Jun 19, 2008 02:06PM GMT
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Relationships - Dating
Where have manners gone?
Do any guys ever open car door for a woman? Do any walk on the outside of woman when walking? And cell phones in restaurants!!!
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raves posted 7 days ago (edited)
Answered I have manners
Great questionI It's a pet peeve of mine. I think I have good manners(I HOPE I do!)
I don't know what has happened to manners and common courtesy. I miss all those polite behaviors I was taught, growing up; taught, not just by my mother. I received "lessons" in good manners from, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, neighbors, Priests, Nuns, teachers, and coaches.And they did NOT mind repeating themselves until I got it!
I thank them one and all. -
raves +1 posted Jul 15, 2008 02:22AM GMT (edited)
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They don't teach them in school anymore, either, so kids don't get it at home they don't get them at all. In my son's class at school you would not believe how they are and then in the lunch room it is like a war zone. I have to eat outside when have lunch at school. If we did not say thank you and please we did not get what we asked for, especially at the table. -
raves +3 posted Jun 28, 2008 05:10PM GMT
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OMG! if I didn't have the correct manners as a child, I would have gotten slapped...LIke Never address an adult with disrespect. Like children don't speak in adult conversations. To sending thank you notes, to No talking back what so ever...No yelling, no swearing, no pointing, no gossip. Manners can go too far. However there is only a trickle of polite people. I go out of my way for people all the time. At an early age I taught my daughter not to talk with food in her mouth, and when she goes to her friends houses, the parents are amazed at her level of kindness and concern. We must teach our children manners. Everything needs boundaries even behavior. Men used to treat women with the upmost respect, like they knew they had to earn their way with her. Nowadays its like the first date they want everything. Now is acceptable and expected. I went to manners school and the thing with manners is; with them, you can't tell where you are from. I love that... -
raves +1 posted Jun 21, 2008 05:41AM GMT
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i have manners i went to private school all my life until last year but they have remained burned in my brain and as for guys well at this summer program all the guys there are really nice and well mannered.... in our click the guys take our trash at lunch open the doors and stuff well i guess its cuz me and my bff steph are like da only girls and there is like 7 guys in our click lol -
raves +1 posted Jun 20, 2008 12:49PM GMT
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something I can proudly say I was raised with good manners,but it's a miss in some people,I would have got a clip round the ear if I ever talked back to an adult as a child,I find the simple chester of holding a door open for someone are rare these days. -
raves +3 posted Jun 20, 2008 11:50AM GMT
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My parents raised me well enough to still have manners. I do still open the car door for my wife, as long as I am not loading up the little on in the car first. Please and thank you, sir and maam....the kids these days are lacking!!! -
raves +2 posted Jun 20, 2008 11:43AM GMT
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Mother was merciless when teaching manners, but I am grateful, and appreciate the 'finer' traits in people - manners. A reflection of a kinder, gentler time, when 'manners' were the norm, and expected.
Hope all of you are sitting up straight this morning! -
raves +3 posted Jun 20, 2008 11:39AM GMT
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...Most of the time!
Manners are learned behavior-I have noticed with many of my children's friends that they have not been taught how to use manners-my children have been taught that you ask-not demand, always say please and thank you, and adult is Mr or Mrs, and I could go on and on but it starts with the parents and I think alot of parents have lost theirs so they are never passed on to the children today. -
raves +1 posted Jun 20, 2008 06:20AM GMT
Answered None of the above
They've gone the way of so many other important traditions of a civilized and nice culture,,behaving well is fun. It feels good to hold a door for a complete stranger and to hear them say appreciatively, "Thank you."as a society we need to take a big breath, slow down for one second and re-evaluate our priorities,,the thoughts and feelings of others should be pre-eminent in everything we do. If something offends, bothers or hurts others, then it is wrong
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raves +1 posted Jun 20, 2008 05:23AM GMT
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I try to show manners but sometimes I am quite rude . I am really bad about interrupting and it sure isn't because I have so much of import to say. I just know i will forget if i dont speak now and i cant get past that habit.Now one time some friends asked me to go have pizza with them after church , and their little 4year old ran ahead and opened the door for me . Now that is bringing a kid up with some manners. And another friend always has her grandson carry in my groceries when i go shopping with them. So , although alot of us don't have the manners we should be aware some are doing fine. -
raves +3 posted Jun 20, 2008 04:44AM GMT
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I do have manners. My parents where sticklers. I do the same with my children and I make it a point to show them when people around them do and don't use manners. I find other people to be great teaching tools. Be careful someone is always watching!!! -
raves +5 posted Jun 20, 2008 01:53AM GMT
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I think it just depends on where you are....in the military everyone is pretty helpful, my husband and I had a flat after PT and within minutes we had 5 people helping us someone had a jack another person was pulling our spare out of the trunk....our jack had snapped. The small group had the tire changed within five minutes it was really cool. -
raves +4 posted Jun 20, 2008 01:47AM GMT
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Manners are appalling out there today. People won't even make room for you to walk past them at the store. Please, thank you, sir and ma'am are treated like dirty words.
I think its a regional/cultural thing though. I was in Denver recently and everyone I met was polite. Even people at 7-11 asked how I was doing and they meant it! They see hundreds of people a day. Weird. -
raves +1 posted Jun 20, 2008 01:43AM GMT
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ANd I made sure I instilled them, at times with firmness, in my sons. I have had strangers remark now polite my boys were when I took them out places, and how they would always say "Yes, please." "No, thank you." and would actually write thank you notes to people who gave them gifts.
It only takes a little effort on the part of the parent/parents. None of this "No no honey, that's not nice." when a child misbehaves. A stern no, and then punishment (go to their rooms, make them sit in corner, or whatever works) is more effecting than this silly Politically Correct crap of reasoning' with an out of control child. -
raves +3 posted
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I take pride in the fact that my parents instilled the necessity for being polite, helping others, and also using good manners in me. I will be glad to do the same for my children.