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Why are some women so quick to call other women sluts and whores?

★☆Ams★☆ 2011/10/02 03:45:51
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I've noticed certain women complain about how men can sleep around and not get labeled as whores, and yet oftentimes they're the first to call other females derogatory names like "slut." Doesn't that just contribute to the thing they're complaining about? It doesn't make much sense to me.

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  • Doc. J 2011/10/03 09:55:17 (edited)
    It's because...
    Doc. J
    +7
    Women are just as, if not MORE competitive natured than we men are among ourselves.
    Let's use a MILD example:
    Two women discover they went to the same party wearing the same outfit.
    Even if they DON'T shoot each other eye-daggers, you can bet that the LEAST you will hear is:
    "I wear it better than that nasty ho!"
    "I don't look fat in it. She looks fat in it."
    "At least I can fill the blouse"...

    Two guys discover they have worn the same outfit to the same party.
    They high-five, pose for pictures together, buy each other drinks, and wind up best friends...

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  • Peter 2012/04/15 21:21:24
    It's because...
    Peter
    +1
    Some women complain about how unfair it is that men are called studs when they sleep around, yet women get called sluts for the exact same behavior. It’s actually not a double standard though, because both scenarios are pretty different in terms of circumstances and consequences. I can think of at least four crucial differences:

    First, sleeping around is easier for women. Regardless of how you feel about promiscuity, we can all agree that a guy who manages to rack up a lot of sexual partners has to have some skills. It’s challenging for men to rack up partners, even for men with low standards. A man needs social intelligence, interpersonal skills, persistence, thick skin, and plain old dumb luck. For women, though, a vagina and a pulse is often enough. Whenever an accomplishment requires absolutely no challenge, no one respects it. It’s just viewed as a lack of self-discipline. People respect those who accomplish challenging feats, while they consider those who overindulge in easily obtained feats as weak, untrustworthy or flawed.

    Second, women have potential to do more harm by sleeping around than men do. Say a man sleeps around with a bunch of different women. He’s definitely doing harm to these women if he pretends to be monogamous while sleeping around. He may cause them...















    Some women complain about how unfair it is that men are called studs when they sleep around, yet women get called sluts for the exact same behavior. It’s actually not a double standard though, because both scenarios are pretty different in terms of circumstances and consequences. I can think of at least four crucial differences:

    First, sleeping around is easier for women. Regardless of how you feel about promiscuity, we can all agree that a guy who manages to rack up a lot of sexual partners has to have some skills. It’s challenging for men to rack up partners, even for men with low standards. A man needs social intelligence, interpersonal skills, persistence, thick skin, and plain old dumb luck. For women, though, a vagina and a pulse is often enough. Whenever an accomplishment requires absolutely no challenge, no one respects it. It’s just viewed as a lack of self-discipline. People respect those who accomplish challenging feats, while they consider those who overindulge in easily obtained feats as weak, untrustworthy or flawed.

    Second, women have potential to do more harm by sleeping around than men do. Say a man sleeps around with a bunch of different women. He’s definitely doing harm to these women if he pretends to be monogamous while sleeping around. He may cause them emotional pain by his promiscuity. He may cause unwanted pregnancy. He may spread VD. When women sleep around, however, they can cause not only all these same ill effects but one additional crucial ill effect: the risk of unknown parentage.

    If one guy sleeps around with five women, each of whom is monogamous to him, and they all get pregnant, it’s a safe bet as to who the father is. If you reverse genders and have one woman who sleeps around with five men who are monogamous to her, and she gets pregnant, the father could be any of the five men. And if one of those men is tricked into raising a baby that isn’t his, he’s investing time, money, estate and property to provide for a child that isn’t carrying his DNA into the next generations, a costly mistake from an evolutionary standpoint.

    Our two basic primal drives are to survive and to reproduce, and promiscuous women traditionally make it hard for a man to know for sure whether he is truly reproducing or is secretly raising another man’s child. Men stand a lot more to lose from promiscuous women than the other way around. And it’s no picnic for the child to not know who his real father is either. And it’s a mess for the women carrying on the deception as well. Or just look at any random episode of the Maury show if you don’t believe me.

    Since the DNA test and the birth control pill didn’t exist until recently, there were no reliable ways to prevent pregnancy or prove parentage for most of human history. For this reason society developed a vested interest in preventing promiscuity among women, and society accomplished this by creating the slut stigma. And even though the creation of birth control and DNA tests have made this less of a risk than the past, longstanding traditions and customs are not easy for society to break so the slut stigma remains.

    Third, men have evolutionary reasons to be programmed to sleep around more. A lot of women roll their eyes when they hear that men are “hard-wired” to sleep around. But from an evolutionary standpoint, it makes total sense. If the two primal drives of humans are to survive and to reproduce, nothing leads to maximum reproduction like one man sleeping with multiple women. If one women sleeps with many men in a nine month period, she can only get pregnant just once. Nine months of rampant promiscuity would give the same result as nine months of highly sexed monogamy: one pregnancy. Now if one man sleeps with many women during a nine month period, you can get many pregnancies during that period. The more women he sleeps with, the more possible pregnancies.

    So from an evolutionary standpoint, there are concrete advantages to men being promiscuous compared to women being promiscuous. This doesn’t mean that women have evolved to be strictly monogamous. Women have evolved to be somewhat promiscuous too, something men badly underestimate. However they haven’t evolved to be as rampantly promiscuous as men.

    Fourth, promiscuity poses more risk to women than to men. A woman has more to lose from choosing bad sex partners than a man does. She’s the one who gets stuck with going through a pregnancy and taking care of a baby alone if she chooses a deadbeat. For this reason, promiscuous women throughout history have historically been viewed as being a vastly more irresponsible risk takers than promiscuous men, who rightly or wrongly could always run away from the consequences of unwanted pregnancies easier than women could.

    These four reasons explain why the longstanding tradition came about of men being rewarded for multiple partners while women get socially punished for similar promiscuity. Of course all this is gradually changing, but we’re up against millenia of evolutionary and cultural conditioning here, so don’t expect any dramatic overnight reversals.

    Understand that I’m just explaining why the double standard came into existence and not condoning or condemning it. This is not an attempt to pass judgment or be self-righteous in any way. It’s just an explanation of why the two conditions are treated differently.
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  • Peter Feller 2012/02/10 00:04:51
    It's because...
    Peter Feller
    +1
    Men and women are equals. This does not mean that they are equal in every single thing they do. For example, men are, on average, physically stronger than women. It is much easier for a semi attractive (even a 6/10) woman to go out and get laid. The same cannot be said about men. Men have to work at it, have some skill (game) and thereby get a woman to sleep with them. It is a LOT harder for an equally attractive man to get women than it is the other way around. This is one of reasons behind why we, as a society, naturally celebrate men who are successful in bedding multiple women; while at the same time shame women who bed multiple men.

    Let us briefly visit the topic of virginity from both perspectives. Virginity in a man is not a desirable state or label when it comes to an attribute that the opposite sex wants. This is because he has obviously not been preselected by other women. However, female virginity is not looked at negatively in the least by men. If she looks decent, no man cares if the girl is a virgin or not. In fact, a female virgin is often wanted more.
    Now don’t get me wrong, men LOVE sluts. We will never turn down an opportunity to sleep with a good looking slut. Partly because she’s good in bed, partly because it’s sex. But any decently intelligent, self-resp...



    Men and women are equals. This does not mean that they are equal in every single thing they do. For example, men are, on average, physically stronger than women. It is much easier for a semi attractive (even a 6/10) woman to go out and get laid. The same cannot be said about men. Men have to work at it, have some skill (game) and thereby get a woman to sleep with them. It is a LOT harder for an equally attractive man to get women than it is the other way around. This is one of reasons behind why we, as a society, naturally celebrate men who are successful in bedding multiple women; while at the same time shame women who bed multiple men.

    Let us briefly visit the topic of virginity from both perspectives. Virginity in a man is not a desirable state or label when it comes to an attribute that the opposite sex wants. This is because he has obviously not been preselected by other women. However, female virginity is not looked at negatively in the least by men. If she looks decent, no man cares if the girl is a virgin or not. In fact, a female virgin is often wanted more.
    Now don’t get me wrong, men LOVE sluts. We will never turn down an opportunity to sleep with a good looking slut. Partly because she’s good in bed, partly because it’s sex. But any decently intelligent, self-respecting man will know that it is a terrible idea to emotionally involve himself (i.e. date) a slutty girl. That would be a very dumb move. Why would any man want to get emotionally involved with a girl who’s had 15+ sexual partners? We would just be setting ourselves up for failure. There are many nice worthy girls out there who don’t have daddy issues and haven’t slept with an entire fraternity house. But, by all means, fvck the brains out of sluts in the meanwhile.

    Most guys can detect when a girl is a slut by the first few dates and by what he hears about the girl from other people and from the girl herlself. We put this information together and figure out if she is dating material or not. If not, I like most guys, will still go in for the prize but have no intention of following through with dating the dirty little tart.

    To put it simply, a lock that can be opened by many keys is a useless lock and of little worth. But a key that can open many locks is a master key and is valuable.
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  • Razzy Ratchets 2011/10/11 04:11:35
    It's because...
    Razzy Ratchets
    +1
    A lot of women hate themselves and feel worthless, therefore they project those negative feelings onto other women. Jealousy and spite go al long way as well. I do not waste my precious time on this sort of harpy.
  • Angel 2011/10/05 17:40:17
    It's because...
    Angel
    +1
    They are jealous whether it be their looks, or the fact they have self confidence
  • Kerymi 2011/10/05 02:49:28
    It's because...
    Kerymi
    +1
    Insecurity for the most part.
    I don't know why, but women seem to be naturally catty.
  • Zammo 2011/10/04 18:56:27
    It's because...
    Zammo
    +1
    Takes one to know one...
  • Todd *RP 2012* 2011/10/04 04:02:47
    I don't get it either.
    Todd *RP 2012*
    +1
    Calling women catty is an insult to cats everywhere.
    at least cats are faithful to the ones they love. If you aren't that person they'll cut you off at the knees, but they do form very strong attachments to one person.
    Women can't even get it that far right.
  • fairiefang -annoying fashio... 2011/10/03 20:51:51 (edited)
    I don't get it either.
    fairiefang -annoying fashion snobs everywhere-
    +4
    The only time I refer to a woman as a "slut" or "whore" is if she knowingly sleeps with someone who is already married/in a relationship or women who cheat on their signifcant others. I think people like that are scum. I consider men who do the same thing to be whores, as well.

    I have nothing against people who sleep with random people they aren't in a relationship with. It's the 21st century. You don't need to be married or in a serious relationship to have sex.
  • gkirmani 2011/10/03 20:16:06
    It's because...
    gkirmani
    +1
    you see it is in thier DNA<><><>>?
  • Relay 2011/10/03 17:39:26
    It's because...
    Relay
    +1
    probably because they are....Lol
  • Pixie·Ÿ... Relay 2011/10/04 02:01:25
  • Relay Pixie·Ÿ... 2011/10/06 20:12:58
    Relay
    +1
    no i dont think... its harmless
  • Maleficent 2011/10/03 16:53:08
    It's because...
    Maleficent
    +3
    maybe they're mad because the woman who they labeled as a slut is getting more fun and attention than them.
  • Pixie·Ÿ... Maleficent 2011/10/04 02:02:01
  • Maleficent Pixie·Ÿ... 2011/10/04 15:17:05
    Maleficent
    +2
    :high five: i also raved u. XD
  • Pixie·Ÿ... Maleficent 2011/10/04 15:32:44
  • Maleficent Pixie·Ÿ... 2011/10/05 00:19:21
    Maleficent
    +1
    :wink:
  • Mrs Reckless 2011/10/03 16:24:44
    It's because...
    Mrs Reckless
    +2
    its because we are all bitches..simple as that :L
  • Arel 2011/10/03 15:39:50
    It's because...
    Arel
    +2
    they are jealous.
  • DavidZubatuk 2011/10/03 12:10:58
    I don't get it either.
    DavidZubatuk
    +4
    Then again, I rarely understand ANYTHING women say or do... confusion
  • ❤Runaway❤ 2011/10/03 11:34:13
    I don't get it either.
    ❤Runaway❤
    +2
    Maybe it's because they can't think of anything better to say...?
  • Brightsprite62 2011/10/03 11:08:22
    I don't get it either.
    Brightsprite62
    +2
    Or why a male (mostly young adults) are quick to call a female they have slept with repeatedly a slut or whore. Hello. You slept with her often enough what does that make you. When I ask their lame excuse is "But I'm the man."
  • Pixie·Ÿ... Brights... 2011/10/04 02:02:41
  • CUDDLY BUT STILL CRABBY 2011/10/03 11:05:32
    It's because...
    CUDDLY BUT STILL CRABBY
    +1
    It's the same reason some ethnic groups in America choose to call they're mothers and sisters hoes.

    NO CLASS.
  • witchaf... CUDDLY ... 2011/10/03 15:33:17
    witchafalls sofalls witcha
    a hoe is a gardening tool crappy tom
  • Doc. J 2011/10/03 09:55:17 (edited)
    It's because...
    Doc. J
    +7
    Women are just as, if not MORE competitive natured than we men are among ourselves.
    Let's use a MILD example:
    Two women discover they went to the same party wearing the same outfit.
    Even if they DON'T shoot each other eye-daggers, you can bet that the LEAST you will hear is:
    "I wear it better than that nasty ho!"
    "I don't look fat in it. She looks fat in it."
    "At least I can fill the blouse"...

    Two guys discover they have worn the same outfit to the same party.
    They high-five, pose for pictures together, buy each other drinks, and wind up best friends...
  • Pixie·Ÿ... Doc. J 2011/10/04 02:03:38
  • myteemouth 2011/10/03 09:55:06
    I don't get it either.
    myteemouth
    +2
    Every time we refer to other females as "sluts" "Whores" or "bitches" we make it easier for men to think of us that way
  • fairief... myteemouth 2011/10/03 20:53:05
    fairiefang -annoying fashion snobs everywhere-
    Very true!
  • Pamu 2011/10/03 08:47:57
    It's because...
    Pamu
    +1
    jealousy.
  • KoAm 2011/10/03 05:25:31
    It's because...
    KoAm
    +1
    It's because some of them are sluts and whores -- or at least behave like it.

    I'm not "quick" to call anyone a name like that. It's not something I'd do lightly.

    But truth be told, some women ARE like that. Let's not deny it.
  • Pixie·Ÿ... KoAm 2011/10/04 02:04:08
  • Jay 2011/10/03 04:52:26
    I don't get it either.
    Jay
    +1
    This is why i sometimes say i can curse the day the docts told my mom that i was a girl. Women have this very spiteful side to them, so yeah a guy has the doggy side where he is more likely to sleep around and not give a crap. But then last time i checked he wasnt doing it alone. So why complain when if u observe you now you contribute to tthe problem.
  • It's because...
    Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ D. Plexippus Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
    +1
    Ironically, the more commonly a derogatory word is used, the more invisible it becomes. But since it is a word loaded with negative meaning, what it truly means defense of whom its pertaining to and people are so hung up on using it...:)
  • Yars the Great 2011/10/03 04:47:05
    It's because...
    Yars the Great
    +2
    it's because they have not looked in the mirror.
  • D.G.rocks 2011/10/03 04:08:41
    I don't get it either.
    D.G.rocks
    +1
    I hate girls sometimes
  • Wrinkleranch 2011/10/03 04:05:26
    It's because...
    Wrinkleranch
    +2
    They are judgmental and maybe jealous that the girl is better liked than they are.
  • Ozymandias 2011/10/03 03:59:49
  • Ferηαηdo 夢 2011/10/03 03:54:18
    It's because...
    Ferηαηdo 夢
    +1
    They are judgmental and usually throw stones when their house is made of glass.

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