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Would you ever partake in an arranged marriage?

ANGEL 2012/04/30 00:52:45
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An arranged marriage is a practice in which someone other than the couple makes the selection as to who they will marry. Such marriages have its roots in royal and aristocratic
families around the world. Today, arranged marriage is largely
practiced in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Africa, the Mid East, Asia,
etc.


Other groups that practice this custom include the Unification
Church and Hasidic Jews. Arranged marriages are usually seen in
Indian, traditional European and African cultures, especially among
royalty, and are usually decided by the parents or an older family
member. The match could be selected by parents or a match-maker, or some
other third party. Priests or religious leaders as well as relatives or family friends may play a major role in matchmaking. To my knowledge, in this day and age, this is not
something practiced in Christianity, Scientology, Jehovah's Witness.


Would you ever partake in an arranged marriage?
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  • rosesvengeance BN-0 2012/05/01 09:03:46
    Never
    rosesvengeance BN-0
    +2
    I believe in love and freedom of choice too much.
  • Leah 2012/04/30 22:08:52
    Never
    Leah
    +2
    I am totally against the idea of arranged marriage. I don't believe that is true love. (On the other hand, my great-grandparents were in an arranged marriage. I never met them, but my mom claims they really did love each other.) It's not for me, though.
  • ID51 2012/04/30 12:58:42
    Never
    ID51
    +2
    I'm far too indepdent for that kind of thinking. Besides, it is difficult enough to choose a compatible, long term partner when one has a good mind and working knowledge of themself. I would not want anyone else choosing for me.
  • alanh 2012/04/30 10:53:06
    Other thoughts...
    alanh
    +4
    If I arranged it!!
  • ANGEL alanh 2012/05/01 16:48:15
    ANGEL
    +1
    Great answer!
  • alanh ANGEL 2012/05/02 10:33:44
    alanh
    +1
    Thank you!
  • ANGEL alanh 2012/06/21 02:40:03
    ANGEL
    +1
    OMG - Who is that beautiful baby?
  • alanh ANGEL 2012/06/22 02:00:33
    alanh
    +1
    That is my new grandson Abel! Thank you for asking.
  • Lady Whitewolf 2012/04/30 09:39:57
    Never
    Lady Whitewolf
    +2
    Does this say it??? Does this say it
  • art1ej 2012/04/30 08:35:17
    Never
    art1ej
    +2
    That's not love..that's slavery basically...
  • sglmom 2012/04/30 07:32:10
    Never
    sglmom
    +2
    no
    Absolutely NO!
    I remember well ..
    the stories of my GREAT AUNT ..
    My grandfather's sister ..
    who was SOLD into an arranged marriage ..
    she was always shuddering at the memories ...
    and her Brother helped her ESCAPE too ..
    Damnation for any who sell their Daughters, female relatives to any so-called /marriage/.
  • Lady Wh... sglmom 2012/04/30 09:40:39
    Lady Whitewolf
    +1
    well said!
  • ANGEL sglmom 2012/05/01 16:49:19
    ANGEL
    I guess you feel strongly about this topic (LOL)...although I don't mean to make little of women sold into marriages. That is definitely not something to joke about.
  • S.Lewis 2012/04/30 07:12:34
    Never
    S.Lewis
    +1
    Although you have to accept other people's beliefs. I don't agree. You have to know a person & have some type of feelings before you marry.
  • Helmholtz 2012/04/30 06:53:33
    Yes
    Helmholtz
    +1
    If I was in the type of society that that was the norm, I imagine that most people would give it their all, and I think that that's probably most important in a relationship.
  • art1ej Helmholtz 2012/04/30 08:35:38
    art1ej
    +2
    The most important thing in a marriage is LOVE....
  • Helmholtz art1ej 2012/04/30 08:43:13 (edited)
    Helmholtz
    I think that love is invented. At least the way I think most of us (including me) think about it.

    Also -- my roommate has a dog that looks just like yours. He's a really great dog, as I'm sure is yours :)
  • art1ej Helmholtz 2012/06/20 21:53:49
    art1ej
    Love isn't invented its something you feel....i wouldn't get with someone without having feelings for them so i could give my all...
    yes that's eddie & hes a good dog hes 13 but he still loves his walks....
  • Gregaj7 2012/04/30 06:51:40
    It depends...
    Gregaj7
    +1
    I will ONLY take an arranged wife via The Holy Spirit.
  • blissful 2012/04/30 06:13:24
    Other thoughts...
    blissful
    +1
    I am so independent I don't think that I would even want to be his/her friend cause they tried to force to do something I didn't want to do. And I am saying GoodBye! I Don't have a right to love someone all on my own?! What!
  • Crime Time 2012/04/30 06:06:07
  • J-DUB 2012/04/30 06:01:35
    It depends...
    J-DUB
    +2
    I have known a few couples who were arranged by family and the marriages were very stable.
  • blissful J-DUB 2012/04/30 06:16:37
    blissful
    +1
    Well that is good to hear, But never me! Not unless God/Allah says different! No-way!
  • Lady Wh... J-DUB 2012/04/30 09:41:14
    Lady Whitewolf
    RIIIIGHT
  • Peewee ~PWCM~JLA 2012/04/30 05:57:18
    It depends...
    Peewee ~PWCM~JLA
    +2
    When I was young I hated the way dad treated his wife and kids and wanted no part of marriage....but if I'd have listened to them and married the guy who wanted to marry me and they did too, I'd be a multi- millionaire and he grew far more hansom as he aged. (not because of the $) And he's a really NICE guy. But we being Americans don't understand, and I'm not sure I would want to. I think I picked well and we're doing just fine on our own.
  • mustangluver 2012/04/30 05:53:55
    Other thoughts...
    mustangluver
    +2
    I don't think they have much of a choice. I would absolutely hate marrying someone i don't love and have nothing in common with. My grandmother was going to be a nun and was in a convent when her father took her out and gave her to his friend, my grandfather..she lived a miserable life..
  • blissful mustang... 2012/04/30 06:18:58
    blissful
    +3
    Sorry to hear that.. :(
  • Becca <333 2012/04/30 05:38:25
    Never
    Becca <333
  • Oaces_boss_yo® 2012/04/30 05:38:08
  • Bibliophilic 2012/04/30 05:14:11
    It depends...
    Bibliophilic
    +2
    I don't think that my parents would select someone I'd be interested in dating. They don't know what I look for in a person.
  • Surgeon ~The Egalitarianist~ 2012/04/30 04:52:46
    It depends...
    Surgeon ~The Egalitarianist~
    +2
    Perhaps, if I got along with the guy well enough. Though I get the feeling any marriage (or relationship) with me would just be destructive for a whole plethora of reasons. I mean having someone else pick a spouse for me would sure take the pressure off... but on the other hand while most people know my general criteria for selecting a husband they don't know my specific criteria and it's not like I could tell them...

    All in all it would depend on who is setting us up in the first place, if we got along, things like that. Arranged doesn't necessarily equal forced I might add. Someone can arrange a marriage for you but if one or both parties don't mutual like each other then it's pretty much a no-go.

    But yeah I guess I would if the guy was good enough. But it would primarily depend on who's setting us up in the first place. If it's anyone I'm related to, then forget it. If it's one of my friends, then seriously forget it - because I don't want to associate myself with anyone they associate themselves with.
    To be honest, I wouldn't mind seeing a matchmaker but I'm so far out there that I fear I may make the matchmakers head explode over not being able to find someone for me because of how I am.

    But if everything fell into the place and the guy was a great match... then sure, why not? Saves me the trouble of hunting someone else down when they probably wont be as good.
  • lonewolf 2012/04/30 03:50:52
    It depends...
    lonewolf
    +2
    if it was benificial to more than just a spoiled rich family or one trying to get rich then yes out of duty. if not then forget it.
  • Curmudgeon 2012/04/30 03:11:52
    Other thoughts...
    Curmudgeon
    +1
    In this case it would depend, if I was able to setup the legal arrangements whereby the marriage would be a 1 year term marriage I might say yes. This way once the term is up if we're not in love we both walk away, no fights in court, and free to do our own thing.

    If not, no way.
  • beach bum 2012/04/30 03:03:42
    It depends...
    beach bum
    +1
    i think that after spending time with each other, the couple might actually like each other or fall in love perhaps
  • Oaces_b... beach bum 2012/04/30 05:27:34
  • beach bum Oaces_b... 2012/04/30 05:30:49
    beach bum
    +1
    hey i just put up a bunch of ?'s b4 i split in 30
  • Oaces_b... beach bum 2012/04/30 05:36:56
  • beach bum Oaces_b... 2012/04/30 05:40:13
    beach bum
    +1
    see ya
  • Dana 2012/04/30 03:01:52
    Never
    Dana
    +3
    It doesn't sound like something I would be interested in.
  • Scooter 2012/04/30 02:32:04
    Never
    Scooter
    +3
    Oh NO No No....I chose my own spouse, and that didn't work out, so I'm sure an arranged one wouldn't either.

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