Dying Mother’s List Becomes Bestselling Book
Greene with her two sons, Reef and Finn. The Make a Wish Foundation
sent the Greene family to Walt Disney World after Reef's battle with
cancer. (Credit: St. John Greene)
A dying mother’s wish list for her two young sons inspired a
best-selling book in the U.K. that is now making its way over to the
Kate Greene was an inspiring mother and wife, whose courage, passion
and love for her family are chronicled in “Mum’s List: A Mother’s Life
Lessons to the Husband and Sons She Left Behind” by her husband St. John Greene. Greene, a British outdoor sports trainer, fell in love with Kate when they were teenagers.
“I met Kate when she was only 14. We were childhood sweethearts. We
met on roller skates; she fell for me in more than one way,” laughed her
husband, Greene, who goes by the name Singe. He proposed to her in a
snowdrift during a skiing trip to Switzerland. They were together for 23
years, enjoyed traveling the world and were avid scuba divers (they
even named their dog Coral!).
In 2004, Kate Green gave birth to the couple’s first son, Reef, and around Christmas 2005, their son, Finn.
When Reef was 18 months old, tragedy struck: The toddler was
diagnosed with a very rare soft tissue cancer, which gave him a 6
percent chance of survival. Not long after, Finn was born – seven weeks
“We thought we were going to lose both our sons at the same time with
Reef’s cancer diagnosis and Finn’s premature birth,” St. John Greene
recalled. The couple shuttled between two different hospitals located
at opposite ends of Bristol. Reef had a year of chemotherapy and became
disabled in one leg but went into remission.
The Greene family was relieved at first.
“We thought we got away with it,” Greene said.
Then came more devastating news: Kate found two lumps in her breast.
The diagnosis was triple negative breast cancer, a form of breast cancer
that can be extremely aggressive and more likely to metastasize than
Kate underwent radiotherapy and chemotherapy.
“When Reef was diagnosed, we said we wished we could swap places with
him,” Greene said, “but (we) didn’t realize anyone was listening.”
Kate fought her cancer for almost two years, but in December 2009 she had a relapse.
“Kate started to cough; she couldn’t get rid of it. We had already
booked a Christmas trip to Lapland. Kate probably knew at that point
that she was going to have a recurrence, but she was determined that her
sons see Father Christmas,” said Greene. Upon their return, she was
rushed to the hospital and was told she had only 18 months to live.
She ended up having only 18 days.
One evening, while Kate was hooked up to her oxygen tank at home,
Greene, a former paramedic, was taking care of her and brought her a cup
of tea. Kate looked at him intensely and then asked if he could do her
“Could I take the boys to a beach in Wales she had gone to when she
was a child?” he recalled. “She then rattled 20 more things. I told
her you need to write it down. This was between Christmas and the 20th of January (2010) when we lost her. If she survived longer, the list would have been longer.”
The list was extensive and ranged from kissing the boys two times a
night to urging her husband to find another wife. This was all Kate’s
effort to help Greene create the best life for her family after she was
“Before the boys were born, Kate and I wanted to go to Belize to
dive. She said, ‘Would you take the boys to Belize? This way at least
two bits of me would go,’” he said softly.
Another request was skating around a museum, which Greene later
fulfilled. “My boys and I skated in the Natural History Museum in
London, which they closed especially for us,” he laughed. “It was just
us and the cleaners as we skated around the dinosaur!”
Kate Green died in January 2010. Greene published his wife’s list as
a love letter to her. He plans to fulfill all her requests and more.
“Kate wanted the boys to go to Egypt and see the pyramids. I took them
there, and we snorkeled in the Red Sea,” he said. “There are hundreds
of other things to do for Kate.”
According to Dutton, the book’s publisher, “Mum’s
List” has rocketed to the top of the U.K. bestseller lists and has
garnered a film deal. The will be available for the first time in the
U.S. on June 5.
The Greene family swam with dolphins in Florida on a trip made possible by the Make a Wish Foundation. (Credit: St. John Gre
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