Would you forgive your spouse for cheating on you in your own house ?

That happened early on in my first marriage. I did not know that however until many years later. It had been only one of several. It took a crisis counselor to get me through that but because it had been so many years before I ultimately forgave her. However at about years 37 it happened again and that was unforgivable and we divorced.

Thanks Mrkando !

You must be a great guy !

Well thank you Tudie! Very nice of you to say that.

It turned out to be for the best. I am married again to a wonderful woman I trust completely. My first wife lives alone and seems okay with that. We are friends again as we had two children together and now three grandchildren.

There is much more about it to consider first, but that it happened in my house would not help anything, that's for sure!

Thanks Pearl !

Thanks Disco Pickle !

No, as I plan on getting a prenup before I get married, so if she wants to cheat she would forfeit any claim to anything I own and her claim would be restricted to anything we buy jointly.

Which I would never do if I didn't trust someone anyway. As after an event like this I would be tempted to tell her to get all her stuff and never come back.

Thank sCurmudgeon !

No way! I wouldn't forgive anyone for cheating on me.

Thanks Jenna !

I would forgive, yes - but I wouldn't forget. No second chances on that.

Thanksd Tinka123 !

just no. that's all.

Thanks themadhare ! Case Closed ! lol

You're welcome Tudie!

HELL NO!!!
if he did he would live here

Thanks ini ! lol

Not really sure. If that ever happened to me, I think that I would defiantly be on the verge of throwing them out. I think, knowing me, I would want to try to save the marriage if it was worth saving. Otherwise, if it wasn't, then I would probably throw them out.

Thanks It'skrissie !

yup:)

How could it be worth saving?

People make mistakes. Yes, cheating to most people is not considered a mistake. What if the marriage was going through a rough patch? I have seen marriages that have cheating involve, but when they paused to see if they could try to fix it, they were successful and ended up being happy with each other. Yes, cheating is a leap of a obstacle to get over in a marriage, but if you cheated on your boyfriend/husband and realized you made a fatal mistake, wouldn't you do everything in your power to try to fix the relationship? If the person does not want to fix the marriage then it is safe to say that there is nothing there to save.

I don't think so..... even though I don't want to get married. If my spouse cheated on me and worse in my own house; I'd kick him out. Like come on! At least have the decency to get a hotel room. Ugh.

Thanks Xochiti !

Where the adultery happened would not be my main concern in such matters, it would be a side-note at best.

Thanks Q !

I think it would forever change the marriage. There are some rifts that can never be repaired.

Thanks mark !

Absolutely... and then I would help them pack, make sure they had their tooth brush and few bucks and wish them the very best on their new found path in life.

Thanks U-Dog ! LOL

What can I say, I am a pretty caring guy and once I care about a person I will always care. I am a big enough boy to take heartbreak without getting irrationally jealous and stupid about it too but once the trust is broken you might as well be trying to put Humpty Dumpty back together again... Been there once or twice, burned the t-shirt and moved on.-)

it depends on how much i love him and how they treat me and the terms of the relationship. I guess i really don't know what i would do until it actually happens

I did not!

Depends on how much i truly love them and how they treat me. I might or might not forgive them.

Nope i would never forgive a spouse for cheating.Where getting a divorce in the next couple of days.And hes moving out the same day.

Thanks Honeybuns !

Your welcome :)

i'm not sure what i would do