Is this wedding dress "offensive" for a Catholic wedding?

I was showing my wedding pictures to a co-worker when she commented that my wedding dress was not appropriate for a Catholic Church wedding because it was strapless. I wanted to cry. I want to know... I was showing my wedding pictures to a co-worker when she commented that my wedding dress was not appropriate for a Catholic Church wedding because it was strapless. I wanted to cry. I want to know what you all think! And the pictures are from my wedding! (more)
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  • +11 raves Danale June 04, 2007 05:25:57

    No

    Did you love your dress? Did your future hubby like the dress? Did you feel beautiful? Hopefully you said yes to all... That's all that matters! It was your day and the co-worker has issues that go beyond your wedding dress.
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  • [-] ♥Nikkigirl♥ August 12, 2009 07:09:30

    No

    its really pretty i dont think its offensive at all thats kinda weird
  • [-] BY July 07, 2009 05:05:49

    No

    Though I am not a Catholic, so I don't know if my opinion means anything in this case.
  • [-] kat_45658 June 05, 2009 01:10:07

    No

    No and you look beautiful in that dress!
  • [-] kmay June 01, 2009 21:42:17 (edited)

    No

    but this is......



    check out the M.O.T.B. on left [she forgot her top!]
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    More..
    http://www.m5board.com/vbulle...
  • [-] kat_45658 kmay June 05, 2009 01:09:46
    Uh eww
  • [-] tink1985 January 05, 2009 07:51:01

    No

    absolutely not. you look gorgeous. were you speaking to a woman from the middle east that is used to having to cover everything but her eyes? otherwise, there should be no problem, and it looks like everyone else agrees on here.
  • [-] blessing December 26, 2008 06:57:33 (edited)

    No

    I'm not Catholic so take my answer lightly in that respect. I did attend a Catholic school for a bit and have many Catholic friends who wore dresses like that similar to their la Quinceañera (which is performed in a Catholic church) and it was absolutely, more than fine-- practically perfect! None of them are married so I couldn't tell you... how it went for them there. I do know they would probably find this question silly and say its not offensive to them, any of their Catholic family and friends or the Catholic church (seeing as its a building, lol). :)
    PS: AnnaMarie, work on building your esteem/confidence in God and don't lose sight of Love especially when someone says something as stupid as that... my question (your question) to them: how old is she? Is she married? Does she have the kind of results you want in the area she is critiquing? She sounds a bit bitter, jealous and possibly overly religious. O and you look BEAUTIFUL in the pictures, GORGEOUS and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise! :) I hope you have a wonderful, long lasting, loving marriage!
  • +1 raves [-] rmcfarclark August 30, 2008 19:33:05

    Undecided

    shouldnt it only matter to you
  • +1 raves [-] Leopluradon [Not-So... August 29, 2008 11:22:22

    No

    If you feel beautiful in your dress, then that dress is perfect. Myy dress is going to be black and red with spiders and gothic crap hanging off it... People don't think that's appropriate, but I'll damn well wear a dress I paid so much for and look and feel beautiful in!

    Screw your co-workers, it's your day :)
  • +1 raves [-] mitch August 25, 2008 03:33:40

    No

    i thik you look absolutly gorgeous and i do not think its offensive in any way!!
  • [-] Amanda June 15, 2008 05:10:04

    No

    Why would it be??
  • [-] Lyssa May 27, 2008 15:39:06

    No

    I've seen people wear a lot more inapporpriate things to mass on Sunday. On your wedding day you should wear whatever you want as long as you feel beautiful!
  • [-] Robertswifey May 27, 2008 05:06:59

    No

    no! its a beautiful dress!
  • [-] Elissa May 27, 2008 05:03:56

    No

    That's ridiculous. It's beautiful, and I do not see how a wedding dress like that could be offensive. It's not like you're wearing...


  • [-] vv May 19, 2008 23:37:17

    No

    many people have strapless wedding dresses
  • [-] Jwalden --- Constitution Party May 18, 2008 13:31:12

    Undecided

    i am not Catholic, so I do not know all the 'technicals' of the denomination. I do think it is designed in good taste. It may be that the 'dress' could be viewed and discussed with the Parish that will perform the ceremony.
  • [-] catsnblue May 17, 2008 05:46:24

    Undecided

    The common practice in the Catholic Church used to be for women to always have their head and shoulders covered. It is not an indecent dress in the least. It is very pretty and you look beautiful in it, but I think she was simply commenting on a common Catholic tradition. It is ultimately up to the Priest presiding over the ceremony as to whether the shoulders of the bride need to be covered, but they used to all require that. Ultimately: Offensive? no, opposed to deep tradition? probably.
  • +3 raves [-] Mollybdamned American Atheist May 05, 2008 22:17:21

    No

    And you call her .......your friend? Keep the dress, get rid of the 'friend'.
  • [+] @udr3y May 05, 2008 22:15:06

    No

    moderated...
  • +2 raves [-] Lisa April 22, 2008 01:18:58

    No

    Not at all! There is absolutely nothing inappropriate about this dress and how dare she rain on your parade?! She probably gave you a cheap gift on top of it!
  • +2 raves [-] Justy Hakubi April 22, 2008 00:47:24

    No

    As a Catholic, No it's not offensive. Tell your snippy co-worker to shove it. Its a beautiful dress and is fine for Catholic wedding. Its not the 1950's.
  • +1 raves [-] cappsy has a barcode ~_~ April 21, 2008 20:37:12

    No

    No I'm catholic and I know a lot of people who wear those kind of dresses in Catholic weddings
  • +2 raves [-] gamman April 21, 2008 19:38:48

    No

    i don't consider it to be ...
    and yes i am a church going catholic too!
    Congrats on your nuptials too - you are a good looking couple!
  • +1 raves [-] Coal April 07, 2008 05:49:29

    No

    You looked beautiful with lots of class
  • +1 raves [-] Arel March 21, 2008 16:47:49

    No

    Your friend's comment is not appropriate. The dress is great!
  • +2 raves [-] Cow chic! February 05, 2008 18:31:36

    No

    a strapless dress is actually more comfortable than one with straps! by the way you look beautiful!!
  • +1 raves [-] ldub January 29, 2008 18:01:21

    No

    i am catholic and im going to have a catholic wedding and ill most likely be wearing a strapless dress.
  • +2 raves [-] mom2hnh~CSI Beaver~GUNNS January 14, 2008 12:36:42

    No

    That is very old school Catholic. I think your priest/church would have told you upfront if strapless was a problem. I know some churches or religions don't allow certain kinds of wedding attire (strapless, low back, etc) but they tell the bride of any restrictions before the wedding to avoid any problems. Don't feel bad sweetie, you look beautiful! Your co-worker was probably jealous that she couldn't wear such a pretty dress for her wedding.
  • +1 raves [-] Mantlemom January 10, 2008 05:37:11

    No

    Of course not! The only thing it is...is extraordinarily beautiful...as were you in it! Don't know what your co-worker's problem is...but it is obvious she has a serious one. Feel sorry for her and know you made your family very happy as you said your vows in your "strapless" dress!
  • [-] SRV1003 December 17, 2007 14:02:24

    No

    I think she needs to join us in the 21st century
  • +1 raves [+] Meg December 16, 2007 02:07:59

    No

    moderated...
  • -3 raves [+] JJ December 10, 2007 00:15:44

    Yes

    It is inappropriate attire in a church to have naked shoulders. Cover up! should have been a wedding dress, not a ball gown.
  • [-] selkie December 05, 2007 12:53:25

    No

    altho I can understand because you are supposed to have your head and shoulders covered but it depends on your own belief and looking at the pics your dress and the happy couple looked stunning.
  • +1 raves [-] YankeeInMS December 04, 2007 20:59:00

    No

    I think your gown is lovely and not offensive in any way. All your body parts are properly covered. Did this co-worker have a problem with your showing your arms or shoulders? That's the only thing I can see exposed and I don't think anyone (other than her) would find that offensive. Don't let her worry you and spoil your memories of the day. Best of luck to you and your hubby.
  • [-] Linda54 December 04, 2007 02:25:58

    No

    It's a beautiful dress and it's your wedding, you can wear whatever you want. I would not think yoyur dress was inappropriate.
  • [-] **Anji in Wonderland** December 03, 2007 19:03:03

    No

    of course not, that's ridiculous!! what a lovely dress and lovely photos!!!! =D
  • +2 raves [-] Starfckrs2 October 19, 2007 19:13:56

    No

    The dress is perfectly appropriate, and beautiful. My cousin was married in a Catholic church, and the dress she wore was strapless. I agree with Kayz, you need to tell your co-worker where she needs to shove her litte opinion...
  • +2 raves [-] Patty Ann September 29, 2007 04:44:55

    No

    It's beautiful.
  • [-] <--That guy August 14, 2007 20:34:29 (edited)

    No

    You looked fine. Besides, it's your day.
    (Edit) And another thing, God has probably seen you naked, so I doubt He'll really give a rat's ass if your shoulders were visible.
  • [-] blessing <--That... December 26, 2008 07:12:24
    lol! agreed! :)

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