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Jan Haskell 2013/01/07 18:36:17Undecided
+11They are both horrid. It's difficult to completely separate the two .... physical abuse causes mental trauma, and mental abuse can cause physical illness.
At least with physical abuse victims are usually healed. They're both extremely horrible to go through though.
it is okay to abuse another...be it a person or an animal? If abusers only knew that one
of the hallmarks of an abuser is cowardliness, they might think twice as they shrink from
the definition of "coward."
Also if someone is being physically abused, they are also being mentally abused. In that situation there isnt one without the other.
A mental abuser likes to give backhanded compliments that sound good to others. Mine liked to call me "Super Mom" when our daughter was an infant, and he refused to help with her. Super Mom was not a compliment. It was his way of putting 100% of all child rearing duties on me (you can count on one hand the number of diapers he ever changed). I knew that was why he called me that, but to everyone else there was something "wrong" with me for disliking that nickname.
A mental abuser likes to play head games with you until you live in a distorted reality. Mine liked to continually reinforce to me how something "bad" would surely happen to my daug...
A mental abuser likes to give backhanded compliments that sound good to others. Mine liked to call me "Super Mom" when our daughter was an infant, and he refused to help with her. Super Mom was not a compliment. It was his way of putting 100% of all child rearing duties on me (you can count on one hand the number of diapers he ever changed). I knew that was why he called me that, but to everyone else there was something "wrong" with me for disliking that nickname.
A mental abuser likes to play head games with you until you live in a distorted reality. Mine liked to continually reinforce to me how something "bad" would surely happen to my daughter and me if we were out after dark unless we were with him, so I got to the point where I just stopped going out anywhere after dark for fear of that something "bad" happening. The sun went down, and I went home. No movies, no restaurants, no mall, no grocery shopping even. I definitely liked summer better than winter when I lived with him!
A mental abuser always leaves you feeling threatened that something worse is to come (mine liked to threaten to get his gun), so you always walk around on eggshells just *waiting* for it. I used to beg my ex to hit me just to get that threat over with. He never would; he'd just escalate the verbal warfare.
Mental abusers aren't just parents or significant others. They can be anyone, anywhere who constantly makes you somehow feel less than worthy, through their words and/or their actions. Friends, coworkers, siblings, even children can engage in mental abuse.
Same can be said about physical abusers too, but at least you can show the bruises if you chose to do so.
all of this is and can be ABUSIVE ..
(and you can fall under multiple categories of abuse too in an ABUSIVE Relationship)
Quite frankly ..
any abuse is WRONG ..
and I stand against it ..
Abuse is Abuse and both are destructive.
I can take physical abuse, but the psychological trauma is what takes some time to deal with. I still have trust issues because of it.