Would you date someone you have NO intention of marrying?

by The_Missses Posted 2007/04/10 05:03:11

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	Don't date if you won't mate	25 votes	25%
	Have fun you only live once	48 votes	48%
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	None of the above	13 votes	13%

People date before they get married to figure out if the other person is marriage material. Until we figure that out, we give it a chance and have fun learning about each other. If you learn something and realize you will never marry the other person, should you continue dating? It takes you off the market and teases the other person. On the other hand, dating is fun when you know you have nothing to lose ;)

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Racefish 2007/09/14 03:56:01

None of the above

+6
How can anyone make an intelligent decision whether you would marry the person or not if you haven't dated them? I didn't think anything about getting married to anyone, much less my wife, until a friend told me I should take her out. We'll be married 40 years next February.
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jackolantyrn356 2009/06/13 14:42:31

None of the above

Proper answer is "NO."

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santiago 2009/05/15 04:18:25

Have fun you only live once

You never know.... people tend to grow on each other..... Sometimes you might even find out that... a lot more positive things you like about someone in the future; may out weigh the things you didn't like in the past.

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allikat 2009/05/14 11:36:34

Have fun you only live once

yea, but at some point it becomes pointless of you ever do want to get married. i'm starting to be against marriage anyways, been there, done that. it puts too much stress on a relationship, and it changes ppl... so it just depends on what you want. the man i am with now i may marry one day, things are great, but only time will tell.

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Sleepytiredgirl 2009/05/14 01:23:54

Undecided

I think you date in the hopes it will lead to something long term. I would not date someone I knew was not going to last, its a waste of my time. I am a fan of monogamy.

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Think Pink 2009/05/12 03:27:57 (edited)

Undecided

Yes, if I found some interesting in him. Some guys/ girls are good in dating, not good for marriage

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~Pro-Fetus Anti-Liberal Ant... 2009/05/11 21:51:34

Don't date if you won't mate

+1
What's the point, if it's not something that you'd consider?

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HI-DE 2009/05/11 14:25:57

None of the above

I think that if you are using that person, then it is not okay to date them in my opinion. However I think that marriage doesnt have to be the ultimate event. People will date for different things and I think that is okay because everyone has their own opinions. I would not dates someone just to date them. I would want to spend my life with them but that is just me.

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IKnowwhoyouare 2009/05/11 04:31:47

Have fun you only live once

i really hope i don't marry my first girlfriend

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thessa 2009/04/10 09:59:06

None of the above

Yes i would. lol
I think thats a silly question.

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Jon 2009/03/20 21:14:55

None of the above

Depends on one's translation of dating. We've all dated someone who we never married. So I don't see the problem or get the real question.

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triggerman_1 2009/01/22 19:30:01

None of the above

I think one of the first things that a couple should discuss first hand is what their goals are in dating. If one is looking to get married and the other is just out to have some fun then obiviously they are already at odds.
If the person wants to date you so they can later change you into something else, I would personally question that too. Even so, some changes are good for the man.
Sometimes women can see a potential in a man that the man cannot see and she tweaks him as time goes by.
Dating can lead to marriage and it can also end after the first one.

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nada 2009/01/05 00:24:20
The heartless 2008/12/13 11:53:11

None of the above

i don't think i will ever marry or date anyone...so i don't really have much of an opinion.

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Robin 2008/12/06 20:48:50 (edited)

None of the above

Radical point of view - My oldest daughter told me several years ago, she didn't "believe" in dating at all. She said you should simply locate your mate and marry them. I laughed at the time, but 6 years later her system seems more valid than most. (-:

Then too, the word "dating" means different things to different people. To some it simply means whoever will do me after the bar closes.

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Comrade Sean 2008/11/18 21:16:31

Don't date if you won't mate

I've only ever pursued women that I actually fell in "love at first sight" with. I'm a romantic, I just wouldn't see the point in being with someone I didn't love deeply. Seems really dishonest.

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Catrina 2008/09/29 16:33:39

Have fun you only live once

The longterm goal of dating for a lot of people is to find someone to spend the rest of their lives with. But when you first start dating someone you hopefully have no intention of marrying them. When I first met my fiance I had no intention of marrying him and here we are seven years later.

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Ogar 2008/06/13 01:22:52 (edited)
Soms Cougli 2008/04/24 07:42:55

Have fun you only live once

Isn't the whole point of dating to find the person you'll marry?
You date to get to know someone, and then if you feel ready to take the next step, go for it.
Dating the person you'll marry and only that person would be like an arranged marriage for me =S
If that makes no sense, let me know, I pulled an all-nighter with Jayde last night lol.

Peace x

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Robin to Soms Co... 2008/12/06 20:55:41 (edited)

I suspect that is a feminine prospective. With some exception, I doubt there are many men or boys who date with much more on their minds than the blatently obvious. (-:

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MadHatter 2008/04/24 05:59:28
birdiegrl 2008/03/27 02:57:49

None of the above

+2
Well you have to date to learn more about them and after dating you find that you wouldn't marry them then move on. Put yourself back on the market.

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The_Mis... to birdiegrl 2008/04/17 17:22:28

+1
right. after a few dates and you learn that there is no spark, move on

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birdiegrl to The_Mis... 2008/04/18 00:22:54

+1
oh yes. I always new by the third date. I just don't see why people waste their time and draging it on.

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sioux~Proud American 2008/03/02 22:18:38

Have fun you only live once

+1
Sometimes, it's better to just date and then you won't get your heart broken if you know you won't marry them.

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Maria 2008/02/29 05:40:22 (edited)

None of the above

+1
not want to marry or either dating. just saving my heart and not give away.

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The_Mis... to Maria 2008/03/14 04:53:55

+1
saving it for who? how will you know if you don't try dating the person?

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Maria to The_Mis... 2008/03/14 08:37:49

+2
never mind. it hard to explain. rather to hold my heart to myself.

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Pixie 2008/02/28 04:04:27

Have fun you only live once

+2
Of course...I've dated men that I had absolutely no intention of marrying...and they knew that. You can have a relationship with someone who you don't intend to spend the rest of your life with...that way you know for yourself what you want and what you want to avoid in the person you want to settle down with

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The_Mis... to Pixie 2008/03/14 04:54:26

go girl!

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chris 2008/02/14 03:15:13

Have fun you only live once

i would date to mate not for find one

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selkie 2007/11/10 10:02:50

Have fun you only live once

+2
Well maybe you dont just live once but you only get one life as who you are at this moment, so date, have fun, live.

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<--That guy 2007/11/01 21:21:00

Have fun you only live once

+3
Yeah, I've done it before. But the person I'm with now is the person I intend to marry, so I'm done dating around.

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Racefish 2007/09/14 03:56:01

None of the above

+6
How can anyone make an intelligent decision whether you would marry the person or not if you haven't dated them? I didn't think anything about getting married to anyone, much less my wife, until a friend told me I should take her out. We'll be married 40 years next February.

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Pixie to Racefish 2008/02/28 04:06:40

+2
Congrats Racefish !...what a sweet story

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The_Mis... to Racefish 2008/03/14 04:55:44

I meant if you have NO intention of marrying the person. Like they have some quality that prevents you from really loving them or something but you like them enough to have sex with or something for a while.

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lizzy 2007/09/13 00:09:12

Have fun you only live once

+2
I may not want to get married to them but that doesn't mean I don't want a long meaningful relationship with them.

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ADRIA MELISSA 2007/09/11 15:54:13

Don't date if you won't mate

+4
ONCE YOU HAVE DECIDED IN YOUR HEAD AND IN YOUR HEART THAT YOU COULD NOT SEE LIVING YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON, YOU SHOULD IMMEDIATLEY DETACH FROM THE SITUATION.LIFE IS WAY TOO SHORT.IT'S NOT RIGHT TO GO ON WASTING EACHOTHERS TIME NO MATTER WHAT.

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Soms Co... to ADRIA M... 2008/04/24 07:45:55

But...if you don't date a different people, how are you gonna find the right person?
I get what you're saying, but let's say a girl in year eight wouldn't be thinking of marrying the guy she's dating.

Just curious =]

Peace x

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Daisy 2007/07/01 15:02:41 (edited)

Have fun you only live once

+3
I always thought that dating someone was a long way from marrying them. Dating is about friendship, going plaes, having fun. Marriage is something way on down the road when, and IF, the relationship turns serious.

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