Do you think that children that come from a home with religion are better adjusted?

by Sam Posted 2007/04/25 15:27:11

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Do you think that kids whose parents regularly attended religious services are better off than whose parents do not attend religious services (or attend very little)?

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Mollybdamned American Atheist 2008/04/03 04:46:32

Yes

+4
Of course, my parents and grandparents were religious. And I am a well adjusted Atheist.
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seathanaich 2009/09/23 19:39:27

No

Attendance in religious services creates an unnecessary barrier to logic and reason.

And teaching children that blind obedience that is not evidence-based (ie faith) is a virtue, let alone the greatest virtue, is a terrible thing to do.

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We-sa ® 2009/02/11 21:02:47

No

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I have worked in schools, and with kids with emotional problems for years. From what I have seen church has less to do with how well adjusted kids are than how involved and stable the parents are. I've met some wacky parents that drag the family to church 3 times a week or more, and have kids with problems, and I have seen parents who were atheists and had perfectly normal, well- adjusted and behaved kids... and just about everything in between.

For the most part the parents who realize their kids aren't perfect, are individuals who need to be taught responsibility and that there are consequences to their actions, whether they attend any religious services or not have the most well adjusted kids.

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Comrade Sean 2009/02/11 15:20:44

No

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Not necessarily...

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rmcfarclark 2008/08/08 19:19:36

No

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i really dont see why religion is necessary to have good morals and be a nice person i think it has alot more to do with parenting than religion

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marybeth m__>:) 2008/07/14 01:03:24

No

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no i do not...i think it all has to do with the amount of time you spend with your kid and how well you communicate...also what you teach them..
you can go to church all day long but if you arent spending quality time with quality conversation then you could still turn out bad or become a hypocrit like alot of holy rollers i know...not very appealing to me..not good quality either...

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metalmike13- Trust No One 2008/07/13 23:57:05

No

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Nope. It can lead to sheltering of a child and the simply blaming gods will for all the good and evil in ones life.

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Briley 2008/05/19 03:40:30

Yes

Yes and no. Okay... I have a little personal experience here.
I'm Christian.
I was head over heels in love with an atheist.
He is still pretty much the best person I know.
Had great morals... very sweet, kind, and considerate person.
But he was tortured from not knowing anything of the afterlife.
It bothered him SO badly, and he was paranoid and miserable by it.
In the end, he left me, because he thought his lack of religion was having a bad influence on me.
So... you can be a great, wonderful person without religion... but I guess with some people, deep down, it really bothers them, to a degree. At least it did with him.

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We-sa ® to Briley 2009/10/05 19:42:21

if he was tortured by the thought of what would happen in the afterlife he wasn't an atheist... maybe an agnostic.. (undecided)

No one knows anything about the afterlife.... why be tortured by it?

Some people have ideas, or things they were told.. but bottom line no one knows... hense the word Faith, not fact.

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Lovee 2008/05/03 15:14:28

No

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It is possible to be a good, moral person without religion. In the bible it says that if your child is disobediant you should stone him to death, is that moral? These days most people don't take their morals from religion.

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Mollybdamned American Atheist 2008/04/03 04:46:32

Yes

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Of course, my parents and grandparents were religious. And I am a well adjusted Atheist.

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Lovee to Mollybd... 2008/07/14 09:45:21

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Have a rave for learning to think for yourself.

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Mollybd... to Lovee 2008/07/14 14:17:38

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Hi Lovee. Thank you very much :)

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Lovee to Mollybd... 2008/07/14 18:53:32

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Your welcome m'dear.

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Bun 2008/04/03 04:45:05

No

Not always.
And that is not really an issue.

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Chocolat-In the universe I ... 2008/02/20 19:38:57 (edited)

No

Have you ever know preachers kids! They are buck wild, lol

I should not joke, but PK's need to spread their wings when breaking free for church. That does not mean they are terrible kids, they rebel just as other kids will rebel.

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LoXx 2008/01/04 23:50:45

No

This is the most offensive poll I've ever seen. Anyone who votes "yes" is a prejudiced idiot. It's not as though the only people who can grow up in a structured environment and with morals have to have a religion. That's disgusting of you.

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Chocola... to LoXx 2008/02/20 19:42:08

Sierra,

I don't think that is what is meant by the post, as least I did not take it to mean that.

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Snarkosaurus 2007/11/17 00:12:58

No

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Forced religion can really mess people up.

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marsred 2007/11/16 17:41:24

No

Unfortunately no. Attending services is no guarantee that a child's homelife will be better. Services guarantee that the family has an opportunity to hear the word of God. Remembering and applying God's word to one's life and family is another matter entirely.

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Foo Master Angie 2007/10/08 18:49:43

No

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I can tell you honestly, from experience. I went to church 2-3 times a week for 17 years. I don't think that I'm very balanced. LOL. I mean, I've never been to jail. I don't have 3 kids from 3 different fathers, all addicted to crack or anything like that. I think all it takes is LOVE to raise a "well adjusted" child. Love your children, listen to them, understand them, remember what it was like to be a child. THAT'S what it takes to raise good children - GOOD PARENTING!

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marsred to Foo Mas... 2007/11/16 17:46:27

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How right you are!!!!

Hearing the word of God does not automatically give parents an inside track to raising healthy, happy, and well-adjusted children.

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Patrick 2007/08/18 20:21:14

Yes

Hopefully they learn good morals etc. but going to church is not all they need to live what the church teaches.

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shirlstermcg 2007/08/09 01:30:43

Yes

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Faith is a solid foundation from which children can gain guidance, strength and humility. When they get older they can use thier faith as a means to cope with tragedy. I think children that dont have faith have less coping mechanisms and and are lonlier. I never felt alone. I have my parents to thank for that, they gave me my faith.

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<--That guy 2007/08/07 13:33:25

No

It depends how it's being delivered to them.

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oy 2007/07/27 07:52:44

No

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Kids that come from a good family are better adjusted.

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Chan 2007/07/18 20:42:46

Yes

I guess I have that undecided thing here. I am a Christian now, but back in the day my parents never spoke of or attended church. I will say that I wish I would have known what I know now, but being a teenager, would I have used it then?? Not sure. But, regardless if you are catholic, baptist, methodist, lutheran, or penecostal--going to church is just not enough. The parents have to practice what they preach, and continue to nurture their children at home. I see a lot of families that profess that they go to church, yet their children are disrespectful of people, property, some don't even know the meaning of manners. I really believe what happens at home, determines the outcome of the child.

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AngelEyes 2007/07/18 18:51:58

Yes

Yes and No, any family can have good kids, if they do there job

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Rome is burning 2007/07/07 02:02:43

No

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It makes little difference. Look at the typical Pastors kid.

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daddiesgirl 2007/07/07 00:30:07

Yes

Amen and God Bless

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Alicia 2007/07/06 20:54:02

No

my mom was never very religious and never really took me to church but..she did put me through CCD and i may even be more religious than she is..also..i'm not trying to be arrogant or anything but..i feel like i'm a pretty good kid. that and kids don't always agree with their parent's religious beliefs so they'll believe whatever they want anyway. i don't necessarily feel that a home with religion will make children better adjusted..

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Sir Jim 2007/07/06 06:46:23

Yes

Absolutely and without a doubt. I'm not saying your teen son or daughter might not enter the drug or alcohol pit, but it does keep them further away from those who are already there. Teaching children about Jesus and God can have nothing but positive results in my opinion. Parents need to talk to the children about their experiences at church and take an active roll in the events. Going to church is great. But there needs to be more involvement in it by the parents.

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SMH 2007/07/06 03:18:06

Yes

I can't say yes or no to that. Some are or a lot are, but a lot aren't. The experience I had with my children was this. They were well behaved. I didn't have problems with them until they became teenagers. I have 4, and the eldest was okay until she skipped school the first and the school didn't notify me. Then when she turned 15 all you know what broke loose. Sixteen years later when I had my daughter that's 25 now was fine until she turned 16, she just started acting like she was her own parent. I felt like I was a terrible Mother and had no clue. Then one of my twin son's went wild, he's very nice person, a people person, old, young blind, disabled everyone likes himand I think that was a detriment to him in high school because everyone knew him even the few wannabe's (gang members) who want to emulate real gang members) who didn't like each other liked him. Well he was a pain in the butt, my brain and my heart for a while, he just wouldn't stay away from people I didn't want him around, he started smoking cigarettes and that other stuff, going to school when he wanted to, he would leave home and go to the classes he liked and didn't go to the ones he didn't like. He went to juvie probably 4 times. He actually broke my heart. My other twin son never smoked anything, doesn't...

I can't say yes or no to that. Some are or a lot are, but a lot aren't. The experience I had with my children was this. They were well behaved. I didn't have problems with them until they became teenagers. I have 4, and the eldest was okay until she skipped school the first and the school didn't notify me. Then when she turned 15 all you know what broke loose. Sixteen years later when I had my daughter that's 25 now was fine until she turned 16, she just started acting like she was her own parent. I felt like I was a terrible Mother and had no clue. Then one of my twin son's went wild, he's very nice person, a people person, old, young blind, disabled everyone likes himand I think that was a detriment to him in high school because everyone knew him even the few wannabe's (gang members) who want to emulate real gang members) who didn't like each other liked him. Well he was a pain in the butt, my brain and my heart for a while, he just wouldn't stay away from people I didn't want him around, he started smoking cigarettes and that other stuff, going to school when he wanted to, he would leave home and go to the classes he liked and didn't go to the ones he didn't like. He went to juvie probably 4 times. He actually broke my heart. My other twin son never smoked anything, doesn't like to be around people who do any drugs or smoke cigarettes. All of them are not in any religion. I believe that the religion kept them from getting into any serious trouble, and it has instilled some wonderful qualities in them that I can definetly attribute to them being brought up in a Christian home and around other Christian children but they all told me they think they missed out on certain things, what I do not know. Two of them finished high school so that means two of them didn't. Three of them have children so that means one of them doesn't. But I am proud that my 25 year old is a terrific Mother, She's a better mom to her children than I was to my 42 yr old. I was't that bad, but still a little rough around the edges. My son that was so wild when he turned 15/16 is a terrific Father. He's trying so hard to be a good Father to his son even trying to get legal custody of him. He is a good provider to him. He's even doing a good job weaning him from the junk food diet his Mother allowed him to be on. He actually eats veggies now :-) Wow I really put myself out there huh? I said all of that to say, even though they aren't practicing their faith, they're still better off then if they hadn't grown up in a home going to religious services. And at least they have something to compare their lives too They have seen both sides of the fence. My oldest admits her live would be different if she had been stronger and fought harder to continue her life doing God's will unstead of her own, my x husband does too, but there's no fool like an old fool, old habits die hard.....SMH
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Bren 2007/07/06 01:04:39

No

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I went to church with my mother four times a week and I'm a goddamned heathen.

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kellley 2007/06/30 00:48:36

No

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Look at Ed Gein and John List both serial killers and brought in extremely relogous homes. John List killed his family to ensure that they would go th heaven.

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☺that's all she wrote... 2007/06/16 15:02:29

Yes

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But more so if the parents live their religion rather than drop it off at the church/temple/mosque/whatever after they attend Mass or services.
And don't hand me that line, " A lot of people who go turn around and blah, blah,blah..." You are just using their behavior to rationalize your own.
Religion helps to provide moral structure in a child's life.
Amen.

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MAGGIE ... to ☺that's... 2007/06/22 16:13:41

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Yes. Religion has played a vital part in my life.

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byebye ,I love you,gotta go 2007/05/17 00:49:06

Yes

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TRAIN UP A CHILD IN THE WAY HE SHOULD GO AND WHEN IS OLD HE WON'T DEPART!

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Foo Mas... to byebye ... 2007/10/08 18:51:44

I remember that scripture....it's funny, though, because I was "trained up" in the way I "should go," but Boy have I departed!

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byebye ... to Foo Mas... 2007/10/08 20:08:52

Angela it says when he is OLD. I had my time of departation as well ! :)

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Foo Mas... to byebye ... 2007/10/08 20:13:39

Old is relative, though, isnt' it? I mean, I really have no idea when I'm going to die. What if I don't reach "old?"

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