Why do I feel jealous so easily? Does that make me a bad person?

Just about everyone will be perceived by someone as attractive - and no one will be seen by everyone as such.
That being said, one of the least attractive things one can BE is envious (that is what you're feeling BTW - envy, not jealousy). And the more actions one takes, thoughts one has, that are unattractive, the more that will affect your outward appearance... and the reverse is also true.

It is perfectly normal for you to get jealous at 16. And some people are just more prone to jealousy than others. It doesn't make you a bad person but it Can ruin a lot of things... You should just know that you are special. Being pretty isn't the most important thing in a person. Most people find intelligence, charm, sense of humor and confidence a lot more attractive than a pretty face. And these people are usually the ones who are really worth hanging around. =]

You will outgrow your braces. Get your education and then men will flock to your door. Not many Americans are in college by the age of 16. If American men flirt with girls under the age of 18, we could be committing a crime! Just wait two more years.

it doesnt make you a bad person...everyone has a little jealousy in them soo

Thanks ;)

No...people get these feelings all the time. Some very little, some a lot. But this is part of who we are and the fact you are embracing this problem means you already have half of it licked already. Be happy with who you are. There are plenty out there with your problem and they never get out of it maybe partly because they want to live in it. And it sounds as if you don't. Take that not living in the problem and let it grow and soon, maybe sooner than you think, you'll be on the way to feeling great about yourself. Me, I'm not a handsome man by any means, but I don't want to be in a place where I don't think highly of myself. That way lies depression and something even worse, self-pity.

Yes, I have felt jealous before, too (Not jealous of Nini) but I was too immature to admit it....Now, it seems like I'm growing and I want to get rid of jealousy and low self esteem! :)

You're well on the way. Keep it up and good luck !!!!

An insecure person.

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Can say I really never get jealous.

You're lucky!

I guess.

LOL My friend, soon you too will have a boyfriend to gossip about. I have a friend for you.Yay or nay?

Lol....I just wanna stay single for a while...I just got out of a bad relationship :)

Thanks for being concerned, though!

I think if you focus on yourself and what kind of a person you wish to be the rest will fall into place. All girls are beautiful in their own ways, there will be guys who wont even see your friend Nini because they wont be able to take their eyes off you. And if you work on yourself the insecurity will fade and be replaced with confidence which will only make you even more beautiful.

And you are certainly not a bad person.

Thanks a lot....You helped :)

You're welcome Gabs, glad to have been of some help.

Jealousy is a perfectly normal thing to feel; it doesn't make you a bad person at all. The trick is to not let it control your life. It sounds like you're already aware that you don't want that, so that's a step in the right direction! Instead of hating your friend, putting her down, or trying to manipulate people into disliking her in hopes that that will make them like you, you're recognizing that the problem is inside of you and not caused by her. Just from that (and from the fact that you're worried about this) I can tell that you're a kind and thoughtful person. I don't have any concrete advice, but I wanted to let you know that you sound like the exact opposite of a bad person, and because of your self-awareness, you're already well on your way to being able to help yourself through this.

Aww thank you so much! You, ma'am, have made me feel tons better ♥

Yep, bad person. Bad people care what others think of them and are greedy. They want to be popular, rich, etc. but want things handed to them on a platter rather than work towards a goal.
The trick is not to care what others think and develop a personality and attitude that helps others and gives you personal joy. You will never please everyone and dropping your values in an attempt to do so will make things worse.

Chances are, you have no reason to be jealous. I never understood the concept. Others, when they see how content you are being yourself, will admire you and probably seek your friendship. Please know that me advice does not allow for cultural differences and is only a general guide. So relax, and good luck.

Bad people don't care what others think of them. Humans do.

Nope. Sorry but that never works. The people in your country who care what others think of them are called politicians. How about that bang up job they're doing with your money?

I'm not really sure about the point you're making here. Only (American?) politicians care what others think of them? That doesn't make any sense.

I used your politicians as an example. Folks who care what others' think of them live a dog and pony show instead of being themselves. This gives any kind of relationship no chance to succeed.
Among bad folks, appearance (rather than truth) is everything.

I think we're talking about two different things here. I believe that everyone cares what others think about them to a certain extent-- you, however, seem to be talking about people who *only* care what others think about them, and will lie and cheat and steal and do whatever they think they need to to keep up appearances and make themselves look good, often at the expense of others. I completely agree that that is a bad thing! But I don't think that's what the OP is doing.

Chances are you're right, but the poster is possibly teetering on the brink of putting more "juice" into image than actuality. What kids and many adults don't seem to understand is that it doesn't matter if a certain crowd doesn't seem to like you. Long ago I saw kids go from nice to nasty just to conform to a standard they admire and gain acceptance. This has life changing and ruining possibilities. "Be yourself" is always the best thing to do.

I look forward to meeting you elsewhere on this site. Please accept this token of admiration:

I agree completely, and I look forward to seeing you around too!

Thanks a lot ;)

Looks are not that important in the real world. Compared to my best friend Im the "ugly" one. Im heavy set, acne prone, i have to wear glasses for everything! I have big feet and I have wirey kinky curly hair. My friend has always had perfect clear skin, she has that great olive color skin tone, she's thin, soft and shiny perfect hair, no glasses. But the reality is, none of that matters. There is something that EVERYONE in the world wishes they could change about themselves (even the so called "perfect" people.) my beautiful best friend? she had braces becuase she was insecure about her teeth. Fashion models constantly diet becuase they are insecure about their size. Oftentimes, people who wear glasses get contacts becuase they don't like how they look with glasses.

Find something or a few things about yourself that you are really satisfied with. Mine is actually my hands! I have sender fingers and strong nails. My beautiful best friend? she envies my hands! She tells me all the time "I wish I had your hands!" Learn to love yourself, and people will take notice of your confidence.

I'm glad that you're neither jealous, nor jealous of your best friend! :) You're an awesome person.....Thanks for helping :)!!!

Jealousy is a sign of immaturity. Nothing to do with age, many so called adults are jealous people. Those that are self confident and not possessive of people are usually not the jealous type.

I think it just shows that you are insecure

You answered your own question: "I don't really have a high self esteem" and "...I feel so insecure." Forget others and focus on yourself, following Gandhi's advice, "Be the change you want to see in the world." Get and stay as fit and educated and caring as you can and in time bliss will find you.

Thanks a lot :)!!!

Good looks are fine, but not the primary factor...character is. People can be pretty all day long, but if their vain or selfish, etc...how long do you think others are going to consider them really pretty? They'll just think or say, "Hey, she's cute, but her attitude sucks," No, if one is pretty on the outside and on the inside, they are noticed a lot faster. And I doubt very much that you're not pretty. Jealousy is normal sometimes, but it can also be a very negative thing and cause you to become very negative, which means you will be miseable. So, know that you are pretty and a very cheerful, positive individual with a lot of good character.

Yep I completely understand you ;)

Thanks :)

Your very welcome.

This jealousy, it's natural i think, as long as, it doesn't abut, in hatred!