no ... afraid of leaving ... more complex than it sounds ... often threatened or their children are threatened if they do not 'co-operate' and are bullied into no self-esteem... don't believe they can 'make it' on their own etc.
This is what blows my mind. Chris Brown would not still be selling music if society had a problem with it. I imagine if it is not happening to you then it is looked at as OK. Any man
that is abusive to a woman belongs in jail. Separated from the item's they hate and abuse.
A lot of it is insecurity, fear they won't be able to find someone else, fear of being the cause of a "failed" relationship. Also, MOST of the time the guy will threaten to do worse if she tries to leave or calls the cops.
I know this, one of my girls gets hit, I'll walk from KY to CA to kick SOMEBODY'S ass. don't have to worry about my oldest though, she's a scrapper, she'd probably kick any guy's ass... Good thing for them she likes girls... :P LOL
Why are some men with abusive women? I think it has to do with a low self esteem and in some instances there is a real fear there that the victim cannot get away from that abusive partner without getting hurt.
In abusive relationship the first form of abuse is emotional and the woman sense of self worth is beaten down so that she becomes totally unable to see herself as a human being with any ability to function independently or with any abiltiy. Her self worth is totally destroyed.
The physical abuse will then start and she has no way of thinking rationally or independently for herself. She is also usually in a state of terror and fear and self loathing the majority of the time.
She is also been cut off from all of her previous relationship outside of her partner as that is part of the abuse process. Her friends and family have been cut off from her as her partner has alienated them and refused to allow her to contact them.
He has dominated her and she needs his permission to perform almost all of her daily tasks. The abusive partner predominately makes death threats to the women and also to the children if there is any.
The battered women syndrome is well documented and well studied.
Yes and it hurts to see women who are so used to it that they're either afraid of a new guy who wants to love them deeply or they use the guy. I'm happy to say that I don't give a woman a reason to fear me and also that I don't give a woman much chance to use me.
It is certainly time for women to get over the cinderella complex and start learning to be independent and self sufficient. The expectation that you need a man to fulfill you life is simply a fantasy and needs to be changed. It is great to have a man in your life, but a man is not a necessity, just a wonderful addition.
i think they already have a womens group for that......its called, "N.O.W." National organization for women......its a feminist group of she women man haters! there are PLENTY of other articles on here about it.....unless you believe in, "censorship".
I would like to believe that, but it has been my experience that they don't act that way. They act as if they WANT to be with an abusive man. I absolutely do NOT understand it.
There's this woman I find attractive, but she's with another man: a mentally unstable man. And when he "acts up" (for lack of a better phrase), she'll leave him TEMPORARILY, but after about a week, or two at the most, she goes RIGHT BACK TO HIM. She just won't tell him to hit the road. And I'm not an abusive man, but she's made it clear that she's not interested in a relationship with me; she'd rather have her current psychopath boyfriend, or so it appears to me.
Abusive relations never seem to make sense from the outside. When the abuse is over, he will tell her his is sorry and will never do it again and will treat her very well for a very short time. She has been brainwashed and is like a bird in a cage and he has her like a puppet on a string. It is a very complex dance that that can take years to escape from.
I may be wrong, but I think some men are pathetically too impatient to get want they want out of a relationship by waiting for the right type of girl so even if they're with her they try to use force to get want they want. It's bred by foolish fear. I would rather be single than to make use of threats and abuse to get what I want.
Yu are definitley right about men being too impatient. They want relationship to start off very quickly. If things do not go fast enough for them, they simply move on to the next girl. If they are the dominate type, they will definitely use force, if they are the violent type they use violence.
Sometimes on an abusive relationship, it starts slow. The man breaks the woman emotionally first, ie, "your fat, your ugly, no man will ever want you, why can't you do anything right?" Then the woman starts to believe this. Then the beatings start out with a little slap here or There and they say Sorry it will never happen again, then for a few days she is a queen, he treats her great. Sooner or later the beatings get worse and because he broke her down so bad, she thinks she deserves it. He keeps her from friends and family and she feels she has no where to go. Until she makes a stand and fights back and leaves him. That was my experience anyway. I got out, Thank God. Some don't.
Women can do the same to men, no matter what anyone says. I have seen guys shiver of their wife lifts her arm as if she is going to hit them. It's sad. I found out how I got so far down by going to talk to a specialist. Some women do.t and end up going right back into another similar situation. Sad.
What I wonder is WHY DO THEY GO BACK EVEN WHEN THEY MEET A NICE GUY WHO IS SUCCESSFUL AND FUNNY? I also wonder if very many women like being made love to anymore rather than just f*cked. I know the ones I was with had no problems having orgasms but I do really wonder what else thay wanted out of a man. Maybe they still had feelings for the abusive guys and hoped for change. Any thoughts- esp from a woman who has been abused and returned to such a "man"?
There are a lot of romantic people out there who want make love and not just "get f*cked." I am a woman, and yeah, I like sex, but I would never do it just to do it. I would much rather be with a man who loves me and doesn't want to hurt me. I know a lot of other women who feel the same way. I think people stay in bad situations not because they want to, but because they don't know how to get help.
that is abusive to a woman belongs in jail. Separated from the item's they hate and abuse.
I know this, one of my girls gets hit, I'll walk from KY to CA to kick SOMEBODY'S ass. don't have to worry about my oldest though, she's a scrapper, she'd probably kick any guy's ass... Good thing for them she likes girls... :P LOL
The physical abuse will then start and she has no way of thinking rationally or independently for herself. She is also usually in a state of terror and fear and self loathing the majority of the time.
She is also been cut off from all of her previous relationship outside of her partner as that is part of the abuse process. Her friends and family have been cut off from her as her partner has alienated them and refused to allow her to contact them.
He has dominated her and she needs his permission to perform almost all of her daily tasks. The abusive partner predominately makes death threats to the women and also to the children if there is any.
The battered women syndrome is well documented and well studied.
There's this woman I find attractive, but she's with another man: a mentally unstable man. And when he "acts up" (for lack of a better phrase), she'll leave him TEMPORARILY, but after about a week, or two at the most, she goes RIGHT BACK TO HIM. She just won't tell him to hit the road. And I'm not an abusive man, but she's made it clear that she's not interested in a relationship with me; she'd rather have her current psychopath boyfriend, or so it appears to me.
It makes no sense to me at all.
What is very common is that need to dominate and control women.
If you know someone who this is happening to, she's most likely going to need help getting out.