Ex-Mormon Resigns Religion to Support Gay Marriage: Your Take?

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Ex-Mormon Resigns Religion to Support Gay Marriage: Your Take?

by La Saria Posted November 11, 2008 22:10:03

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Meet Carlotta Valdez, an avid blogger who resides in Seattle, Washington. She has given up the Mormon religion to support gay marriage and 'No on 8' in California. It wasn't official that she had left the Mormon religion until she made it official with this letter she sent to her church:
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"Dear Mormon Church,

I've done my best not to hate on you guys. The church did so much for me and my family.

And for years I tried hard to be a good Mormon. Modest, pure, compliant and quiet.

I let you make me feel dirty and inferior for being female. For being a convert. For being intelligent and sexual and brave. For telling the truth even when it inconvenienced the congregation.

I listened to you reaffirm my "limits", my "place", my "role" as a mere woman in god's master plan. You told me that my only goal in life should be to marry and breed. That my highest joy should come from pleasing and obeying my husband.

I watched you try to convince young people that being queer was merely a phase and that their behavior was somehow warped. I didn't say a word.

I'm not going to do it anymore.

You supported Prop 8. You, an institution that is tax-exempt and federally protected, took the tithes of your members and supported hateful legislation that invalidates love and marginalizes human beings.

Too much, Mormon church, too much. I will be at the protests. I will fight to strip you of your tax-exempt status.

Take a good look at yourselves. What are you really afraid of?"
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+2 jim November 11, 2008 22:36:43

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God made tab A to go into slot B. Got did not mean for an anus to be substituted by a horny, demented man. Do you have any idea of the promiscuouity of gay men? They're like dogs. To accept homosexuality is to deny God's magnificent design.
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blithium December 18, 2008 04:12:28

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Good job, lady, good job :)

Love is love, don't let anyone make you feel less human for being who you are. Don't you DARE feel the least bit ashamed at being homosexual, and don't let anyone tell you that they are somehow better than you because of your sexual preference. You are normal, you are wonderful, and you are beautiful, just like anybody else.
SuperCee December 10, 2008 20:22:14

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I don't know much about the Mormon church so I can't really give an opinion. I like that she stood up for what she believed in.
(David)-(The)-(Strange) December 08, 2008 11:49:13

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STRIP THEM OF THIER TAX-EXEMPT STATUS!
blithium to (David)... December 18, 2008 04:13:03

Strip ALL religion of ANY tax breaks.
cRightwingNut cRight babies... November 18, 2008 23:55:12

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She won't be the only one.
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dylan fujii November 13, 2008 15:15:43

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If more people had as much common sense as her there wouldn't be any religous people
Ravenhon - Patriotic Atheist November 13, 2008 13:08:38

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This is an individual choice. I can not speak for them as all anyone can do is what they feel is right in their heart. If that's what she's doing, then I am very happy for her!!
beatfreak November 13, 2008 10:56:44

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it takes courage to stand up and speak out for what you believe in
Illjwamh November 13, 2008 08:50:35

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Nice. She decided it was time to think for herself. I applaud her.
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1tenthAngel November 12, 2008 21:58:27

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that's a trip! My sister is a moron, oops Morman, sorry I think they suck, still homosexuality is bull shit too.. get a grip and become what you were born to be....
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Foo Master Angie November 12, 2008 19:45:54

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It's not always easy to stand up for what you believe in. Good for her!
Grace W. Bush November 12, 2008 19:20:17

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I have mixed feelings here
greedy gay amy November 12, 2008 18:01:46 (edited)

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Good for her!!!
susan November 12, 2008 16:15:30

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Good for her.
~mach~ November 12, 2008 05:34:36

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The Mormon Church,.. a cult of epic proportions, which mirrors middle eastern religions in the practice of polygamy and reduction of the dignity of women. If you truly feel that it would be dangerous to elect a moslem to political office in this country, you might want to think twice before putting someone from the LDS in charge, almost one in the same.
Joe November 12, 2008 04:46:07

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I'd really have a hard time relating to the problems she's facing. I'm not Mormon and don't know much about the religion. In the end she's standing up for her beliefs, in this case they're more important than the name on the church.
Ace~Mr.Giantess~ November 12, 2008 01:04:03

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Booooooo!
Ed November 11, 2008 23:56:02

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Thumbs up for standing up to the stupidity of treating women like nothing more than baby makers. But call me silly ,men marry women. gay men have life partners. i do agree life partners should have sertin wrights and it should be left at that.
dematheart to Ed November 14, 2008 04:50:21

certain rights. Sorry, I cannot help myself.
Ed to dematheart November 15, 2008 13:57:29

thats ok thanks.
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Taihowan November 11, 2008 22:51:40

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That takes a lot of courage and integrity. Way to go, Carlotta!! The Mormons spent over 20 millions dollars on the Prop. 8 movement. Catholic church also contributed generously, but I don't know the amount.
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crsone November 11, 2008 22:49:01

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Good for her.
dematheart to crsone November 11, 2008 22:55:46

crsone: Thank you for posting Keith's comment. I was wishing I had it.
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crsone to dematheart November 11, 2008 23:39:47

You are most welcome. It was really, really good -- one of his best Special Comments because he wasn't all angry and in your face -- he was sad and quiet
Illjwamh to crsone November 13, 2008 08:57:41

Yeah, really. Usually I don't care for him but that was really nice.
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jim November 11, 2008 22:36:43

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God made tab A to go into slot B. Got did not mean for an anus to be substituted by a horny, demented man. Do you have any idea of the promiscuouity of gay men? They're like dogs. To accept homosexuality is to deny God's magnificent design.
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dematheart to jim November 11, 2008 22:52:53

PLEASE! Do NOT reproduce.
Foo Mas... to jim November 12, 2008 19:44:30

Lots of straight women take it up the poop chute, too.
I've read that a mans G spot is in his brown eye, so even some straight guys don't mind a little play in the rear.
y so se... to Foo Mas... December 08, 2008 01:39:27

Thats gross
Foo Mas... to y so se... December 08, 2008 15:37:52

It's fact.
y so se... to Foo Mas... January 12, 2009 09:40:05

and gross
gemini to jim May 03, 2009 18:07:31

Tab A to slot B. How poetic of you. So is this why most perpetrators of rape and molestation are heterosexual men? It seems to me that this is the crisis in human behavior you should tend to first, JIm. Take the log out of your eye before you worry about the splinter in your brother's eye.
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woo November 11, 2008 22:35:51

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I don’t care for the Mormon church or their beliefs. Women aren’t dogs! I had a male teacher ask me in front of an entire class once if I thought a women could do anything a man could, excluding getting someone pregnant. My response to him was the only thing I can’t do is piss in someone’s gas tank. Then with a very short pause I added, but give me a funnel and a hose and I can even do that! And as far as restricting people from marrying who they want, they are all about that. They trade their daughters out at 13.
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dematheart November 11, 2008 22:33:17

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Good for you Ms. Valdez. You have made the correct decision. I, for the life of me, do NOT understand why anyone would want to tell another human being what is best for them--as if they could possibly know..? Not. WHAT do they care what others do in their private lives? God did not intend for devious people to conquer and divide those around them, and to do that intentionally, is a sin. So they are simply, hypocrites.
jerrichard11 November 11, 2008 22:32:35

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just because you gave up on Christ he has not given up on you
there is no such thing as gay marriage
marriage is only between a man and a woman
any other union is only a civil union NOT marriage
if that belief makes me old fashioned then I WILL REMAIN OLD FASHIONED!!!
GOD destroyed Sodom and Gamorah for the sin of gay sex or do you only read the parts of the Bible that suit your beliefs
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woo to jerrich... November 11, 2008 22:40:21

And in the beginning of times incest was ok. Adam and Eve’s children all screwed amongst themselves. Then in the bible it was wrong for people to screw who they were related to. If things can change in the bible, who is to say it’s not ok to be gay? Maybe that’s changed too.
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dematheart to jerrich... November 11, 2008 22:49:47

The girl hasn't given up on Christ! She has given up on mormonism--two completely different things. Now you are putting YOUR words in her mouth. That is what you right-wing fanatics do "in the name of God", but, you don't do it well anymore. We know, just as you stated, that Christ has not given up on us just because we choose to embrace diversity, and let those who are gay, be gay, or support those with differing opinions.
USANana to jerrich... December 03, 2008 03:53:28

I agree with every thing you said with the exception of the opening "just because you gave up on Christ"......I did not read it as she gave up on Christ I got that she gave up on the Mormon church. The church should not have given that money to a political cause - that money should go to help the poor - widows, orphans and families with low income or folks who have hit hard times. They should have used their own private funds if they chose to donate/support. I agree if they wish to use the church's funds in that matter then they should lose their tax exempt status.
Pamela *Raccoon* November 11, 2008 22:23:55

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hell?
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Sonomorte ~♥ loves Steph ♥ November 11, 2008 22:16:04

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There comes a point where you have to do what is right, not what is right for the church.