Would you ever be in a serious relationship with someone who has different religious beliefs than your own?

by Michael Posted 2008/10/12 02:27:38

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	I'm not sure. (Explain why)	6 votes	7%
	It depends. (explain why)	20 votes	25%
	No. (Explain why)	14 votes	17%
	Yes. (explain why)	41 votes	51%

Question 2 of 3 for my study.
I expected the results in the last one.. let's see what happens here.

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NPM 2008/10/29 19:38:13

It depends. (explain why)

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I think it depends on the depth of the differences. I'm a Christian and if the difference was mere denomination, I suspect that would not be a major issue. However, as a Christian I would not date a practicing Muslim, Jew or atheist. Nationality would not be the issue, religious belief would be.
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nylhahsperson 2009/03/10 21:35:18

No. (Explain why)

idk

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FencerCat 2009/03/02 23:52:06

Yes. (explain why)

I am a recovering Catholic (aka considering changing to a different religion, possibly Episcopalian) and my husband is Jewish. Religion didn't enter into the equation until we started getting serious, and it wasn't really much of an issue. We were married by a rabbi because we both believed those tennents of faith. I wouldn't ask him to make promises according to a faith he didn't believe in. We have no children, so that isn't really an issue.

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hows my aim? 2009/03/02 23:30:14

Yes. (explain why)

why not? if you like them why should that be a problem? but from my purposefully immune state of atheism i look at it differently.

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Lexi(NINJA) 2009/03/02 23:27:50

Yes. (explain why)

i dont really care...as long as they dont try to change me i am good

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Muzikk_Luvrr 2009/03/02 23:24:45

No. (Explain why)

i really dont care... as long as they dont force their beleifs on me or start an argument about something related to religion it is just fine

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Artemis ~PHAET 2009/03/02 19:15:07

Yes. (explain why)

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It is sometimes difficult, but you cannot really help who you fall in love with. I am a pagan, and my fiance is a Christian. We sometimes have disagreements over issues of religion, and he, of course, would love it if I were to convert, but he doesn't force his beliefs on me. If I were not already engaged, I would not have a problem dating anyone of a different faith (or even of no faith) as long as they did not force their faith on me. I believe in the saying "live and let live". The only exception I would have to this would be that I would not be involved with a Satanist. I don't think that there is anything at all good about worshiping what is supposed to be the ultimate evil whether I believe in that being or not. I could not support such a thing.

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Michael to Artemis... 2009/03/02 23:17:49

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Satanists don't view Satan as a being, but instead they view him and a thing. As sin. They appreciate that sin because without it, good things mean nothing. It wouldn't be a beautiful thing to give up something you love if sin hadn't taken it away in the first place.

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Artemis... to Michael 2009/03/02 23:21:12

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Real Satanists perhaps feel that way, but most people who run around calling themselves Satanists worship him as a being. I've known many of them, and still would not be interested in dating any of them.

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Michael to Artemis... 2009/03/02 23:23:35

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Yeah those are immature little kids who just want a hug from mommy... for the most part.

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Artemis... to Michael 2009/03/02 23:24:48

I tend to agree with you there.

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carmouche 2009/02/28 06:10:12

Yes. (explain why)

IT DEPENDS IN WHAT COUNTRY THAT YOU ARE LIVING IN. IT IS NOT SUCH A BIG ISSUE IF YOU ARE LIVING IN AMERICA. PERSONALLY, it is not an issue as long as you are an adult. In my opinion; if i am really in love with the person, I would go for it. You can switch religions but you cannot switch love; once it is gone; it is gone, you will never recover from the loss, rich or poor. I choose to go with my heart not with my head. I want you to think about so many people who are rich,educated, unfortunately, but they are lonely; loveless. They became alcoholics and others have commited suicide. This is the same as the race card, for exemple, someone is truly in love with another from a different ethnic group and he is wondering whether he should marry her or not. TO ME, IF LOVE IS REALLY PRESENT AND YOU STILL DOUBT YOURSELF, IT IS CONSIDERED AS A FORM OF DISCRIMINATON.

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Marlow ~ Let There Be Light 2009/02/26 21:02:25

Yes. (explain why)

I'm Cathloic, my wife is Jewish. Enough said.

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nypoet22 2008/11/30 16:23:34 (edited)

It depends. (explain why)

it depends on how deep the differences run. i would want to know how the person's religious beliefs might influence daily life, child-rearing and other important joint decisions. sometimes people don't even themselves know how important their religion is until there's a conflict a few years down the road.

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AerialRach "In Dog We Trust" 2008/11/26 07:26:47

No. (Explain why)

My life partner is an Agnostic, and I'm an Atheistic-Jew. Our religious views are pretty much the same. We are an interracial couple, so that difference doesn't bother me, but I couldn't be with anyone religious.

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Bill 2008/11/22 02:19:14

No. (Explain why)

Since the question is asking about me and whether or I believe anyone else should, I say no. I don't get envolved with someone just to date them. I date to seek marriage. I would want my wife to join me in church. I want her to know my God. I want her compliment me (as opposed to making me complete). As a Christian i believe that when we are married we will be one in Jesus Christ and that could not be if she didn't share my Christian beliefs.

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Epistemically Justified -- BN7 2008/11/17 22:16:43

Yes. (explain why)

My ex-fiance was a very vocal atheist. I am Catholic.

I loved to argue religion with him.

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Zee 2008/11/13 23:54:26

Yes. (explain why)

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I have been. It takes understanding and a willingness to work together on both peoples part but I think if you respect each other it can work.

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Bill to Zee 2008/11/22 02:20:33

you have been? is that past tense? if so why didn't it work?

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THOR 2008/11/05 06:14:59

No. (Explain why)

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No, I've done that before and it ends up being a dead end if it is important to both of you. In the end, a belief system is what is the basis for interaction and problem solving within a relationship.

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NPM 2008/10/29 19:38:13

It depends. (explain why)

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I think it depends on the depth of the differences. I'm a Christian and if the difference was mere denomination, I suspect that would not be a major issue. However, as a Christian I would not date a practicing Muslim, Jew or atheist. Nationality would not be the issue, religious belief would be.

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Smartass 2008/10/17 22:34:08
Dizz 2008/10/15 23:50:30

No. (Explain why)

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i'm not against other peoples religions, i think it's great we have the choice here to choose what path of faith we want to choose but honestly if i am going to settle down with some one for real i would want some body that loves god as much as i do. he means a lot to me and nothing in my life is more important than him

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DJAlan 2008/10/15 22:40:30

Yes. (explain why)

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If it doesn't conflict with MY beliefs, yes! In fact, I was raised as a Christian (Lutheran) and married the love of my life who is Jewish. Although neither of us is 'devout' or practicing (we do observe the official holy days, but don't attend services regularly) we do still have our beliefs.

However, our beliefs coincide with each other to some degree's. Christianity was born out of Judism. Jesus was in fact Jewish! As was Moses and many others.

I don't think it would have worked had she been Muslim, Hindu or even an Athiest. The core values would have been too different.

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Dizz to DJAlan 2008/10/15 23:52:50

hmm... what ever happened to the whole "half-breed" thing? did you only mean by race or does a mixture of faiths not count too... oh well, as long as you got your priorities set straight =)

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Philly 2008/10/15 16:19:25 (edited)

Yes. (explain why)

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Yes because if i love that person you should love them for who they are not on their believes.

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RedFlint 2008/10/15 09:23:58 (edited)

Yes. (explain why)

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Have seen this movie many times! I have dated Catholics, Lutherans, Episcopalians, Buddhists, Muslims, Ba-hai's (sp?) and Agnostics. Married a Jew and a Pagan, and Religion was/has been the least of our problems. It all depends on both of the individuals flexibility and respect for your partners beliefs. Only when the reasons for a belief system, infringe on the others, is it a problem, and then only when it totally defines that person.

Professor Mike

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dnanna 2008/10/15 04:46:21

No. (Explain why)

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No my parents were of two different beliefs, I know first hand how hard it is on a child

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Sassy_1 2008/10/15 02:56:21

It depends. (explain why)

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If it was another religion with somewhat similar beliefs, I 'd say it's okay. If you both believe in the same God, but worship a little differently, no big deal.

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pluraltangent 2008/10/15 00:13:25

It depends. (explain why)

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I'm ready to find The Relationship, whatever color!

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surfer 2008/10/14 23:23:45

I'm not sure. (Explain why)

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That question has not come up in any of my relationships.

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Mazinator 2008/10/14 22:20:22

Yes. (explain why)

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I am not very religious at all. Personally, i would probably adapt the religions and beliefs of my partner.

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Modena Bobena's Mommy 2008/10/14 20:40:42

Yes. (explain why)

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I married someone and converted him (over 15 years) to my heathenistic ways. I swayed him with sex ;o)

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Hugs&KissesNicole 2008/10/14 19:34:07

No. (Explain why)

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Religious difference sometimes means culturual differences as well. Too difficult to adapt to or deal with.

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troy82 - Christ is returnin... 2008/10/14 19:29:59

Yes. (explain why)

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My wife and I were both born catholic, I am now a born again Christian. The Bible says to not be un-equally yolked unless one becomes a believer, he/she is not to leave the non-believer as they may be the person who leads the non-believerr to Christ.

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야만다 ♥ AMANDA 2008/10/14 18:30:53

Yes. (explain why)

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Even though we have seperate beliefs it doesn't mean that we can't like each other. Just respect what each other believe in, I am not saying you have to believe what each other believe, but to just understand and respect that. Then if any kids come along, let them grow up and choose their own religion.
This sounds cheesy, but love is strong and if two people love each other before they know what each other believe then it shouldn't bother them when they find out.

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that0neguy 2008/10/14 16:46:23

Yes. (explain why)

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It never came up. Even though I actively tried to bring it up.

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RealityApologist 2008/10/14 16:41:58

No. (Explain why)

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I've tried it--it just doesn't work.

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BubbleEyes 2008/10/14 16:38:14 (edited)

I'm not sure. (Explain why)

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I'm not sure really.
Just have to see want we. I wouldn't mind trying to understand their belief, even though I want fully/half believe it. Would we have a big debate about it, but in the end I would still love that person, or just be friends.

We are all identical. Our brain has the same working parts whether being from a different culture. In the identical sense the principles of perception, motivation, learning, and personality apply to all human beings. Also we are different in gender, culture, age, sexual orientation, and unique experiences.

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panda_robot 2008/10/14 16:32:40

It depends. (explain why)

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i guess it depends. im in a serious relatinoship right now. my boyfriend is christian and im catholic and some of the stuff we believe in is different but as long as he believes in and loves God, i'm fine and so is he. now, im pretty sure i would have problems if i were dating an aethiest. there's just too much conflict

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LadyLeprechan#4's on its' way! 2008/10/14 15:14:05

Yes. (explain why)

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Although I was raised a Baptist, I was last accepted into the Methodist church. My husband is still a Baptist, and next week we will be married for 6 years.

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