When You're Invited to Dinner at a Friend's or Family Member's Home, Do You Offer to Help Clean Up?

by Leasheryn/Lady Willpower Posted 2013/01/02 01:28:01

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	Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.	99 votes	92%
	No, They Invited Me. I'll Sit on My Lazy Behind While They Do the All the Work.	7 votes	6%
	I Run For the Door As Soon As It Looks Like There's Cleaning Up to Do.	2 votes	2%

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boo63 2013/01/02 02:38:34

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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I also bring a little something something along like wine or a dessert
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mae 2013/01/05 07:53:16

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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Yes, Always help with the clean-up--it's bad manners not to, and besides, the faster it's cleaned up, the sooner everyone can get back to a good time.

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Leasher... to mae 2013/01/06 02:13:37

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I like your answer and agree completely. Also you can chat while doing the work.

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jere.chievres 2013/01/04 16:31:20 (edited)

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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Always. And bring wine and a small gift.

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Leasher... to jere.ch... 2013/01/05 01:50:25

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It's the polite thing to do.

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MsDianna 2013/01/04 15:43:19

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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yes I was taught that was the right thing to do. it's your hostess's right to accept your help if she wants or needs it.

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Leasher... to MsDianna 2013/01/05 01:51:19

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That's the way I see it. It's nice to offer and to pitch in if the help is accepted.

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texasred 2013/01/03 03:11:19

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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And I don't just offer, I get up and start helping. Too many of my friends will say it's not necessary, but I don't like to leave them with a mess!!

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Leasher... to texasred 2013/01/04 01:56:15

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I wouldn't leave my friends or family with a mess. They've already done enough to put together a big dinner; they shouldn't have to face the dishes alone. It's a daunting task and one that requires as much assistance as possible.

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texasred to Leasher... 2013/01/04 02:01:01

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That's how I feel.

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Emilee Sheeley 2013/01/03 01:02:01

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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its the right thing to do

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Leasher... to Emilee ... 2013/01/03 01:33:49

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I completely agree.

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sjalan 2013/01/02 22:57:26

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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And most of the time they say go sit in the living room we'll be right out. When they do come out, they usually have after dinner wine or brandy with them.

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cjd 2013/01/02 21:35:19

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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that's the very least I can do to show my gratitude

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Leasher... to cjd 2013/01/03 01:34:38

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That's true.

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Diana 2013/01/02 20:46:17

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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Yes,it's the polite thing to do.

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Leasher... to Diana 2013/01/03 01:34:47

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I agree.

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lm1b2 2013/01/02 19:37:49

No, They Invited Me. I'll Sit on My Lazy Behind While They Do the All the Work.

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I don't expect nor want them to help me clean up as a guest,so why would i help them at there house?

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Leasher... to lm1b2 2013/01/03 01:36:19

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Because it's just plain rude not to at least offer to help. If they say no (which they usually do), you can go sit your lazy ass on the sofa and do nothing productive, like every other slacker.

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Servant... to lm1b2 2013/01/03 03:38:03

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Because if you don't the petty little beaches will turn on you and write nasty sheet about you on social networks. When my life devolves to the point that I am crying and hating on my friends and family because they don't offer to wash my dishes I'll know my life is worthless.

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YOMOMMA 2013/01/02 16:59:30 (edited)

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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Always help clean up. We can visit while we work. I start helping without asking.

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Leasher... to YOMOMMA 2013/01/03 01:36:59

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That's the best part. You can chat and share ideas while helping out. It's fun.

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texasred to YOMOMMA 2013/01/03 03:13:12

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Yep... that's how I do it, too.

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Bronar 2013/01/02 16:32:53

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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I was one of four boys. We helped as kids, now I help as an adult. It's simply good manners. And remember, always clear the lady's plates first!

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Leasher... to Bronar 2013/01/03 01:37:37

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You must have had good parents if they taught you manners while you were growing up. :-))

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Bronar to Leasher... 2013/01/03 17:22:21

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Luckily I did. Cheers!

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TiffanyBelle 2013/01/02 15:48:39

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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my mama taught me some really important stuff like:
never show up empty handed and to always offer to help clean up.
even though i may not know the host well, i always offer to help clean up (unless the party is at a public place like a restaurant/chuck e cheese, etc OR it's obvious they have staff).
picking up a few dishes and taking them to the sink after a dinner party or picking up all the scraps of wrapping paper from a birthday party is not a big deal to me and it's always appreciated when someone does that for me.

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Leasher... to Tiffany... 2013/01/03 01:39:52

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It's the polite thing to do and, I think, it's greatly appreciated when a guest helps out. It's a lot of work to cook for everyone and just as much to clean up. Giving a helping hand is a kindness that most host are grateful to receive.

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MsDianna to Tiffany... 2013/01/04 15:48:41

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it took my husband years to understand why I always took a gift for the hostess and always offered to clean up after everyone else would leave. I was taught that as a child. Even if it's a single flower that a child takes it what's given from the heart that will make that hostess so happy and loved.

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Tiffany... to MsDianna 2013/01/05 02:17:52

well said... it doesn't have to be a $100 bottle of wine and you don't have to clean up until the last thing is put away but it is nice to bring something - anything - and at least offer in earnest to assist in any way to clean up :-)
glad i'm not the only 1

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Kat 2013/01/02 14:35:52

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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Usually

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Sassy Kim 2013/01/02 13:41:08

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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Always.

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AM 2013/01/02 13:31:30

No, They Invited Me. I'll Sit on My Lazy Behind While They Do the All the Work.

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No I was raised that a guest is a guest and should be treated as one.Also a hostess gift is never neglected.The same goes for my guests I do not allow any of them to ever clean up that is part of having a dinner party and more than not they are not dressed for that.When i've had large groups I hire someone to do the clean up and help with service.

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lm1b2 to AM 2013/01/02 19:39:40

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Finally a intelligent answer!

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AM to lm1b2 2013/01/03 18:11:05

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Thank you.How unfortunate that culturally we are neglecting proper manners, decorum and a sense of propriety when it comes to social events.Trading formality for what seems to be the potluck dinner crowd.

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Leasher... to AM 2013/01/03 01:46:15

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That's just proving your ignorance. The very least anyone can do is offer to help out. Most of the time, the host will say No Thank You and don't have to do anything. They will appreciate you more for having made the offer and will offer to help you during your next party. You can, in return, always say No Thank You.

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AM to Leasher... 2013/01/03 18:01:00

What's ignorant is casting judgment on someone and something you obviously know nothing about.You don't know my social circles and what is proper decorum and etiquette in them.Many of my friends would find it in bad taste to offer such a thing.No not appreciate my asking more so be insulted by it.If it's just close friends and an improptu casual thing of course we help each other.

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YOMOMMA to AM 2013/01/03 18:41:57

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I suppose you would not offer to help servants clean up.

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Pyro-82 2013/01/02 13:14:24

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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No, I help whether they like it or not; or at least clean my own mess if nothing else.

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Leasher... to Pyro-82 2013/01/03 01:47:26

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Same here. I like to think I've helped out and haven't left them with all the work of preparing a meal and cleaning up afterwards too.

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Lady Whitewolf 2013/01/02 12:58:46

Yes, Of Course. I Always Offer to Help.

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It's good manners!!

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