Would you defend a clothing store customer who was belittled for her weight?
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2012/03/16 14:35:07
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Teri- Oregon 2012/03/17 18:32:27
Now, I hear people trying to make fat people pay more for insurance and airfare....if they succeed, then there is no stopping these people. I think if they made it more affordable for gastric by pass, then more larger people....and I mean the very large....may be able to take advantage of it and loose the excess weight. Problem is, if you have no insurance, the average cost for such surgery is in excess of $170000.00. And if they do have insurance their cost is approx 35% of that.
It boggles my brain that people can be so insensitive. What is even worse is when someone says that they have come through the same situations and have no empathy for another. Like this person saying he has suffered depression and uses it to motivate himself. That's great, but not everyone has the same coping skills.
I just had this discussion with a group of women recently about one woman who had a tough childhood and doesn't handle disagreements well. She gets very defensive and then will start with rude comments as a way to boost her self-image especially if she either realizes she's wrong or doesn't know how to defend her position in the disagreement. MAN!! Everyone started jumping on me for giving her "excuses". I was like WHOA!! I wasn't giving her excuses because we are all ultimately responsible for our own actions, but was just offering some insight. They got int...
It boggles my brain that people can be so insensitive. What is even worse is when someone says that they have come through the same situations and have no empathy for another. Like this person saying he has suffered depression and uses it to motivate himself. That's great, but not everyone has the same coping skills.
I just had this discussion with a group of women recently about one woman who had a tough childhood and doesn't handle disagreements well. She gets very defensive and then will start with rude comments as a way to boost her self-image especially if she either realizes she's wrong or doesn't know how to defend her position in the disagreement. MAN!! Everyone started jumping on me for giving her "excuses". I was like WHOA!! I wasn't giving her excuses because we are all ultimately responsible for our own actions, but was just offering some insight. They got into this "my childhood was worse and I don't act like that" thing. I'M GLAD FOR THEM!! But, that doesn't mean we shouldn't have empathy for another.
It's also like my neighbor. He and I both grew up very poor in single-parent families. I know social programs need reform, but I still believe in helping others. So, we donate old items that still have a useful life, sometimes I make monetary donations and have even volunteered places. He, on the other hand, refuses to help anyone because he said he did it on his own ... so can they. (btw, I was the first in my family to attend college (and the only so far) and I did it all on my own, too).
I think we are going to have to just agree to disagree on some things with this poster. But, I will certainly keep being the way I am toward these people and will teach my kids to be the same.
Growing up in ghettos and every kind of bad neighborhood, well, you can imagine was rough. I believe it helped me to become a better person. I was the first of 6 kids (I am #3) to graduate from high school and the only one to go to college. I didn’t finish, but I still take the occasional class and will eventually graduate.
My oldest brother is like your neighbor, he wants nothing to do with our cousins because they wanted nothing to do with us when we were young. It is not only about tolerance, it is also about forgiveness. Yes, it hurt, but I grew up. My brother (59 years old) still has some growing to do.
Wow. Original. Fakes applause. Go take your meds before you embarrass yourself any further.