Why Parents "Spoil" Kids: Is Spoiling Good for Kids?

Some kids will take the "I want I want I want I want" attitude to heart and carry it into adulthood, while it wears off other kids as time goes on. I used to BEG for toys galore when I was a little toddler, but now I barely ever ask for anything except for essentials and one or two splurges every now and then.

The way you raise your kids plays a role, too. If you teach your kids that they have to work hard for the things they want and be responsible and respectful to the people and objects around them, it's okay to indulge once in a while.

if they spoil their kids they will never get any were in life they will think it just comes to them without having to work for it...

Spoiling a child only proves that they can do what want and still be rewarded. Then later in life they are surprised to learn that things do not happen that way.

Of course it's not. They need to learn at an early age that they're not the centre of the universe or you'll have an out-of-control bratty adult that no one wants to deal with. It's not kind to the children to spoil them.

When parents spoil their kids, it teaches the kid not to work for things in life, so they think that they can get anything in life without thinking of people who have less things than they do and in turn becoming a bunch of lazy adults and maybe live off of welfare.

The very word itself, 'spoiled' means to have rotted. Its lazy parenting and does the child no favors.

Decide for yourself.

THEN KIDS THINK THEY CAN HAVE ANYTHING THEY WONT WHEN THEY GO IN A SHOP

You teach them that everything they want they can have, they need to be taught that they have to earn what they get. If they're little sure we all give our toddlers things but as they grow you slowly start to teach them the value of things.

If you spoil the kid you ruin their chances of growing-up a decent person. I know this from personal experience! However! I think that every Grandparent has a right to spoil their grandkids so they can send them back to the parents to deal with.. Lol!-lol!

Kids need to learn limits and goals. It's a parent's job to give kids roots and wings. That means that you have to teach a child to survive. And the best way to do that is to let them learn how to fail. Too many parents invest far too much time protecting their children from disappointment and as a result we have adults who in college years cannot function on a rational adult level because they get cratered by the first obstacle they have to tackle on their own. Helicopter parenting where everyone gets a prize and everyone is a special snowflake is destroying our schools and ultimately our economy. There is a point where people have to conform to the structure in order learn to work as a team. As a teacher I see kids in high school that have no idea how to manage basic living skills like spending, cleaning and cooking. Mommy does it all for them, sometimes into college and beyond. I have heard stories of college professors getting berated by parents when their kids fail to do the work and even bosses getting the wrath of parents. A hundred years ago, sixteen olds got married, got jobs, had kids and became part of the vast panorama of our history. All these kids know how to do is text and whine. What a pathetic future they will have. In the meantime, kids like mine who worked for what they got and who know how to come back from failure will succeed.

We have become a country of spoiled morons.

to a certain point, its ok, but you shouldnt ever go overboard.

How can this ever be good? Does the phrase "spoiled brat" mean anything?

Spoiling s child is teaching them that whatever they want should be theirs and whatever they say is right. That is setting the child up for some serious problems when they grow up,

Had a spoiled stepdaughter. Fortunately she came out okay.

I think it's good for parents to spoil their kids because it will give my kids a huge advantage in life.

We teach out kids the importance of money, being courteous to others and self control.

You do realize that "spoiling" them does the exact opposite? Spoiling is when you hand your kid everything they want-- everything. You throw money at them at an incredible rate and because of that, they never learn how to handle money without immediately spending it because they know that you'll always be there to hand them more when they run out. They don't learn self-control for that same reason. And spoiled children tend to be quite bratty when everyone doesn't seem to revolve around them.

There's a big difference between spoiling children and giving them a reasonable amount of things they want on top of what they need. A regular allowance teaches the importance of money and self-control. Giving them as much money as they want whenever they ask is spoiling, and it teaches them that they can always get money from you when they run out. Courtesy to others is a whole other matter which needs to be taught completely separately.

I was implying that my kids are not spoiled and they will have the advantage over other children. I have taught my kids that they get nothing for free. They earn money and have to save for toys. My son just bought a stupid $20 toy that he's been saving for months to get.

Ahhh. Hahaha. You're good. :P

;D

Spoiling children will not teach them responsibility.

Indulgent probably defines what I've done better. If given a do over I'd not have.

children need to know that money doesn't grow on trees and get an education on adult life.. yeah i think children should get rewarded on housework... or passing their exams at school.

here is a great example of spoiling a daughter

up early and fishing while hearing Loon song
what?
never heard Loon song before?.

you have now :)

It does not take a rocket scientist to know this is a bad idea unless you are like... Bill Gates. You can not keep giving a kid everything they want and letting them have their way..this is not what it is like in the real world and you would be setting your child up for future disappointment. I do find it very entertaining when a spoiled child in a store is told no...or no toy today...LMAO Why would a parent want to put themselves through screaming tantrums is a mystery to me. I knew of a 9 year old that asked his grandma for 10.00 for some toy he just had to have and when she said no for the 5th time he took the kitchen broom and started beating her with it..

Makes them self involed, hednistic, a holes...sometimes they want to do something with themselves...but when it gets hard or they think they can't do it they drop out...give up.

nothing seems more unattractive than a spoiled mouthy child demanding and getting everything he/she wants and indulging that behavior. It can make the cutest of children difficult to be around to say the least.

Giving children things doesn't translate to spoiling. I believe it is a learned characteristic that they develop and manipulate. Many children who have lots of things are not necessarily spoiled. I have seen many that are very respectful

My children, grandchildren and great granddaughter have had what they need, not want.

The only thing I give to them in abundance is Love.

If a parent spoils their children rotten, the children do not learn to appreciate what they have. Entitled children will grow into entitled adults.

I am a preschool teacher. I can tell you spoiling is not a good thing. Love them, meet their needs, and set limits. Of course you should spoil them on occasion but do not give into every demand.

If yu spoil yur kid.. They are going to get used to it..
And when they grow up.. They'll expect yu to still be spoiling them.
Also.. If yu spoil your kids.. When they are older.. They will think that they can have whatever whenever.. Because they've gotten used to it..

No, spoiling leads to an attitude of entitlement, when you give a child everything they want, they grow up thinking they can do anything they want, and that's not good, they need to be told no once in a while

We give kids too many things

not all the time