I'm just gonna jump in because I'm old and tired of the extremes on this. Being a SAHM is valuable to our culture, just as those moms who work make valuable contributions to our culture as well. Everyone needs to decide what's right for their own family. To say that being a SAHM is the toughest job in the world can devalues or marginalizes what other people might do. I'm sure this is not intentional, but it happens. Especially when a SAHM appears to be disorganized, less than proficient, or unhappy with her choice. It's sort of like staying in an abusive marriage "for the sake of the children." We know that doesn't work. Yes, new moms are encouraged to nap while their babies nap so they don't wear themselves out and subsequently complain all the time about being tired. They can listen to older women (!) who have been through it all, both working and non-working moms who do have some good advice, or they can choose to muddle through with 4 children screaming through a cluttered household or ask for help. They can look at the sign I saw on a friends wall when my children were young that asked what was more important, a spotless home or happy hearts and take that to heart, or be frustrated because they think their home has to look like a designer magazine and they have to cook li...
I'm just gonna jump in because I'm old and tired of the extremes on this. Being a SAHM is valuable to our culture, just as those moms who work make valuable contributions to our culture as well. Everyone needs to decide what's right for their own family. To say that being a SAHM is the toughest job in the world can devalues or marginalizes what other people might do. I'm sure this is not intentional, but it happens. Especially when a SAHM appears to be disorganized, less than proficient, or unhappy with her choice. It's sort of like staying in an abusive marriage "for the sake of the children." We know that doesn't work. Yes, new moms are encouraged to nap while their babies nap so they don't wear themselves out and subsequently complain all the time about being tired. They can listen to older women (!) who have been through it all, both working and non-working moms who do have some good advice, or they can choose to muddle through with 4 children screaming through a cluttered household or ask for help. They can look at the sign I saw on a friends wall when my children were young that asked what was more important, a spotless home or happy hearts and take that to heart, or be frustrated because they think their home has to look like a designer magazine and they have to cook like the lastest TV phenom. They can stop dressing their kids up and dragging them around for display and on play dates and to enrichment classes and stay at home and be a lot better rested and organized. It's all about choices. But if a SAHM does make that choice, they need to stop telling everyone how "hard" it is, and remember there are others that managed just fine. And remember to cherish and value the reasons they are staying at home. And by all means, stay at home more and quit trying to juggle so much. This too shall pass.
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Communication can be an awkward thing, and I know this person stated his queries in ways that can be offensive, but was it really necessary to gang up on him and call him names?
Before you pass judgment, please, just take a deep breath and look at yourselves. You've allowed anger to cloud your vision. Your children learn how to interact with society from your choices, your body language, your actions.
A misunderstanding is not worth so much anger and hatred.
This thread is about as classy as a Jerry Springer episode.
but being a SAHM, it is truely one of the hardest jobs out there, because it is a 24/7 and you dont get vacation or sick days. when the kids take a nap, thats when you clean or take a shower, when the kids are awake, they require (well age depending) your undivided attention. my twins are 3 and my oldest is 8 and when one of them goes to sleep, one of them wakes up and when their all awake, my oldest helps me keep track of the twins so i can do laundry. i have help, but some mothers dont. and imagine trying to do laundry or clean the floors when you cant even see your feet because your pregnant.
my boyfriends mom is a single mother, has been for the past 16 or 17 years. she agreed that being a SAHM was harder because you dont get a break.
You're so far off base you're in orbit. Stay there. You wouldn't fit in in the real world.
If you don't have kids, you would never understand, after you have a few kids then ask this question. You'll know the answer then
Perhaps you will smarten up as you age.
You said it yourself dumb@ss: "I don't have kids".
If you did you would figure out real f*ckin fast that YES, you have to re-clean the house every day, and wash clothing sometimes by hand, and clean the carpet, sometimes by hand because the little "darlings" upended an inkwell while you were getting the only 5 min alone with your thoughts you had all day, and that was on the toilet.....
I'm a three tour combat veteran, with over 9 years in service, and I STILL wouldn't try to take on the job of the Stay At Home Mom, THEY are the real heros, and what they do is underapriciated and often overlooked outright.
Grow up and play a little less Skyrim.
But you did come off as very ignorant.
I would suggest you delete the whole post, and try again with a touch more thought put into what you are going to ask.
Who knows, your next post may just become the next burning topic of discussion.
Good luck.
Beautifully stated reply. :)
Thank you.
Whomever raised you certainly didn't do their job.
You're an amazing woman -- may your health continue to improve for MANY years.
"Do you have to clean the house every day?" Well, I suppose it depends on the size of your house and how many kids you have. But yes. Usually. Because you don't usually do the whole house in one day. You do a few rooms each day, along with laundry and dishes and taking care of the kids.
"Don't babies take naps?" Didn't you say you don't have children? Either way it is painfully obvious you do not. Yes, babies take naps and that is the ideal time to do the things you need to do, because when a baby is not napping it needs your attention. Secondly, children don't stay babies forever, and they don't always nap.
Stay at home mom's are not paid for the work they do. They don't get vacations, they don't get sick days, and as you absolutely set an example for, they are often under appreciated.
I'm willing to bet, you wouldn't last two days.
You think I need a real job? I have a real job, and I promise you, it's much harder than yours. I've also had a "real job" and this one, is much, much harder. It is also much, much more rewarding. What you see as complaining, might very well be pride.
I'm proud to be a stay at home mom, despite what jerks like you think. I know I work hard, and I ...
"Do you have to clean the house every day?" Well, I suppose it depends on the size of your house and how many kids you have. But yes. Usually. Because you don't usually do the whole house in one day. You do a few rooms each day, along with laundry and dishes and taking care of the kids.
"Don't babies take naps?" Didn't you say you don't have children? Either way it is painfully obvious you do not. Yes, babies take naps and that is the ideal time to do the things you need to do, because when a baby is not napping it needs your attention. Secondly, children don't stay babies forever, and they don't always nap.
Stay at home mom's are not paid for the work they do. They don't get vacations, they don't get sick days, and as you absolutely set an example for, they are often under appreciated.
I'm willing to bet, you wouldn't last two days.
You think I need a real job? I have a real job, and I promise you, it's much harder than yours. I've also had a "real job" and this one, is much, much harder. It is also much, much more rewarding. What you see as complaining, might very well be pride.
I'm proud to be a stay at home mom, despite what jerks like you think. I know I work hard, and I am there my children and husband. It's not for everybody, it takes a certain personality, but don't ever doubt that it is hard work.
I'd lay out my average day for you, but you're not worth anymore of my time.