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WOULD YOU STAY IN A MARRIAGE WITHOUT LOVE OR INTIMACY??

Treasure ♥ijm♥ 2009/09/15 11:41:29
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  • Rob 2012/12/31 13:19:06
    Rob
    +8
    Living without love and affection is painful, then you start to believe that it is all your fault.
    A mate can become a master at doing this, not because of meanness but to keep the game going. If that once spark is now gone either rekindle it or for your own self worth move on and find someone who is real.

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  • Sheetal Madhukar Jadhav 2014/02/26 15:51:49
  • catherine 2013/05/18 07:20:52
    catherine
    No I'm trek g to get out as we speak
  • prabasri 2013/02/24 18:06:24 (edited)
    prabasri
    +2
    Im married since 2007. we have a 4 year old daughter.We have been living separately for the last one and a half years. During that period my wife made enormous efforts to separate the child from me. However, i didnt give up and got the right of taking the child to my home once a week during day time through a court order. My daughter loves me very much. I love her so much and I cannot give up her. I would have get divorced a long time back, If the kid was not there. I cannot let her feel that she doesnt have a father. Recently she was hospitalized because of an infection and during these days I was able to develop some intimacy with wife.I even had sex at her invitation and that was after four years. I did so because now I have decided to settle with her for the sake of the child. I don't love her and it's very hard to forget the evil things she did to me. Now I have made up my mind to live with a wife that i dont love. I am trapped. I see that my daughter needs me desperately!!!!!!!!!! Can any one give me some opinion ?????????????
  • Rob prabasri 2013/04/17 13:28:15
    Rob
    Once a mind is made up to move on it is difficult to get back that feeling for the other person.
    Separation/divorce is a big pain to do and go through, so we tend to settle and days and time go by and we loose out on the beautiful times we can have with another who does not control, appreciate or take for granted. The thing to do is find that special someone who appreciates you and still stay in the life of your daughter as a happy person. There are other opinions out there. Good luck! this is a tough one.
  • prabasri Rob 2013/04/24 09:11:14
    prabasri
    Thank you Rob for your opinion.
  • Mame prabasri 2013/09/11 15:30:55
    Mame
    +1
    it is live or die!!! live for somebody else in expence of your joy,life-but the other choice by it self is very tough.
  • Rob 2012/12/31 13:19:06
    Rob
    +8
    Living without love and affection is painful, then you start to believe that it is all your fault.
    A mate can become a master at doing this, not because of meanness but to keep the game going. If that once spark is now gone either rekindle it or for your own self worth move on and find someone who is real.
  • douglas... Rob 2014/08/08 16:48:22
    douglasstearns
    +1
    it's is the truth I wish I could do with my wife and I cannot rekindle the old flame anymore it's gone and never come back ! for me with her!
  • Meg 2012/10/27 05:37:02
    Meg
    +3
    Don't ever stay when love and intimacy are gone. You will end up so regretful and lonely
  • Meg 2012/10/27 05:33:18
    Meg
    +1
    I have been married for 32 years. The last 15 I have not loved him romantically. The last 5 without sex. I could not be more miserable. Grown children really upset when I tried to separate. Guess I just have to have a career only with nothing else for me. The loneliness when I am not working is so bad I just work more. Have a great impressive career but it is not enough anymore.
  • Selketskiss 2012/03/22 21:26:32
  • douglas... Selkets... 2012/04/23 16:38:00
    douglas moser
    +2
    Yes as i would not live without her. We only have sex about 3 or 4 times a year. She works nights and i,m on days. She comes home at 6 .am and we kiss goodbl by and then i go off to work. We have 3hours in the evenig before she leaves for work. A on the weekend we are tierd and just don,t feel like it and its getting worse. As we are starting to prefere sleeplng alone. Yet i love her dearly.
  • sglmom 2012/03/18 02:14:32
    sglmom
    +1
    In order to answer this question .. (which is interesting indeed)

    I first have to separate out .. make a distinction ..
    Between INTIMACY (feelings, emotions, shared thoughts, experiences .. a very close personal relationship with another that is respectful and mutual)
    Vice ..
    Sex (which too many just engage in .. thoughtlessly).

    Love to me .. Love and Intimacy are intertwined in that respectful, familiar .. mutual unit called a family ..
    For no matter what .. sickness or health .. IF I was in a relationship .. mutual, respectful, faithful .. it would be honored indeed ..

    (that is what I would define as marriage .. a mutual, respectful, faithful, honorable relationship) ..


    There's some deal breakers for me however ..
    cheating, abuse (of any kind) .. that is not a marriage at all .. and should be left behind ..
  • D D 2012/03/10 11:00:40
    D D
    +2
    I take it by intimacy you mean sex. Thing is, not all sex is intimate. I have been married 20 years and sex has not been intimate.

    Anyway, yes, I could stay married without love or intimacy but I would find someone I could be that way with outside the marriage. I would stay married for children. Even without kids (like I am) I would go and find love and sex somewhere else. My husband could as well.
  • Jedi Master 2012/03/10 04:44:50
    Jedi Master
    +3
    i love my wife but the intimacy has gone a few years ago so intimacy is really hard on the relationship.
  • Jedi Ma... Jedi Ma... 2012/03/10 05:34:52
    Jedi Master
    +2
    I should say the lack of intimacy is hard on the relationship
  • Texas Gal 2012/03/10 04:08:44
    Texas Gal
    +3
    I wouldn't and I didn't.
  • Crime Time 2012/03/10 03:40:28
  • La 2012/03/10 03:29:44
    La
    +3
    Probably not, unless there were kids involved and the man was still good to me. I think I would need him to still love me, even if I didn't love him.
  • Your friendly neighborhood ... 2012/03/10 03:23:10
    Your friendly neighborhood stalker
    +3
    I'd try to fix it first.
  • Mickey 2012/03/09 23:36:04
    Mickey
    +4
    yes, if there were kids involved.
  • Danny Barker 2012/03/09 20:05:07
    Danny Barker
    +2
    No to me it is not worth it.that is just the way I feel about. to some it might be wrong,but that me and you are you.
  • D D Danny B... 2012/03/10 11:02:41
    D D
    +1
    I respect that. I feel bad for the person you are leaving though and kids (if any).
  • Danny B... D D 2012/03/10 19:16:56
    Danny Barker
    +2
    don't feel sorry for me .feel sorry for her she lost the good one.
  • Rob Danny B... 2013/11/05 01:53:03
    Rob
    That is the magic answer
  • Arizona1950 2012/03/09 18:41:08 (edited)
    Arizona1950
    +2
    I would regarding the intimacy part if by what you mean is sex. There can be a number of reasons why sex can stop but love and intimacy doesn't. But a marriage without love, intimacy, or sex? Well, lets say I hope he travels a lot. lol ... and no I wouldn't be cheating if that's what you thought. But, I would be occupying my time with things I enjoy without him. Love, intimacy and even sex can (if healthy enough) be rekindled if a spark is still there.
  • D.G.rocks 2012/03/09 18:33:25
  • wtxwoman 2012/03/09 16:32:26
    wtxwoman
    +3
    I was married to my late husband almost 21 years. I was totally sex free for 15 years of that time due to his disabling stroke. Love and sex can go together, but don't have to. And, there is all kinds of intimacy besides sex.
  • Treasur... wtxwoman 2012/03/10 13:55:57
    Treasure ♥ijm♥
    +2
    You're right my friend. ;)
  • p18711 2012/03/09 16:13:16
    p18711
    lets find out
  • Jackie G - Poker Playing Pa... 2012/03/09 15:45:24
    Jackie G - Poker Playing Patriot
    +3
    Not without love - Love is necessary
  • Th8nos 2012/03/09 15:43:49
    Th8nos
    +2
    What is the point of it then???
  • D D Th8nos 2012/03/10 11:04:50
    D D
    +1
    The commitment to go through life together?
  • catherine D D 2012/05/25 01:01:01
    catherine
    +2
    I'm big on vows, but would if the other partner has no interest in making a move or ever communicating if I'm going to be married I want a relationship there is not even freindship
  • D D catherine 2012/05/25 13:37:14
    D D
    If there is not even friendship that would be very difficult.
  • Rob Th8nos 2013/07/19 12:53:06
    Rob
    You are so right
    What is the point?
  • MisterD 2012/03/09 15:41:15
  • Dagon 2012/03/09 15:38:21
  • Quazar 2012/03/09 15:33:51
    Quazar
    Is she rich?
  • john 2012/03/09 15:30:59
    john
    +4
    Depends how long you had been in the relationship, but if your partner does not want sex and love, then you have to make decisions to whether you leave or find comfort elsewhere or stay in a loveless relationship....

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