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Why are women nuts?

halfbreedjude 2013/06/16 09:59:04
Related Topics: cheat, Queen, Lie, The Queen
be the best guy u can be for a girl, never cheat, lie, always remember the big things and treat 'em like the queen but some of 'em still cant decide between you and the guy that did the opposite...
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  • Luca 2013/06/16 16:57:06
    Luca
    To women..men are nuts. Lack of understanding what makes each party equally guilty of being nuts. Here is a short essay for men to understand women, and women to understand men. Read it or ignore it..up to you..:-)

    A man is organized around Power. His anatomy, physiology, biochemistry, and psychology is constituted in order to serve the role of Power. Power seeks to confer its will over Society. In other words, it is external in its orientation. Power seeks to conquer, to win, to be #1. Power is tension-discharging.

    A woman is organized around Love. Her anatomy, physiology, biochemistry, and psychology is constituted in order to serve the role of Love. Love seeks harmony and peace within oneself, the home, and the family. Love is internal in its orientation and seeks equality among all. Love is tension-accumulating.

    It is due to the opposite nature of how each gender is constituted that makes communication and understanding oftentimes very difficult. In every way imaginable the difference between Power (external) and Love (internal) manifests. The most obvious example would be the male penis (external) versus the female vagina (internal). Because the predominant fixation of our attention is either 'out there' (external) or 'in here' (internal), we achieve our emotional...











    To women..men are nuts. Lack of understanding what makes each party equally guilty of being nuts. Here is a short essay for men to understand women, and women to understand men. Read it or ignore it..up to you..:-)

    A man is organized around Power. His anatomy, physiology, biochemistry, and psychology is constituted in order to serve the role of Power. Power seeks to confer its will over Society. In other words, it is external in its orientation. Power seeks to conquer, to win, to be #1. Power is tension-discharging.

    A woman is organized around Love. Her anatomy, physiology, biochemistry, and psychology is constituted in order to serve the role of Love. Love seeks harmony and peace within oneself, the home, and the family. Love is internal in its orientation and seeks equality among all. Love is tension-accumulating.

    It is due to the opposite nature of how each gender is constituted that makes communication and understanding oftentimes very difficult. In every way imaginable the difference between Power (external) and Love (internal) manifests. The most obvious example would be the male penis (external) versus the female vagina (internal). Because the predominant fixation of our attention is either 'out there' (external) or 'in here' (internal), we achieve our emotional satisfactions via an entirely opposite reward system. A man derives his ego-gratifications by recognition of his 'doings', whereas a woman derives her satisfactions by recognition of her 'being'. Simply expressed, a man derives his rewards reflectively, by recognition of 'object'; whereas a woman derives her rewards by direct recognition of self. All this sounds kind of heady I suppose, but it is very simple and effective when understood and applied and can be easily illustrated with a few quick examples:

    Imagine if you will your lovely wife/girlfriend/female romantic interest coming down the stairs to greet you wearing a new dress she bought just for you. In a typical male fashion you would probably say something like--"wow, what a beautiful dress", and in your mind paying her a compliment. She doesn't hear you at all!!! However, if you were to say--"wow, you look beautiful in that dress" (direct recognition of self)... she hears THAT!! Conversely, if you were to walk down the stairs in your new Brioni suit, she would probably say: "oh honey, you look so handsome in your new suit"! And you would probably reply: "who cares...what do you think of the suit"??? (you seek recognition of object, for object is the symbol of your Power).

    Regardless the situation, our reward systems will always bear witness to this distinction. If she cooks you dinner you may say.."wow, that is the best steak I ever had"...She doesn't hear you! If you say, "wow, you are the best cook in the world"...NOW she hears you. Conversely, if you cook the steak and she were to say to you "oh honey, you are a great cook"...you would respond by saying..."blah blah blah..but what did you think of the steak??!!!"

    When we view relations through the lens of Power and Love, the perfect harmony of this dance of the opposites takes on great dimensions of beauty. We see and understand more fully the old-fashioned value in the Hunter/Gatherer dynamic. It is our natural state of being, regardless of the cultural and societal pressures that have been placed upon us that skews our roles. The skewing of these dynamics has only made the divorce rate skyrocket.

    Power, by virtue of its nature is a dominant energy, whereas Love is a passive energy. Each are equal, just different. For most men I believe they very much want to be the Provider and Protector--to know that they have taken care of their woman in this fashion is their greatest satisfaction. Similarly, I think if most women were honest with themselves, they would much prefer to relinquish the yoke of responsibility and stresses that are associated with having to work, making financial decisions, and assuming roles that increase the accumulations of various tensions.

    It is said that behind every great man is a great woman. This is so. A man finds Purpose for his Power through Love. A woman in love finds Power that gives Meaning to her Love. The gentle guiding hand of a woman's Faith provides the Purpose of Power that is the source of a man's strength, vigor, and vitality. In turn, the successes he then achieves by the exertion of his will over Society enables him to provide the security so that the woman can let-go of her accumulated tensions. She then can luxuriate in her femininity and be that eternal inspiration for the man's Purpose. The appreciation that the man bestows upon her for this gift deepens her Meaning of Love. The respect she accords the man strengthens the Purpose of Power.

    This dance of the opposites is the perfect collaboration. We tend to see the antagonistic aspects between Man and Woman, and oftentimes fail to see this perfect collaboration that serves to more fully complete each other. A relationship must serve the internal satisfactions of both parties, and when harmonized properly, each person in their own way will provide the other a harbor for their heart and a refuge for their soul.
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  • bricklyn 2013/06/16 16:51:30
    bricklyn
    +1
    Who is to say what you think it treating her properly is actually that.

    Most men have no clue as to what women want or need. They never ask and they never listen either.
  • ★misfit★ 2013/06/16 14:48:49
  • Lorelei 2013/06/16 14:41:22 (edited)
    Lorelei
    What did you like so much about her in the first place? Did you choose her for her character as in honesty, loyalty and so on, for her goodness and kindness, her sweet personality? Or did you choose her based solely on her face and figure and how envious your buddies would be of you? Was she a gift or merely a status symbol?

    I'm not saying it's okay for a woman to keep a guy dangling, if that is what she is doing. But in the end however you see her treating others is about what she will do to you. Sometimes someone's looks and/or popularity influence us unduly.

    Of course the same for girls with a guy for that matter. Make sure you are "choosing wisely"
  • Willow 2013/06/16 13:50:55
    Willow
    Because sometimes girls want guys to be straightforwards. I mean, be the strong protector type? I mean, not always, but sometimes they do want a shoulder to cry on, as their boyfriend shoulder to cry on, not their friend shoulder to cry on.

    Eh... :)
  • Sister Jean 2013/06/16 13:26:31
    Sister Jean
    +1
    cuz of men like you
  • Rebel Yell 2013/06/16 13:12:30
    Rebel Yell
    You haven't met her yet. But she's out there and will love you for the nice guy you are.
  • Rave 2013/06/16 13:01:26
    Rave
    +1
    Love is irrational, you can't really pick and choose who you love based on "niceness". It's unfortunate and would probably be a lot better if people only liked those that treated them well but that's not the case.
  • BabyBear 2013/06/16 12:56:17
    BabyBear
    +2
    Per George Carlin: "Here's all you have to know about men and women; women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid."
  • Lorelei BabyBear 2013/06/16 14:45:35
    Lorelei
    Love that! :)
  • 666_Maggots~I'm a female! 2013/06/16 12:50:37
    666_Maggots~I'm a female!
    Because men make them that way.
  • Josh 2013/06/16 10:01:03
    Josh
    +1
    Some people are crazy men and women.
  • bricklyn Josh 2013/06/16 16:52:12
    bricklyn
    +1
    you got that right

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