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Why do many parents feel the need to judge and criticize other parents?

Jamie (goofygirl) August 15, 2008 15:26:51

There have been a lot of polls asking questions about parenting, and it seems like many people believe that there is one way to parent and that is their way. I just want your opinion, why is this? I have included several of my thoughts, but please feel free to expand, as I really do not understand why people are so hateful when it comes to parenting.
Here is my thought.

Here is my thought.

64%

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They are insecure and hateful.

They are insecure and hateful.

21%

3 votes

Their children are just smarter and better due to their superior parenting skills.

Their children are just smarter and better due to their superior parenting skills.

7%

1 vote

Undecided

7%

1 vote

They really just believe they are the best.

They really just believe they are the best.

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  • mc_rog46_sd1 July 27, 2009 19:00:14
    mc_rog46_sd1

    They are insecure and hateful.

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  • zozobug January 07, 2009 03:05:05
    zozobug

    Here is my thought.

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  • 4Given December 04, 2008 03:44:35
    4Given

    Here is my thought.

    I think there are two basic types that we are dealing with here Jamie. There are some shades of gray in between, but I see the two as being...

    Type 1 (the most common)
    Those that seem to continually draw comparisons and elevate a particular parenting style over another. It may be their own parenting style to make them feel better about themselves, or another's parenting style to make us feel worse about ours. It's usually over insignificant details,,, as I saw you mention "sun - screen without permission". I see asking a child permission as highly insignificant in the grand scheme. Who is the parent anyway?

    These types would insist that you walk around the block counter-clockwise instead clockwise, even though the starting point and ending point are the same and the time of travel virtually unchanged. The hills and potholes you will hit at different times, but you'll ultimately reach the same destination f you keep walking.

    The other type is rare. The parent that really cares about you and your child. When I find one, I'll let you know....

    ultimately reach destination walking type rare parent cares child ill
  • asalways just ed September 12, 2008 16:01:25
    asalways just ed

    Here is my thought.

    People tend to believe and I don't mean all people that their way is best. I believe this is because if it is not that will make their way wrong and it does not. Each child is different in many ways. What works with one may not work with another. We hate to be wrong. That is their motivation. While two or people may have a way of doing something does not mean that any are wrong. We need to be open mined to new ideas. We need to think wow I never thought of it that way. We need to listen more and speak less.

    as always

    just ed
  • nee August 22, 2008 14:37:52
    nee

    They are insecure and hateful.

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  • Keywest Jeff August 19, 2008 21:18:47
    Keywest Jeff

    Here is my thought.

    They suck at it and want to feel better.
  • paulyman August 16, 2008 01:33:49
    paulyman

    Their children are just smarter and better due to their superior parenting skills.

    I would think, if you judge other peoples parenting, you think you are a better parent. It could also be your competitive nature. If you think you are lacking parenting skills, you may want to criticise your neighbors parenting to rise your self esteem or not.
  • mary August 16, 2008 01:03:34
    mary

    Here is my thought.

    Jealousy is a big part of it!
  • Tiki August 15, 2008 23:47:47
    Tiki

    Here is my thought.

    I don't criticize other parents, unless they are abusing or neglecting their kids. The way people raise their kids is their own business.
  • ..... August 15, 2008 20:05:27
    .....

    Here is my thought.

    moderated...
  • john conner August 15, 2008 17:22:33
    john conner

    Here is my thought.

    Yourchildren just need to be a priority...no matter your disapline approach, if you do not interact with the kid all along, (in a positive way) you will have problems
  • Faith _N_Jesus carries me August 15, 2008 16:02:06
    Faith _N_Jesus carries me

    Undecided

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  • Jamie (goofygirl) August 15, 2008 15:39:52
    Jamie (goofygirl)

    They are insecure and hateful.

    This is my opinion, I am so tired of people judging everyone, there is no worse population in this world than that of a perfect parent. I am so tired of the following statments;
    I never let my kids watch TV
    My kids never drink soda
    My kids go to bed as soon as I ask
    My kids never play video games
    BLAH
    These are the same kids that grow up to be mass murderers.
  • jams August 15, 2008 15:32:12
    jams

    Here is my thought.

    They are nosy complainers nosy complainers
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