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We can argue that "coming out" is not the same now as it was before, but would you say that it is still difficult, on a general scale, to admit to people around you that you are not straight?
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Answered No
It's much easier to come out today than it was even just 20 years ago. It's mostly a matter of personal perception ... the more comfortable a person is with him or herself, the easier it is to come out to family and friends. I think that the younger generations are more open to their friends or family members being gay or lesbian now. I'm actually basing my opinion on my kids and their friends opinions of homosexuality, though. They're all very open to gay, straight, lesbian or bi ... -
Answered Yes
I think it is difficult for young people to come out these days. When one is not confident of their belief and is fearful of standing up for themselves for many reasons, they hide. I do not mean this as an insult. Fact is, many lose their families over being gay, some turn away from their families and friends and some lead double lives. We see this all the time in the media, especially in the past 18 months with leaders caught leading double lives. Be true to yourself, no matter what others think of you. When we respect ourselves, we earn respect of others. Whoever has a problem with you being gay...well do you want them in your life anyway? I respect those who have a hard time coming out and I also remember my own issue many years ago. All that is past. I weeded out those who do not belong in my life. I hope you find your way. -
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It will always be difficult. When you have to tell your family and friends, you hope you know how they are going to act, but you never know until you do. I was 48 years old when I came out to my family including my wife and it was one of the most difficult things I have ever had to do. I never had any questions on if I was gay but I wanted to live up to the expectations of everyone else to get their acceptance. After 5 years my wife and I are just in the process of getting a divorce. I think it had more with me losing my job than being gay, but I will always be grateful because I had so much guilt that I would have probably never divorced, but know I can get on with the rest of my life and not have to live a lie. Scarry but exciting at the same time. -
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I told my family when I was 12 that I liked girls. I knew that I liked girls but I didn't really know I was gay. I just have always been pretty open and honest about myself and my feelings. My girlfriend hasn't told her father yet but her mother has known for years. It bothers me that it is such a big deal for her to tell him. We live together and are engaged. I know that I am just an open kind of person but I don't understand why it is so hard for her to come out to her dad. -
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I live in the midwest, where people aren't exactly open about these things. I mean that jerk Phelps came from here, but it wasn't difficult for me at all. It actually just seemed really natural to me, and no one has caused me any problems. I think I might just be lucky, but I'd not have it any other way. -
Yeah it's weird though. I live in the biggest city in the state of Kansas, which is the best place to live in the state if you have these issues to deal with, but I have had other gay friends here who have had problems with people. I don't know if it was just the fact that epople found me intimidating or something (people used to be very scared of me for the simple fact that I wore black and didn't talk much) bu no one has ever cared. Even my parents had no problems with it. I think we just got off easy. *high fives*
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Answered Yes
I am not gay, but my best friend is and he had a terrible time coming out. It depends on who you are and what circles you travel in. I quite enjoyed the rumors, for years people thought we were having an affair, how funny. He and I are so close people really couldn't understand the relationship. So many women threw themselves at him so they assumed he was some how committed to me because he never bit. What I do for my friends. Being married 18 years people talked. LOL When he did finally come out to his family I think he mother was relieved in a way. ( She hated me because she thought I was keeping him from getting married.) I was relieved too cuz it allowed me to clear my name. I do remember when he told me. He was so nervous and sweaty, we went to dinner and he told me over dessert. I was so happy he told me. I already knew, but I never wanted to pressure him into talking about it. I was just happy he didnt have to hide his feelings anymore, and we could talk about the things that best friends talk about, love, relationships..... men. I wouldnt trade him for the world I love him just the way he is. I just pray that more people like him gain the courage to free themselves of thier secret. He's so much happier now. -
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I think that depends on where you live and who you surround yourself with. I am out..not the type who runs amock screaming that I'm gay (I know a girl who does that and people find her extremely annoying) If someone asks I will tell them I have a partner...and I will answer any questions. I find people that are apprehensive tend to mellow out if I say "ask me anything"...and it amazes me what straight people want to know...lol. First is always "who's the man?" A lot of straight people assume that we ONLY have sex with toys..soo many questions and if you answer them with respect for yourself and the person asking them they tend to just take it in stride I find. Not everyone is as open as me though..lol Now my wife is not out...we live where her family is and they are all ministers, preachers, strict baptist and they all tend to make rude remarks about gays and lesbians and how of course we are gonna burn in the fiery pits of hell..yadda yadda..heard it before...and will hear it again...but she refuses to come out until after her mother passes away. She feels in her heart her mother would die praying for her., I have learned to repsect that, and if and when she ever does come out it will be on her terms, and when she is ready. My family loves us, loves her...but her family..even I dunno if I would want them to know. Might make life pretty miserable for us both. Hard enough dealing with the issues we face as a couple..certainly dont need all that drama..haha -
Nothing to be sorry about. You articulate your feelings and thoughts.
People who go on and on about their being gay is annoying. So are people who constantly make sexual innuendos (like at work). Friends, family, co-workers who have to tell in detail about their conquests and how they like to do it. To much info unless you ask or is relevant to a specific conversation.
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I live in the midwest, where people aren't exactly open about these things. I mean that jerk Phelps came from here, but it wasn't difficult for me at all. It actually just seemed really natural to me, and no one has caused me any problems. I think I might just be lucky, but I'd not have it any other way.