Bullying: Do Schools Need a New Approach?

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i do like the fact that the school districts are adressing this as a serious issue because it is but the real problem is that the people who can stop it choose not to. the teachers and principals know damn well the kids getting bullied and the who the bullies are. most of the time they don't like the victim either and favor the bullies because their jocks or popular. bullying was never a problem back then because back then the teachers were allowed to hit kids as punishment. now it's a lawsuit. it's disgusting.

Emotionally healthy, empowered and assertive parents teach their children to be the same.

If a child is fortunate enough with some self awareness to see their parents are not any of those positive qualities they need and learn on their own, the child becomes determined and grow in to a habit to continually create, build up and enforce their own boundaries in healthy ways. By then the man or woman can see the BS from light years away!

Every person has a right to have healthy boundaries and be safe all the time without threats of violence, guilt, punishment or isolation. Every person is obligated not to cause others emotional stress, bodily harm or social ostraciszation to others for not wanting to 'fit in' or force someone be a punching bag because of some delusional reason ie ' because it i can do what i want' ( that's what gym punching bags are for). The media speaks absolutely NOTHING of this. Like they want to continue the paradigm of survival of the fittest crap, this, strong/weak big/smaller nonsense. ie make people weaker and disempowered. This is not right.

Of course yes

clearly they dooooo

Yes, "schools" need to do something different. Not just about bullying, but about a number of other issues as well. It is called "parental involvement." Parents need to get over the idea of the school raising their kids. The school is there to educate.

Not my school anyway.

An old approach, corporal punishment.

Maybe, they should have kids actually put in action about it by like...showing them what it could do. The effect they truly have. And how ridiculous they look to others. Make them write down their feeling every day or something.

As well as good for nothing parenting needs to be revamped!

Bullying is a serious thing. It helps create disturbed children who may even have a bad life at home too. School should be a reprieve for those kids and and learning space for those who don't need it.

Students who bully need to go to jail.

If you care about your children you will send them to private school. Luckily my parents cared.

Private schools are not immune to bullying; the bullies are just more cunning and cruel in a non-physical way.
I spent K-12 in private catholic school because my parents thought I would receive a better education (not true, the teachers were appalling) and they thought I would never have to deal with the kind of bullying and daily fights my dad had to put up with in public school. They were right, I didn't deal with the same bullies my dad had; my bullies used daily verbal torment to make going to school damn and living near impossible for me and a couple other students.

Yeah, I had a different experience. Spent most of my time in private school. The few years I spent in public is the only time I recall being bullied. I tried to stay under the radar though.

Well aren't you special. Just like Mittens Romney who held down a classmate and cut his hair at his "my parents cared" private school. You're a self- righteous POS. Why don't you loose your little Jesus icon...jackass.

Bullying exist anywhere but it occurred less in my private school. Then again my private school didn't have many millionaires. Sorry my icon offends you, you should whine about it some more. Never said I was better than anyone.

Your icon doesn't offend me, but your pretentious association with it does. You don't think your inference of those that go to public schools have parents who don't care doesn't scream "I'm better than you" just proves how self-absorbed you are.

I don't believe in god if that is what you mean by "pretentious association". Parents who send their kids to private school are probably more knowledgable about the subject. Does that make them better, probably as far as education goes. The public school system is a flawed. I'm merely stating what I have observed.

My son's school talks about it so much that he thinks everything is bullying.

Here's an idea, find out a kid's being a bully, make him clean the bathrooms. Betcha he stops after the first toilet

Schools need to take a very direct approach to solving this problem. It is a very real problem that only will get worse if it is not stopped. Children will do what they know they can get away with. If a bully is only reprimanded it will do no good.

What schools must do I think is once a bully is discovered the parents should be brought in and informed of what is happening. This is not only to let them know what there child is doing but also to inform them of the consequences if they do not make the child understand the problem. The school should then tell those parents that if their child bullies again they will be expelled for one week. If it happens again they are out permanently. The problem is that the school system has lost it's power to do what needs to be done. There was a time when this was not at all a serious problem because it was stopped by the teachers through discipline the very first time. Those teachers are not allowed to do that now and so the problem simply gets worse.

i think they should have more programs teacheing this subject. maybe even a class

I meant to say yes!! Back in 1965-66 school year a friend of mine was being what is now calleed "bullied". My understanding was she told a teacher, school guidance councilor AND HER FAMILY............RESULTS THOSE GIRLS LEFT HER ALONE FOR THE REST OF THE SCHOOL YEAR!!! The thing is you have to KEEP TELLING PEOPLE UNTIL THEY "DO SOMETHING POSITIVE".....Her crime was she came from Greece, she wore her skirts "a little longer"............THATS ALL

I especially love how if a bully gets into a fight with a student the student has two options, fight back to defend myself and get suspended or take the punches and do nothing until security gets there. I'm being completely serious those were my school rules not less than a month ago. Sad really.

you are very right !!

It's ridiculous really, I had a teacher tell me that too.

Not my school anyways.

Schools do address bullying. It's been a national campaign for a few years now. The people who are ultimately responsible for putting a stop to bullying are PARENTS.

They can't just sit them in an office and tell them that it was bad. I know how bad bullying is from experience, they like the attention. But an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, so no point in getting even.

What they need is to lower tolerance for it. Every bully should be removed permanently.
Expelled.

The traditional way is not working ;-)

Cause obviously it isn't working this tell a teacher and brush it off only work with some bullies. It just makes some more persistent. Standing up to them always worked better for me when I was bullied. Though I did try to handle it the schools way first. Reporting it never got me anyway, hitting back and telling them were they could stick it worked much better.

And it would appear that parents do too. My children are not all grown but as youngsters they would not have dared to be that mean to anyone never mind disrespectful and bully a grandmother who was doing a job. It is so very hard for me to fathom what those kids were thinking. I understand the father of one of the boys actually cried when he found out one of them was his son. We need to teach tolerance,kindness, respect, and the strangest thing about that is aren't we doing that????

Yes because what they are doing isn't working.

My school has a wonderful program called Reach I'm not sure if other schools around the world or even in Australia do it but it's really inspirational. It brings all sorts of people in our year together and lets the brave ones confess and speak about their lives.

After the one day program everyone seems to understand others and themselves better and many change their ways. It's very confronting and emotion and all about the teens it's not about adults lecturing the students and them zoning out. It's about the teens taking control and they finally listen to each other.

Many certainly need. Schools and parents are expected to prepare children to become responsible citizens. Cultural and scientific knowledge is important, but also the respect for others and for life. Lessons should therefore include more information and discussions about living in society. Certain programmes regarding the diversest situations in life, developed by specialised psychologists for children and also for adults might be useful.

Have a nice day !

If they are caught bullying even once, they're DONE - throw their asses out, NEVER to return.

How about just taking it seriously? The teachers know damn good and well who is the bullied and who are the bullies. They do nothing. I think some of the teachers get a cheap thrill out of it.