what? I no longer take crap like that, nor do I involve myself with men like you, online or in real life.
You are toxic.
Therefore I'm blocking you.