Why do couples stay together in an unhappy marriage?

by ANGEL Posted 2012/02/28 14:00:17

Related Topics: Marriage, Judaism, Divorce, Family, Money, Muslim, Couples, Religious, Hindu, Kids, Self-esteem, Kid

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According to this article, here are some of the main reasons for staying in an unhappy marriage:

1) the kids
2) money
3) low self-esteem
4) religious reasons
5) guilt
6) lonliness
7) social stigma (keep up appearances
8) pressure from family to stay together

Some cultures still frown upon divorce. For some, religious concerns might
rule out that option-be it Chrisitianity, Judaism, Scientology, Muslims, Hindu, etc.

What do you think is the main reason or reasons that couples choose to stay together, even though the marriage is an unhappy one?

Jdogg 2012/02/29 06:11:59

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They may have become accustomed to a certain lifestyle, And living on one paycheck will end that lifestyle that they got used to.

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skyperkins1 2012/02/28 21:35:58
Beat Magnum True Hero 2012/02/28 19:41:12

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Here's another reasons, may couples finally realize that marriage, like all other things isn't what Disney movies make it out to be. It's hard work, and to assume that you're going to be constantly happy in any endeavor is childish at best. Want to never be upset? Stay at home and never leave, because the world is full of crap that will kick you in the nuts. Once you dump the silly notion that the pinnacle of life is a constant state of happiness - a very unreliable and fleeting emotion - you find peace and in that peace, you grow up and find contentment in life, including marriage.

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taylor 2012/02/28 17:27:11

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Money, and kids

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David Hussey 2012/02/28 15:08:53

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I would add fear of the unknown to your list Angel

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ANGEL to David H... 2012/02/28 15:10:42 (edited)

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Good point! I was in a situation where I had been with a guy for 7 years. We weren't married - but leaving and starting over again was a pretty scary thought. Very often the familiar, although it may not be the ideal, is less frightening than staying put.

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David H... to ANGEL 2012/02/28 15:26:49

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I think we see this not just in relationships, but in other places as well. People stay in jobs they hate because it is familiar. And people will even stay in a location that they despise simply because the thought of beginning afresh in a new city, State or country is to daunting to them

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ANGEL to David H... 2012/02/28 15:48:57

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Yes you are right - it does spill over to other areas. And sometimes, oftentimes, step out of that comfort zone and you will discover a brighter new world.

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David H... to ANGEL 2012/02/28 15:55:34

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I couldn't agree more Angel, even the act of discovering new horizons holds wonders of its own

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Amasaman 2012/02/28 15:00:46

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Kids. Our kids kept us together through the few rough times we had. We owed it to our kids to work things out.

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Jiorgia 2012/02/28 14:52:39

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all of the above.

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Jersey Roze ♥Jwon's Cyar'ika ♥ 2012/02/28 14:51:12

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I think it would be the children, and not just money, but security in general....

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ANGEL to Jersey ... 2012/02/28 14:56:17

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Security is a good point and one that wasn't on the list noted in the article.

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Tianne Noel 2012/02/28 14:35:05

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Money
Not just the cost of a divorce but the splitting of assets and expenses of living single.

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