Aug 08, 2008 07:11PM GMT
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Clay Aiken is a father... Do you support gay couples' rights to raise a family?
Clay Aiken has made the news again by becoming a father. The mother is producer Jaymes Foster, and she conceived through artificial insemination.This got me thinking, how do people feel about children raised by gay parents? Do you support their right to be a family?
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raves posted Dec 14, 2008 05:06PM GMT
Answered I have mixed feelings about this issue.
I think people should do whats best for children. It shouldn't be about what the adults want. My guess is its probably harder socially for children with same sex parents. Maybe same sex couples should think about that before they decide. Its not a political statement. Its a child. -
raves posted Dec 05, 2008 02:48PM GMT
Answered I don't care either way.
I guess care either way. As long as the kids are going to safe homes. But instead of artificial insemination, why not adopt. There are tons of kids here in the States that need homes. If there is a gay couple that is willing to adopt a child then go for it. It beats the kids staying in foster homes an feeling like they are not wanted. -
raves posted Nov 23, 2008 02:50AM GMT
Answered Yes, I support gay families.
There are so many straight people who have kids, and abuse, molest, and neglect them, and as long as they don't get caught, no one thinks twice about it.
But two loving gay people who want to have a child can't? Just because of who they love?
Its not right.
And besides, I'm sure there are thousands of children in a adoption home who would love to have a family--gay or not, as long as they are loved. -
raves posted Nov 22, 2008 10:01PM GMT
Answered I have mixed feelings about this issue.
I don't think gay couples should have kids. I mean, how would you feel if you had two mommies or two daddies?
It's a personal choice, and as long as there's no BIG issues it's fine. I just don't think it's the best thing to do. -
raves +3 posted Sep 30, 2008 03:31PM GMT
Answered Yes, I support gay families.
I applaud everyone here~!
Yes, even some souls, potentially misguided in that they profess God proclaims homosexuality is an "obomination" (check the spelling, it is 'abomination'), when it is clear that God made everyone to be the way they are; it is in our DNA as human beings. God made DNA, do we agree? The "Word of God' has been manipulated by the fear of humankind over the centuries, rewritten to suit our fears and superstitions, for nothing is an extreme abhorrence in the eyes of the Lord. Only in our Human Fearful and Judging Eyes . . . is this kind of reaction made true for the viewer.
We humans continue to believe in something that has been corrupted by our human intervention, rewriting sacred books to fit our attitudes rather than God's Grace ~ and then we hide in it as if God wrote it.
THAT, is an abomination, in my opinion.
Just as there are "normal, nuclear families, parented by heterosexuals" who may be horribly malcontent, to put it mildly, there are also "normal, nuclear families, parented by homosexual couples", who may also be horribly malcontent.
Just as many exist, statistically, in each case. The truth is in the love, people. -
raves +1 posted Sep 29, 2008 08:51AM GMT
Answered Yes, I support gay families.
If I had the choice I would rather be raised by two men or women that were nice then alcholic parents that would beat me but there are kids that don't get a choice and get beaten or worse so why not gays or lesbians -
raves +3 posted Sep 28, 2008 10:24PM GMT
Answered Yes, I support gay families.
but this question is skewed. The article cited doesn't say Aiken is gay (though he has come out), doesn't say the mother is gay, nor does it say that they're a "couple".
So I don't see how you're question relates to the article.
But I guess that's nitpicking, eh? -
raves Nov 22, 2008 10:04PM GMT (edited)Just because kids have straight parents doesn't mean they're taught to hate gay people. If having the option to have gay couples with kids turns a normal family into something like that, then you have issues.
And if those were made by Christians, then it's right. Homosexuality is against the bible. It's a fucking funny way of saying it. -
raves -5 posted Sep 28, 2008 06:38PM GMT
Answered No, I think its wrong.
I feel that if you can't do it the way nature intended, it probably shouldn't be done at all. With these questions, why are the future feelings of the child actually thrown in the middle of it all never included or taken into consideration at all? God meant for children to have a mother and a father. That is the ultimate way to parent and the way it was meant to be. Changing things that have been going on for thousands of generations to fit your own agenda is just selfish and not a good thing. -
raves +3 Sep 28, 2008 10:23PM GMTso are you saying that its ok for a man and woman WHO ARE NOT MARRIED- to have a child and raise that child as a family with no Marriage License?
Are you saying that is a married heterosexual couple want a divorce they should NOT- because because of the children- even if the children see the anger and hate and hear the arguing and God forbid the physical abuse?
And also- let us not forget MANY And I Do Mean MANY Gay and Lesbians have children well in a heterosexual marriage- then come to terms with whom they are and divorce - so are you saying they should not be allowed to see or be apart of their children's lives? -
raves Dec 14, 2008 06:21PM GMTAdults should act like adults. If you have children you should honor the promise you made when you were married. At least stay in the marriage and act civilly untill the children are adults. People too often put their wants and feelings above the needs of their children. Its shameful.
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raves +2 posted Sep 28, 2008 05:49PM GMT
Answered No, I think its wrong.
I think it puts the child(ren) under an enormous strains having to try and understand the dynamics of it - not having the traditional "mom and dad" but a "dad and dad" or a "mom and mom," and then trying to deal with the pressures of peers and acceptance. And as much as we want to think that kids shouldn't have to deal with these things, it is our reality that they do.
It's ironic that this question appeared not too long after someone made an example of how confused a young black male child would be if adopted by a gay white male couple (which, of course, has actually happened). I just couldn't imagine being that child having to grow up in a situation like that; the identity crisis this kid faces is horrible!
It is for reasons like that, I don't think it's in a child's best interest to be raised by a gay couple; however, I do believe that every situation is unique and should be based upon the merits involved. But overall, my opinion is against it. -
raves Sep 28, 2008 06:40PM GMTThis is something that I wonder too. If people will think back to when we were teenagers, we would all remember how cruel children can be to others who come from regular families. I can just hear the teasing that some of these children will no doubt have to endure in the good name of liberalism.
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raves +5 Sep 28, 2008 10:25PM GMT
Answered Yes, I support gay families.
A family is a family.What defines the family is its ability to bond and grow in a nurturing way.How unnatural is it when a dog adopts a duck or a cat allows a dog to suckle and raises it for its very own.
What is so abnormal if a mother dies and the dad raises the child by his self. What if he never marries but always has male buddies over. Why would a mere sexual act change the concept of a family or nurturing or the job a parent is performing.
Before you pass judgment why not ask the kids of gay couples how they feel about the issue. Do you not think they hold a more credible response to this poll question, then us outsiders looking in?