You don't owe it to anyone to be pretty. Should we teach this to all girls?

That is just wrong. To not TRY to be pretty for someone? By someone, I mean yourself 1st. a). It helps you feel better about yourself. b) If you want a happier relationship if you are in one, does your partner, date, spouse, etc not deserve to see a prettier you? c) Do you not appreciate the efforts of YOUR date, partner or spouse? d) DMS 5, a medical update going on from about 1986 changed Psychology and Sociology in 1986 so that Gay men and Lesbian women should NO LONGER receive Lobotomies because of the way a Gay and Lesbian person(s) are Gay or Lesbian. A HUGE breakthrough for Manitoba Canada at least as the Last Lobotomy for people who desire same sex relationships, the update to that 1st DMS 2 at the time was made in 2008. Through major studies across the globe, it has been PROVEN that Women or Men mostly try to be their prettiest and best for THEMSELVES 1st. 1) It helps one have more confidence in oneself thus doing better at jobs, schools or even just at home. 2). It helps Women and Men, Boys and Girls instill confidence in themselves for all things least of not which is one is sick with Cancer. Trying to look their best has been proven to actually help people fight their Cancer more so than anything except loved ones, which SHOULD be reason enough. I know that my Mother had gone through a small period of NOT trying to look her best. But then Cancer changed all of that for her the 2nd time she was Diagnosed with Cancer, then the 3rd and 4th times. Even this last time at age 67 , once again she was diagnosed with not just Terminal Cancer but L.E.M.S as well. She felt a lot better about herself, loved those that made every effort to help her more than before, she had a bounce in her step even though she'd had one breast half removed when she was only 24, the other breast a complete mastectomy at age 42, a complete Hysterectomy at age 43, a removal of her left lung at age 67, for only a month. I mean she JUST turned 67,, and KNEW, they told her all the cancer was gone and she was so happy, but they also told her that, `Just in case, they wanted to do a 10 day period of radiation. She really had a LOT of help then, she had been bald from previous chemo, they gave her 4 or 5 wigs she looked so pretty in, they taught her newer methods of light make up to make herself prettier without over doing it, they gave her free passes to the big Red River Ex, Horse Racing at the Assinaboin Downs, The Gold Eye`s Baseball Games, etc that she would never have done had she not felt her prettiest for the time. But the radiation brought the Cancer back 10 fold. Still, she tried to look her best through another round of Chemo, she called me our Thanks Giving Morning, October 7th 2012. She had baked, cooked with the help of my Daughters as I had Pneumonia and could not be close to her on her last round of Chemo, but she looked awesome! Glowing even. But by evening she ended up bed ridden, by night she ended up in the Hospital, when Swan River Hospital knew they kept her too long and no longer knew what to do for her, they Ambulanced her by highway to the nearest larger town of Dauphin on the 13th of October 2012, she could not be Flown here to Winnipeg missing a Lung. At 340am exactly, October 14th, she died with my Father, Eldest Daughter and Aunty Anne holding her. I lived too far away to get there in time but still, I know my eldest Daughter and my Aunty Anne made her look as best as possible, my Father got her pears, anything, because she wanted to try and eat and even to sit up, as she felt pretty in Spirit. She wasn`t ready she said. To `Go Home.` Feeling pretty at the worst time helped her try harder to live, gave her more confidence. I will be forever grateful to my eldest Daughter and Aunt Anne for trying to help her look pretty. Though it broke my Dad`s heart to see his pretty cute wife of 49 years just go like that, she`d sent everyone on a short task and she died seconds before they returned. She knew time was up. But the point is, if she had not tried she could to look pretty, she may have given up and died at least months earlier. The DMS 5 also showed that looking their best was MORE beneficial in Terminal Cancer Patients than not. Even more so than laughter! Imagine, having Cancer so bad and looking worse. Where would your fight be? Having no hair or unwashed greasy hair due to lack of energy and weakness alone would most likely defeat a lot of people, but the wigs she was given, and the light pretty make up that suited her so well, even if she needed assistance, seemed to make a big difference with her time left with us 3) School Students, looking pretty or handsome as possible gives them much needed confidence they might otherwise lack. And what husband or wife wants to go home from work day after day only to see their partner ALWAYS looking as though they are not even trying to make their partner happy? There is just so many reasons to try and look one's best and I know, as a Nurse that these facts we studied, really do work in helping so many illnesses, relationships, lowered suicide attempts, etc. And, lastly, what does it really hurt you to try and look your best even if just for yourself? It is human nature to gravitate to those that have even the tiniest thing to make them look prettier, as tiny as a beret in the hair. Gets people better jobs, etc. Even if one is but crack ugly, , one can always make oneself look better and it feels good to them. I am approaching 49 this summer, or fall depending where one lives, I try for myself and if I should happen to run across my soul mate this late in life, I will have more confidence on the impression I made as 1st impressions do matter. Don't they? When I had Cancer, it took |Doctors a long time to figure out because hey thought I looked too healthy, but I had a Hysterectomy in the morning, and by night, with the help of my friend Vera, another Nurse, we put o my usual make-up. jewelry, did my hair and she brought me the prettiest jammies and house coat ever! By mid night I was hungry, I went to the main floor to get a snack and drink from the vending machines. On the elevator back up to my room my room, my long term Family Doctor a/Specialist, friend and co-worker along with his Anesthesiologist were standing at the elevator doors. They had been looking for me as my Doctor was impatient to wait till morning to let me know that they were successful in removing all the cancer and had to look twice to know the lone 28 year old woman in the elevator. They were both so shocked at my appearance. My ex husband said I wasn't a real woman anymore when he'd popped in for 2 seconds after I woke from the 5 hour surgery was and then when I was released after only 3 days instead of 6 . He tried to get me back but no way! I returned to work with my Doctor's approval after 3 weeks. I had been on my rowing machine and was doing exercises I hadn't been supposed to do yet, that with nice cloths, a bit of make-up and I felt well enough and pretty enough to face whatever the world had to through at me including a lazy no working cheating husband who was got rid of within the following month. Now his 6th wife had a Hysterectomy. She gave up on her appearance. He is worse with her than with anyone but this woman I know, and there is no way he can shake her now. I would like to say Karma on that. It always comes when needed.weeks But on the other hand, definitely not for him, but for herself, she should try looking her best. She may not know it yet but it will help her in so many ways. She has a surprise for her up-coming Birthday, a complete pampering make over and massage as a gift from my eldest Daughter and my Daughter's Step Sister :D I can't see what I'm typing anymore so please forgive placement of words and typos, but I'm sure I got my point So in the end, I say you owe it to yourself if not anyone who has to look at you day in and day out.............................