Which is a better solution?

or just adopt!!

Actually the second 2 are good ideas. But if you want to carry on your own family genes then in vitro fertilization is a good choice.

He needs to see a psychiatrist and find out why he feels he NEEDS to "pass on his genes" - is that really going to matter to anyone 100 years from now?

Good point.

Adopt... there are lots of perfectly wonderful children already out there who don't have parents. You don't need to make your own. You're not that special.

Why is she sterile? Is it for any reason other than lack of egg production? If she is getting a period then in vitro fertilization could be a viable way of passing on both of their genes. They would just need to possibly find a surrogate to carry the baby to term. (sorta hard)

If she is sterile from not producing eggs, then that is actually somewhat good news. It is much easier to find an egg donor than a surrogate womb (and cheaper). (best case?)

I would highly recommend against getting a second wife. That seems ridiculous for all types of accounts. This isn't the middle ages where women (and their feelings) are disposable in the face of creating an heir. Plus there are all types of legal hurdles to cross (is polygamy allowed in his country/state?) and liabilities to consider (spousal support?)

Lastly, adoption is not a viable means to pass on one's genes so, I could not recommend that.

PS. As a geneticist, I would be completely remiss to mention, that there is very little information on the Y chromosome. So if he has a boy, it will most likely carry the vast majority of his mother's traits. If he has a girl, then at least the possibility of similarity in phenotypical expression being higher is greater.

So, if he wants a boy, then I would ask him to pay much closer attention to the mother's traits. There is a much higher risk of him turning out like her than him.

It depends on what the couple feels is best.

sperm bank. pass on your genes to some1 els and adopt your own kid whats the diff? :p

Surrogate mother :)

Surrogate mother using the mans sperm..

There are plenty parent less children that would welcome a loving home. I raised two myself.

IVF won't work for them if she is sterile...they could use a donor egg and his sperm with a surrogate to carry it...but only if his wife's uterus is not viable to carry it safely...that way he can carry on his bloodline and still have his happy marriage... :)

That's what I meant.

What does SHE want to do as far as a child?

If she loves him as much as he seems to love her she will most likely want a child... :)

I'm not convinced he loves her that much.

I don't know either way...I can only base my opinion on the details...but if he is not willing to take a second wife I can only ASSUME he loves her...that is the problem when faced with a very small sampling of the situation...but out of curiosity...why do you say that?... :)

If he loved her as he says he wouldn't even consider a 2nd wife and he would be discussing this with her to find out how she feels. To me it seems to be all about him, which is why I asked what she wants. Just my instinct.

You make a good point...but not playing devil's advocate...what if he loves her and she really wants and can't have children...what if he wants to go to her with options and not hurt her...men are not always sure how do deal with women on this kind of a personal level...you might be right and have perfect instincts...but I worked for a fertility doctor for a while...and when you see the turmoil people go through to have a child you start to see how important it is to them...regardless of their reason... :)

I have a best friend & a niece who can't have children, so I'm aware of the turmoil. I do not know, not my problem but hope he finds one that works for both of them.

I am sorry about your friend and niece...I completely agree with you... :)

Thank you :-)

Adopt or surrogate mom if dad really wants his own genes passed on.

A egg doner.

If I knew what even half of those words meant I'm sure I could find a solution >=|

Let me put it this way. Have you seen American Dad?

I only watch it all the time

Well in vitro fertilization is what Greg and Terry did with Francine, so they could have their child.

Oh, so she carried their baby....sorta?

Yeah. Don't you think that's better than having a second wife? And just having a surrogate mother.

Seems cheaper too

I would not even think of a second wife.

That's what I thought.

IVF won't work with a sterile woman...she can't produce the egg to fertilize...especially if she is one of the women who goes through menopause young... :)

They often use eggs from others. That was what I was thinking about.

I did mention that in an earlier post...donor egg & sperm & surrogate... :)

That's what I meant by IVF.

That actually falls more under the artificial insemination as opposed to IVF... :)

Did not see it thank You

Not a problem...sometimes there are way to many comments to catch them all... :)