Would You Agree to a Relationship Contract?

Living 2012/05/29 19:45:32
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Last week, we gave you the scoop on Mark Zuckerberg's new bride, Priscilla Chan. But we neglected to mention that she supposedly agreed to a "relationship contract."

According to the book "The Facebook Effect," Zuckerberg, 28, agreed to spend at least 100 minutes of private time with Chan, 27, each week, as well as take her on at least one date. They also agreed to vacation for two weeks yearly overseas.

So, is making such a "deal" a good idea? A blogger for dating site howaboutwe.com thinks so, writing: "Dating an eccentric billionaire seems like it’s probably no cake-walk, but Priscilla has obviously done a good job of making sure their relationship remains a priority for the Facebook founder. 100 minutes is less than two hours, but even that can seem like a godsend when you’re dating someone who is just really, really busy."

It's unclear whether the couple agreed to this deal verbally or whether they actually signed papers. But the howaboutwe writer thinks we could all take a page out of the Facebook founder's book:

"Personally, I’m pretty pro agreements or pacts within a relationship. It could be about anything, from the frequency of sex, to the divying up of household chores, to where you spend holidays together as a couple. It may seem unromantic to mandate rules, but having a clear set of expectations for both partners makes it easy to ensure that needs are being met." Do you agree?

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  • mark 2012/06/29 00:39:53
    If you have to have a contract it shows a lack of trust.
  • Sebastian 2012/06/28 22:14:01
    Relationship status: In a contract
  • lunatic 2012/06/16 23:57:29
    technically for me no...buts it more like an official deal... guy: marry me? girl: yes! guy: :D girl: but on one condition guy:? girl: list perfectly reasonable conditions and not stuff like "buy me alot of jewlery and stop hanging arounds friends blah blah blah" guys: hahaha ok :D
  • Kaola 2012/06/12 05:40:07
    What if he gets along with me and we don't want to leave each other ...can't think of it....
  • AngelaDuke 2012/06/07 01:14:26
    Hell yeah! I would sign a contract that says my hubby has to take me on overseas vacations every year in a heart beat lol
  • adeenmckenziekennedy 2012/06/04 00:34:03
  • overseanancy 2012/06/03 04:35:08
    But not about money.
  • gcpajunen 2012/06/03 01:16:26
    I believe my word is good enough and if some doesn't like it they can always walk.
  • Dave 007 2012/06/02 14:57:57
    Dave 007
    Hell yes, they way women think these days.
  • Michael 2012/06/02 11:41:39
    We all would agree, in the midst of a relationship or on the brink of loosing one. Keeping the promise is the hard part. In reference to the story, I know someone whose couples therapist told them they must spend 15 minutes a day alone, without interruptions. The wife couldn't do it!
  • stevmackey 2012/06/01 19:38:59
    Marriage is a contract. Though few honor that today.
  • kraftymomma1979 2012/06/01 19:25:10
    Relationships are ongoing negotiations. Marriage is a full-time job on top of working a career and then children come along. So many things used to just be assumed. Now, I guess we need to spell things out more clearly.
  • Just Jenn for Now 2012/06/01 18:24:59
    Just Jenn for Now
    ... at first, I was going to choose NO.

    But then I read what his contract consisted of... it's very sweet actually!

    I was expecting something along the lines of what she can or can't do, but I'm glad it wasn't. It's more of a devoting commitment to her.

    Maybe some can't agree with contracts, and I can see where some people would play d!ck moves in a contract regarding their relationship, but if it was something promising each other we'd have at least "x" amount of time with each other during the week and/or "x" amount of dates and vacations, I don't see a problem.

    In retrospect, it's the same thing as vows one makes at a wedding. Not a big deal.
  • Night 2012/06/01 15:14:16
    Never. If you're forced to do things in a relationship because of a contract then you shouldn't be in that relationship.
  • Steamtrain 2012/06/01 10:26:53
    Never put to paper something you may live to regret.
  • Josh Stephens 2012/05/31 22:04:23
    Josh Stephens
    It's good to make commitments with your partner.
  • Billy the kid 2012/05/31 20:22:21
    Billy the kid
    if you feel the need to do that, that's probably a 'relationship' best avoided....
  • Anna E 2012/05/31 17:04:06
    Anna E
    lmao Most marriages are contracts or covenants.
    It's up to the people in a non-married relationship whether they want one or not.
    We have one and we both agreed to the terms and we still stick to them.
  • Maiko 2012/05/31 15:31:25
    To each their own. Not my business. However, In my opinion a "relationship" should not feel like a business deal. If a "contract" is needed, I would much rather be single and alone...
  • Wulfdane 2012/05/31 14:57:07 (edited)
    Prenups are fine when they are for set time limits. But relationship contracts?

    Most of these contracts are a joke and will be nullified by the courts later on. I don't believe the courts will find these to be reasonably enforceable when these cases start hitting the dockets. Not everything under the law in contractual.
  • HarleyCharley 2012/05/31 13:51:50
    but it she's not asking for a whole lot....
  • Sinsin 2012/05/31 13:06:58
    I might depending on the content...writing that you promise to spend quality time and scheduling that time shows a real commitment to the relationship. People are so busy these days and perhaps this sort of thing will help them to see what's really important in life. I see it as being a positive thing...will this idea catch on...I don't know. Time will tell.
  • La 2012/05/31 12:14:10
    If I was dating someone rich, sure. This is just like a really casual pre-nup.
  • C. C. Rider 2012/05/31 12:11:44
    C. C. Rider
    Before I answer this, am I dating you? teeeeeeeee
  • Rogue_L... C. C. R... 2012/05/31 13:19:54
  • C. C. R... Rogue_L... 2012/05/31 21:21:13
    C. C. Rider
    HA! At first I thought it was an intervention. LOL LOL
  • Rogue_Loner 2012/05/31 10:54:50
  • C. C. R... Rogue_L... 2012/05/31 12:09:50
    C. C. Rider
    Eyes and Heart? Those are my attny's!!!!...LoL

  • Billy t... Rogue_L... 2012/05/31 20:24:11
    Billy the kid
    I lke that answer...
  • Kenneth Huang 2012/05/31 09:56:56
    Kenneth Huang
    Um, setting rules and agreements is a basic part of any relationship. Why is this news? (Unless they actually signed papers, which yeah is a little weird.)
  • Naked 2012/05/31 06:10:37
    Yeah, I'm married. That's a "relationship" contract.
  • beach bum 2012/05/31 05:44:08
    beach bum
  • Dzeeng 2012/05/31 05:05:31
    Only without absurd
  • Gunner 2012/05/31 04:14:17
    With the right woman and mutually agreed upon contract, (playfully speaking) it could lead to some fun. ;o)
  • Seeker of Truth - War Wizard 2012/05/31 04:07:15
    Seeker of Truth - War Wizard
    Marriage itself is a "relationship contract". The vows that you take during the ceremony are the terms. I've been happily married for over 16 years, and haven't broken the contract yet.
  • Moon 2012/05/31 03:37:57
    It's a guy who is very busy and making an agreement in writing is him furthering his commitment to her and vice versa. So what's the big problem?
  • Deirdra 2012/05/31 03:31:44
    I think it's a good idea to have a set time where you both know that you will get to spend time with each other. Plus having time to communicate is what keeps relationships healthy.
  • VICTORIA 2012/05/31 02:45:29
    In my marriage ceremony I reserved the right that I retain as a Muslim woman to have an actual marital contract(written of course). This contract- (and what bad reporting that it is not even known if it is written or verbal?) between this particular husband and wife is a wise provision that speaks to and premonishes what might reasonably be a condition that divides the unity of their marriage.
    Considering how much time and how detrimental the influence of that time spent of Facebook is affecting real marriages today- how much more so might it be a factor for the OWNER of the same Facebook!
    It addresses and amplifies the evolution of marriage- without the archaic expectation that couples are locked into marriage for life- it acknowledges that different people may have very real and different expectations going into a marital union.

    And sketching out in advance- that one agrees to and has the solid expectation and is deserving of TIME =energy-attention=effort=love- is a realistic and adult precondition for any relationship.
  • Meownessez 2012/05/31 01:33:39
    why in the world????? thats all contracts entitle obligations and are legal a relationship should be free of all obligatory actions but to each their own
  • Ahlana 2012/05/31 00:02:16
    My agreement with my hubby is that we go to a new country every year for our vacation. It is a challenge, an adventure, and it ensures that we are building new memories together yearly.

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