Allanah Benton Wells is a teacher accused of having sex with her 12 year old student... Is there a double standard against men who do the same thing?

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Allanah Benton Wells is a teacher accused of having sex with her 12 year old student... Is there a double standard against men who do the same thing?

by Distorted Posted August 19, 2008 21:19:37

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I was just thinking about "To Catch a Predator" and the stigma those nasty men rightfully suffer. Why is it that when a woman such as Allanah Benton Wells does a similar thing in sleeping with a 12 year old boy, it doesn't seem to elicit as much outrage or disgust?
Is there a double standard against men?

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+4 raves Neo August 19, 2008 22:00:39

Answered: People just don't see boys as victims.
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Hayley August 22, 2009 01:19:13

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
I believe it has to do with some kind of old fashioned mindset, where people tend to think (incorrectly) that a male even at twelve is somehow able and willing to participate in such a thing, and I believe it has to do with their maleness. That if they were somehow able physically to participate, they couldn't be forced. And I think in this particular case, if the woman had been a plain middle aged appearing woman, she'd have been in hot water. But she was a young and Extremely attractive female, pin up beautiful, and a lot of people, and strangely men, (at least the men I work with) with an opinion on this particular case, kind of gave the impression that the boy was lucky to have a woman of her attributes shine her attention on him.
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Charles August 22, 2009 00:24:49

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
I think often there is a double standard.I don't care if you are male or female, if you mess with a 12 year old you're butt belongs in jail.
Abby March 03, 2009 01:31:26

Answered: I don't know why it is this way, but its stupid.
Boys are stupid...and they are even more stupid at age 12..Cuz They see or here There big borther or sister talk about sex..so that makes theme wana have sex....so Boyz plz stop askin us girls to have sex with us cuz we not and if we do den we just has stupid as you.....BYE =D.....P.S i KNow dis is not about The proplem here but..Plz stop boyzz..or maby we will just kill ya all.....hahahahahaha lol sike..realy sike....so dont get mad plz..Bye=D
kevracer September 23, 2008 18:29:55

Answered: People just don't see boys as victims.
I have never seen a study that shows that a boy who has sex with his teacher is emotionally scarred for life- maybe he just got lucky?
S.Sif:* September 18, 2008 17:42:17

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
Also people don't see women as the criminals , they can see boys as victims but not women as criminals ... the world is weird about stuff like this ... double standards to men with this and double standards to women about jobs and stuff like that ... it's not good :\\
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.... August 25, 2008 00:02:19

Answered: I don't know why it is this way, but its stupid.
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taurnguard August 24, 2008 00:18:11

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
Men who do (see Jerry Lee Lewis) that are called pedophiles. Women who do that (see Cher and assorted cougars) are merely called disturbed.

At 12 years old, I probably would have said, "I'm sorry.. put what where?" :)
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viper4358 August 21, 2008 11:34:01

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
If I was banging my teacher I would not be telling anyone about it in the first place! Not when she is as hot as Allanah Benton Wells. I would keep my mouth shut and do her as long as I was her student!
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Athena August 21, 2008 03:03:41

Answered: I don't know why it is this way, but its stupid.
I think there is a double standard only because of people's attitudes towards sex.
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NICKI70 August 20, 2008 22:43:38

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
But as being an older gen Xer it happened all the time where I went to school and it wasn't the women teachers..I think women are catching up with the boys club, but it doesn't make it right.
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J August 20, 2008 20:48:14

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
It is so much easier to blame men for everything. But, when a woman does something horribly wrong like this, she is just as guilty, but seems to get a lighter sentence by the media. I don't understand why, but I do see it clearly.
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Dirty Duck August 20, 2008 20:04:11

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
Absolute double standard! If A man gets caught with an underage teen he's a piece of shit. These female teachers accused seem to get lighter sentences dont you think? It should be equal...period! A child is still a child.
But lets also be honest here. A lot of the young girls and guys dont quite look their age....it's scary. You meet a girl thinking she's at least old enough to drink and you find out she hasnt even graduated highschool...it's crazy!
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frndswthbnnys August 20, 2008 16:38:40

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
its a mans world basically and men cant seen to find something wrong with having sex with an attractive woman , It is very discusting , child molseting thing and it should be looked at equally
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coffee man to frndswt... August 20, 2008 20:01:56

I was involved in a similar conversation in a class once. We were discussing the evils of sex tourism, men going to places like Thailand to sleep with underage kids. Some girls in the room actually had different definitions for that event depending if was a man or a woman. They said that for men it was "sex tourism" and for women it was "romance tourism" and it was different for women and acceptable because there was emotion involved and it was "complicated".
I've never thought of statutory rape as a complicated issue.
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frndswt... to coffee man August 20, 2008 20:04:34 (edited)

no and its truly sick the way its based but i do believe is gender bias its cool to have sex with an older sexy woman how can anybody be hurt by that even if you are 10 its sick sorry 12
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Republic of Honor August 20, 2008 14:13:56

Answered: People just don't see boys as victims.
It is messed up, but later on in his life everyone is going to be like "dude your so lucky", Even though it is still damaging to the kid!
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NICKI70 to Republi... August 20, 2008 22:44:42

you are right..
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beatfreak August 20, 2008 05:36:42

Answered: People just don't see boys as victims.
and the majority of the time you wont hear the boy complaining about it, more like bragging
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TJR August 20, 2008 04:48:05

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
Women get away with it and men get the slammer.
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HairlessKat the Gnostic August 20, 2008 04:17:27

Answered: People just don't see boys as victims.
I dont think its right for women to take advantage of boys .. however as a general rule , in nature males tend to become sexually active younger than females of most every mammal I am aware of. Not nessasarily capable of producing young of their own, but when I owned a cattery, I had males as young as 3 months that would attempt to breed adult queens. Mabey its just because people deep down inside just assume its not as earth shattering for boys as it is for girls?

Im wondering,, have in any of these instances the boys claimed victimization or have all of them stated they loved the woman who took advantage of them? I was thinking they all thought it was 'love' but dont know if thats the case for sure or not. Im again not saying its alright.. Im saying girls generally dont feel that way about their molester.. they definatly as a rule feel victimized... although the frequency is so much greater in the reverse that its hard to guess how often girls mistakenly think its 'love' . Probably more often than most realize.

Just an all around messed up situation... why in the hell anyone would be interested in a 12 year old or even a grown man in a 16-17 year old is beyond me. Seriousely,, what does a child have to offer an adult except somone who will do and believe whatever they sa...

I dont think its right for women to take advantage of boys .. however as a general rule , in nature males tend to become sexually active younger than females of most every mammal I am aware of. Not nessasarily capable of producing young of their own, but when I owned a cattery, I had males as young as 3 months that would attempt to breed adult queens. Mabey its just because people deep down inside just assume its not as earth shattering for boys as it is for girls?

Im wondering,, have in any of these instances the boys claimed victimization or have all of them stated they loved the woman who took advantage of them? I was thinking they all thought it was 'love' but dont know if thats the case for sure or not. Im again not saying its alright.. Im saying girls generally dont feel that way about their molester.. they definatly as a rule feel victimized... although the frequency is so much greater in the reverse that its hard to guess how often girls mistakenly think its 'love' . Probably more often than most realize.

Just an all around messed up situation... why in the hell anyone would be interested in a 12 year old or even a grown man in a 16-17 year old is beyond me. Seriousely,, what does a child have to offer an adult except somone who will do and believe whatever they say? Clearly the women and men who do this need deep psychological help, because its not 'normal' to desire a 'partner' who is not on the same level of wisdom and intellegence as yourself.
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mick August 20, 2008 02:55:24

Answered: People just don't see boys as victims.
"You know as long as she is somewhat young and attractive the so-called MSM will figure out a way to make it look like she is the true victim.

I'm guessing if the women was older and unattractive would they possibly
treat her any different?***
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Ragweed August 20, 2008 02:39:23

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
Traditionally women are seen as victims and men as the attackers. Also, physically speaking, people don't see men as capable of being raped by women because (logically) men usually need to be into it for intercourse to occur.
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lfc August 20, 2008 02:05:50

Answered: I don't know why it is this way, but its stupid.
You have to have some screws loose to sleep with a 12 year old . Any student for that matter . You are suppose to be a professional . Anyone having sex with minors Has some serious issues ...
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Rog [Ninja]™ August 20, 2008 01:49:21

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
There's alot of double standards everywhere!!!
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firefighter22mfd August 20, 2008 00:36:34

Answered: I don't know why it is this way, but its stupid.
I don't know who Allanah Benton Wells is and never heard about it. The picture that you have beside the question isn't her, it is Debra Lafave. She is also accused of the same crime.
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Rondolce August 19, 2008 23:33:50

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
True, except of course she will be tried and will do time if she's convicted.. She'll be verbally abused by Jay, David, Conan and the rest. nobody would make jokes about a male teacher sleeping with a 12 year old girl.
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Trooping_the_Colour August 19, 2008 23:21:49

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
Absolutely. Men are over compensating for forcing women to be second class citizens 80+ years ago. We have the same issue over here.
A woman can walk into her office semi naked and be fine... although if a bloke looks at her in any way she doesn't like she can have him fired for sexual harasment. A bloke could walk in also semi naked (and he might look like Adonis) he will probably be fired for indecent exposure and being inappropriately attired. What's all that about?
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Janice August 19, 2008 23:06:36

Answered: Yes there is and its wrong.
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Neo August 19, 2008 22:00:39

Answered: People just don't see boys as victims.
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MaggieR... to Neo August 20, 2008 16:47:38

Lol...

But the boy was 12... he still had a couple more years to go for high school... 12 year olds are still more interested in skate boards and uh... tv?
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Neo to MaggieR... August 20, 2008 18:30:03

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MaggieR... to Neo August 20, 2008 18:31:24

Well... I couldn't name one! lol.
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coffee man August 19, 2008 21:36:21

Answered: People just don't see boys as victims.
There is a pretty big double standard when it comes to this. I think because it's a woman we see her as "in love" or we attribute some kind on emotion to the act that let's us say "Oh, it's just different". We see men in this situation as attackers and women as victims. It doesn't help that whenever us guys hear of a story like this our first reaction is "Where was that teacher when I was in 8th grade", but it's still a double standard. One of many in this country that sees men as aggressors and women as victims.