Would you have sex with someone who had had over 100 partners?
☆ElenaDiamond☆
2012/07/11 04:09:12
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Your hatred of people who have had sex with many others is obviously built upon something that happened to you, or perhaps how you were raised.
It is not a normal thing anyway to dislike someone simply because they have a healthy sex life.
But I dont blame you, Americans often have poor attitudes and understanding of sex.
You mistake not wanting to emulate them or wanting to have sex with them as hate. Typical of someone with your mindset.
So what if you meet the man of your dreams, only oh no, it turns out he has had sex with a lot of people, sounds fun.
If he had that many partners he is not the man of my dreams. Simple as that.
So you just admitted to judging a book by its cover, let me give you a hypothetical.
A nice guy walks up to you (wherever) and starts to talk about something you are interested in, you become friends and for a while you stay that way, eventually you realise your both in love with each other, but oh no! Disaster, shortly after you find out this man has had thousands of sexual partners
Tell me, what changes?
Before I even considered a romantic relationship with him there are certain things that must be discussed. Sexual history is one of them. Period. Moral values, goals, Roles in relationships. All are important factors in determining what type of relationship I will have.
You should try it sometime.
Getting nowhere fast, had fun
Promiscuity is considered a prominent symptom of Bi-polar disorder.
reference for frequent sexual contacts is not necessarily the same as being sexually indiscriminating. The latter, in women, indicates a possible compulsive, and therefore, pathological quality to the excessive sexual behavior, referred to traditionally as nymphomania. (In men, it is called satyriasis.) Such indiscriminating or sometimes even random sexual behaviors can be commonly seen in various mental disorders such as psychosis, manic episodes, substance abuse and dependence, dissociative identity disorder, as well as borderline, narcissistic and antisocial personalities, and can, in fact, often be partially diagnostic of such pathological conditions.
http://www.psychologytoday.co...
Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker, in their recent book, “Premarital Sex in America.” Their research, which looks at sexual behavior among contemporary young adults, finds a significant correlation between sexual restraint and emotional well-being, between monogamy and happiness — and between promiscuity and depression.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/0...
Two types of sexual impulsivity were assessed through two self-report items that ...
Promiscuity is considered a prominent symptom of Bi-polar disorder.
reference for frequent sexual contacts is not necessarily the same as being sexually indiscriminating. The latter, in women, indicates a possible compulsive, and therefore, pathological quality to the excessive sexual behavior, referred to traditionally as nymphomania. (In men, it is called satyriasis.) Such indiscriminating or sometimes even random sexual behaviors can be commonly seen in various mental disorders such as psychosis, manic episodes, substance abuse and dependence, dissociative identity disorder, as well as borderline, narcissistic and antisocial personalities, and can, in fact, often be partially diagnostic of such pathological conditions.
http://www.psychologytoday.co...
Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker, in their recent book, “Premarital Sex in America.” Their research, which looks at sexual behavior among contemporary young adults, finds a significant correlation between sexual restraint and emotional well-being, between monogamy and happiness — and between promiscuity and depression.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/0...
Two types of sexual impulsivity were assessed through two self-report items that queried participants about (1) having sex with individuals whom respondents hardly knew (i.e., casual sexual relationships) and (2) promiscuity. Across the entire sample, those with borderline personality symptomatology evidenced at least twice the rate of endorsement of these items compared to those without such symptomatology. This proportion was also closely approximated in the various subsamples (i.e., psychiatric, internal medicine, and other medical subsamples). These findings indicate that a substantial minority of patients with borderline personality symptomatology exhibit sexual impulsivity in the form of casual sexual relationships as well as promiscuity.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/p...
Try that on for size.
Having many more partners than average is considered a sexual health risk.
And that risk extends to your emotional health as well. "The impact of these high risk behaviors on one’s emotional health includes making dangerous choices that lead to more and more risk. This cycle can lead to problems with self-concept, ineffective relationships, and even depression," notes Fitzgerald.
With depression, the door swings both ways: Promiscuity may actually be a symptom of depression. And obviously, having multiple sexual partners makes it difficult to sustain a healthy relationship. Studies show that people in long-term, healthy relationships enjoy better health and greater longevity.
http://www.everydayhealth.com...
I would like to hear what you have to say.
Everything you have wrote above comes from seeing it only through a certain perspective.
To make it easier for you, please answer how having sex with a lot of people makes me less of a person?
What do I lose?
How does being good at getting girls into bed make me less of a person?
Its not like I go out of my way to meet hundreds of women, I just live and work in atmospheres were I am often surrounded by women, I seldom meet a woman is who is desperate enough to look for a relationship out of sex.
Is that your problem, you feel like if someone is not in a relationship with there sexual partners they are disturbed?
Also, I know a girl who caught an STD the first time she had sex, she didn't think it was likely so she didn't get herself checked until a lot later (When complications started occurring) so don't think you're safe just because your partner has had a few partners. Also those who have sex more and with more people, are more likely to get tested.