Do you think i should report this nurse for being a bigot?

by Dan Posted 2012/04/14 23:11:04

Related Topics: Faith, Treatment, homosexual, Time, Issues, Hospital

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	Yes?	144 votes	79%
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I have had issues with this nurse time and time again. I'm back in hospital having another round of treatment and once again she is assigned to me.

She makes snarky comments about me being homosexual and how her faith is against it.

Should i report her for this?

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Chris- Demon of the PHAET 2012/04/14 23:58:47

Yes?

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I worked in a hospital for 10 years. You should absolutely report her. Her conduct is completely unprofessional.
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Muskoka to wtw 2012/04/15 06:38:34

Being gay is not a lifestyle.

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wtw to Muskoka 2012/04/15 15:03:25

I respect your opinion but there is not a gay gene! It is a choice maybe harder for some than others but I know to many gays. Some decide to stop and they have. It is something that gets hardwired in our mind much like implanting by ducks. I respect you as a person.

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Just me ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞ 2012/04/15 03:34:29

Yes?

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Yes, that's totally unprofessional of her. She is there to take care of you and tear you down regardless of anything. You DO NOT have to allow her to be your nurse. Go to the nurses station and ask to speak to the charge nurse or speak with your dr about it in the morning. If you think about it, she works for you...you pay her salary...she shouldn't be making judgments against you...PERIOD!

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(▪‿▪)DoctorWhoGuru(▪‿▪) 2012/04/15 03:32:27

Yes?

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Yes

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HAlex1972 2012/04/15 03:32:13

Yes?

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She really needs to keep her opinions to herself and just do her job. How rude and unprofessional!

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PBUTTERBOY77 2012/04/15 03:27:57

Yes?

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Yes. You should report her and tell them that you want a MALE nurse that should make you happy. Not to sure it will cure what your problem is though. But you MIGHT GET LUCKY and be a lot happier.

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BoomLover to PBUTTER... 2012/04/15 05:55:32

WTH? Thought this person was in the hospital to get rest and cured, not make dates....with gay male nurses....

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Muskoka to BoomLover 2012/04/15 06:39:37

You have made far too many assumptions.

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PBUTTER... to BoomLover 2012/04/15 14:44:14

IT WAS A PUN YOU NUMB NUT

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Mandy :3 2012/04/15 02:49:10

Yes?

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Well in my opinion if I had a nurse that says that kind of stuff to me an doesn't do her job right then ya u should report her

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thepastord 2012/04/15 02:47:27

Yes?

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It is unprofessional... the woman is there to work and serve as a employee, not give her opinion on what she thinks she knows about a persons personal life. If she can't keep her mouth shut about her faith and her beliefs, I suggest she get a different job. The Human Resources Dept. needs to know there is a problem.... It must be addressed.

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The Govenor 2012/04/15 02:46:59

No?

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This is probably one of the hardest questions I have ever had to answer on SH. I chose "No" and think you should tell the bitch to shut the hell up and show some respect for her patient.

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fluer 2012/04/15 02:45:32

Yes?

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At the very least request that you be assigned to another nurse. But if she is doing this to you she is doing this to other patients too. If no one reports her she will continue to do this to people who most need help. This is sad. I am so sorry you are having to deal with something like this!

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ladyjane 2012/04/15 02:42:17

Yes?

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Report her. She shouldn 't be a nurse...

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owen to ladyjane 2012/04/15 04:17:20

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Exactly,I dont like homosexuality myself but she has a duty of care that must overide these issues.

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Rusty Shackleford 2012/04/15 02:34:06

No?

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Take your business elsewhere.

She has every right to disapprove of your lifestyle choices and you have every right to take your business elsewhere.

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Nameless to Rusty S... 2012/04/15 03:39:05

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He is in an hospital that hospital likely receives government funding which requires that no one - and that means NO ONE - be discriminated against. That woman can keep her freaking religious views to herself and just do her job. Oh, and she can be fired, too.

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Rusty S... to Nameless 2012/04/15 12:24:31

So we have no choice as to who go to for medical services?

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Pele Em... to Rusty S... 2012/04/15 03:41:29

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Rusty, given the way the health system works, that isn't always an option. Sometimes, you are limited to a certain hospital, and if that nurse is at that hospital, you're stuck with her. It doesn't mean you can't tell her to either stop it, or ask her supervisor to put a different nurse on your case.

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Rusty S... to Pele Em... 2012/04/15 12:24:38

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So we have no choice as to who go to for medical services?

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Pele Em... to Rusty S... 2012/04/15 18:55:19

In some cases, no. In some cases, a hospital may be the only game in town. It may be the only one which offers the treatment you need. It may be the only one our insurance allows us to go to. There are three hospitals in my area. My insurance will not cover visits to all three. I believe two are preferred, but the other is allowed only in an emergency and only until I could be transported safely to one of the other two.

There are also situations where hospitals in given areas will specialize in services. One will be the 'cancer treatment' hospital. One will be the cardiac care hospital. One will take trauma patients. If your treatment is at a certain hospital because that's were it's offered, you're stuck with that hospital.

Service is service. A hospital is supposed to provide that service without comments on your personal life, which is none of their business unless it relates to your medical condition. Just because it's the right of the nurse to have her own personal opinions, doesn't mean she has the right to have that carry over into her professional life. That's what being a professional is all about: You separate your personal likes, dislikes, and feelings from your professional job. She doesn't have to like homosexuals or approve of their lifestyle. It'...

In some cases, no. In some cases, a hospital may be the only game in town. It may be the only one which offers the treatment you need. It may be the only one our insurance allows us to go to. There are three hospitals in my area. My insurance will not cover visits to all three. I believe two are preferred, but the other is allowed only in an emergency and only until I could be transported safely to one of the other two.

There are also situations where hospitals in given areas will specialize in services. One will be the 'cancer treatment' hospital. One will be the cardiac care hospital. One will take trauma patients. If your treatment is at a certain hospital because that's were it's offered, you're stuck with that hospital.

Service is service. A hospital is supposed to provide that service without comments on your personal life, which is none of their business unless it relates to your medical condition. Just because it's the right of the nurse to have her own personal opinions, doesn't mean she has the right to have that carry over into her professional life. That's what being a professional is all about: You separate your personal likes, dislikes, and feelings from your professional job. She doesn't have to like homosexuals or approve of their lifestyle. It's her JOB to take care of patients and being rude to one is not in the best interests of his health.

I think the best solution is not to have a tantrum, but to contact the nursing supervisor and ask to have a different nurse assigned to him. If asked why, he could say that given her personal beliefs, it would be better if she was assigned to someone else whose lifestyle was not in conflict with those. Both she and the patient would be happier.
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The Gov... to Rusty S... 2012/04/16 02:17:07

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Get ready for 0bamma care, lol.

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Muskoka to Rusty S... 2012/04/15 06:42:42

That is a ridiculous statement. You go to the hospital where your doctors has hosptial priviledges. That is the way it works.

She does not have the right to voice her opinion in the work place at all. She is bound by her job to deliver health care servies, not pass judgement and make nasty comments. Pathients pay the salaries of all the hospital staff.

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Rusty S... to Muskoka 2012/04/15 12:24:43

So we have no choice as to who go to for medical services?

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Gracie - Proud Conservative 2012/04/15 02:25:40

Yes?

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She should keep her personal opinions to herself as a professional.

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kudabux 2012/04/15 02:23:45

Yes?

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Absolutely. Nursing profession is supposed to be compassionate and supportive. She is neither. Report her to your attending physician and to the Administrator or CEO of the hospital. Or you could just call her Nurse Ratchet (just kidding)

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toxic_phantom 2012/04/15 02:21:58

Yes?

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tell her to stop, first but after that if she kept being really rude to me id complain! lots of my family and some friends are hospital nurses and they are NOT supposed to talk to patients that way.

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Always 2012/04/15 02:16:01

Yes?

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Yes, I'd report her. It's none of her business and she should remain unbiased when treating you.

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The Patriot RP 2012 2012/04/15 02:07:25

No?

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I would have to ask this, Why the hell are you on Sodahead asking a bunch of people on the internet for advice on something like this, grow some balls dude and fix it yourself.

Plus you are in New Zealand, 39 years old and you're an atheist, dude your story stinks like a 4 ton beached whale in 100 degree heat in the middle of summer.

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Dan to The Pat... 2012/04/15 02:09:33

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My story stinks? Excuse me?

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The Pat... to Dan 2012/04/15 02:17:14

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yes it does, like a rotting whale.

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Dan to The Pat... 2012/04/15 02:17:59

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How so? Please enlighten me.

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The Pat... to Dan 2012/04/15 02:28:07

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1. New Zealand asking for guidance 1. Most people here are in the US
2. You are an Atheist 2. Nurse is of Faith
3. You are 39 Years Old 3. YOU ARE 39 years OLD!!!
4. You are a Homosexual 4. Nurse is of Faith

I'm sorry dude, I ain't buying it, its the internet, put of a news story or something maybe a video, then I will be more incline to believe you.

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Dan to The Pat... 2012/04/15 02:33:23

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Fair enough you are entitled to your opinion if my and my integrity. I know what is what so your opinion if me holds little importance in my mind. As for me being in nz that holds little relevance as I joined while I was still living in Houston but switched when I moved back here. Just because people are in the USA it does not me I cannot ask for help. My opinions and views often get over looked in person as I'm so small and quiet natured. It's not my fault I do not have the "balls" to stand up to a nurse. She intimidates me.

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The Pat... to Dan 2012/04/15 02:37:54

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If she intimidates you, then you are feeding her your fear. By doing that you are letting her be in control, don't do that, OK, I'm sorry if I came off a little strong, its the internet, so I am quite suspicious of everything. Put your finger in her face and say STFU!!! She will get the message and you will feel better, don't get physical, stand your ground and tell her either stfu or get out my face.

Look I think you are probably a good person, don't let a bad one ruin your day.

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Muskoka to Dan 2012/04/15 06:47:04

Do not let an American bigot intimidate you. I have also experience some of that because I live in Canada. Some thing that only those who live in the USA are welcome here. They are truly narrow minded.

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Muskoka to The Pat... 2012/04/15 06:45:35

The nurse may be of faith, but she is not practicing her faith nor is she a moral person in her behavior either.

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Dana to The Pat... 2012/04/15 04:03:29

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Hey "Patriot", F YOU pal!

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Nameless to The Pat... 2012/04/15 04:04:49

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What does it matter where he lives or from where he is posting? Do his issues matter any less? Does his treatment matter any less? This is the internet and he has as much a right to post on this site as anyone else from anywhere else.

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Nameless to The Pat... 2012/04/15 04:05:46

I am sorry. I posted before I saw that you had apologized to him. Thank you for doing so.

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