When Should You 'Friend' a New Love Interest on Facebook?

by SodaHead Living Posted 2012/05/17 21:00:00

Related Topics: Friend, love interest, Crush, Facebook, Date, War, Friends, Movie, Pictures, Photos, Ex, Photo, Love, Fan, Dress

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	Before the first date	212 votes	27%
	After the first date	140 votes	18%
	After the second date	98 votes	13%
	After the third date	140 votes	18%
	Never	189 votes	24%

Our friends over at How About We raise an interesting question: When is it OK to "friend" a new love interest on Facebook? According to the site, it usually comes down to a couple of factors ("I don’t want my ex to see," "I'm not ready for him to see pictures of me in a Civil War-era dress from my reenactment days," "I’m seeing someone else.") But there's gotta be a protocol for how long to wait (one date, two dates, three dates), right?

And what about the other way around? The dating site also has a few rules for what to do when someone you like friend-requests you on Facebook:

1. DO NOT HIT "ACCEPT" YET. Meaning, not until you clean up your page.

2. Start With The Important Thing: Your Top 5 Pictures. "Cast a critical eye on the 5 pictures on the top of your profile. Are these the best possible 5 pictures of you in existence?" How About We advises.

3. Scroll A Little Further. "Look through, let’s say, the next 20 of your tagged photos. Here, you’re just scrolling to quickly detag anything potentially unflattering," the site recommends.

4. Move On To The Wall. "Make sure you haven’t “'liked' any embarrassing articles lately," they say.

5. What Do You Write on Your Friends' Walls? "If your own wall has '‘hahahahahhaha!’ on So & So's Wall 500 times, delete at least 80 percent of them," they suggest (solid advice).

6. Click On "More Info." "Check it out on the off-chance that your crush does, and finds something embarrassing," they say. Meaning, if you were a huge fan of "The Smurfs" movie, it might be time for an edit!

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L1 2012/05/18 00:06:23

Never

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I don't mix real life with cyber, and I don't like FB.
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Izzy! 2012/05/18 16:05:36

Before the first date

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whenever you want to?.. and don't follow any of the rules up there... why would you "clean" your page?.. That's stupid.

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Brianna Carnegie 2012/05/18 16:03:51

Before the first date

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If ur not friends b4 the first date then there is a problem. U would want to get to know the person right?!?

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michael to Brianna... 2012/05/18 20:18:56

I mean the first date could be the getting to know them part.

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FatherLiberty 2012/05/18 15:45:59

Never

+1
You shouldnt be on Facebook.

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HarleyCharley 2012/05/18 15:09:44

Before the first date

and then see where it goes...

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lola love 2012/05/18 15:09:27

Never

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Keep your private life private...............Atleast I do....lol...

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MlssCue =Go Blue= 2012/05/18 15:09:10

After the second date

This really depends on how well the "dates" went.

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SODAHEADSHEAD 2012/05/18 15:07:43

Never

Uhh...never!

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RoseyRhod 2012/05/18 14:54:30

Never

I'm never going to have a significant other again, so the answer is easily never, in my case. I don't even use Facebook that much.

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Rdtourist 2012/05/18 14:37:12

Never

Get off the "This is My Life" tell all that lets you tell the world what you should not even tell your cat, FaceBook is socially dangerous.

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cageaikenz 2012/05/18 09:52:17

After the second date

The second date means " we are now friends " coz you've known the person better and you guys are no longer have the pressure atmosphere when close to each other

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Wanderer 2012/05/18 07:27:32

Before the first date

ASAP it's a dog eat dog world when you play the dating game.

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dandieselonian 2012/05/18 06:53:05

Before the first date

look before you leap

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Ben 2012/05/18 06:09:53

Never

+2
Keep em guessing.

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Inquisitve Kat 2012/05/18 05:55:57

Before the first date

+1
If I want to get to know someone... I want to get to know them.

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Red_Horse 2012/05/18 05:48:45
Morgan 2012/05/18 04:08:07

After the third date

+1
I mean if the third date goes well. I also wouldn't want to seem too clingy

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jackie 2012/05/18 03:44:17

Never

+2
Idk, im a forever alone kinda girl.

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seahawk665 2012/05/18 03:37:19

After the third date

Unless you are already friends, you really shouldn't friend your new love interest right away. You should go on more than a few dates first. When it seems like both of you are interested continuing your relationship, then you can make it "Facebook official." I just feel like friending him/her any earlier is like beating him/her over the head, like you're rushing into the relationship. It could potentially scare off the girl or the guy. Not because of what's on the profile, but because everything's moving too fast. And you don't even know if you want to be in a relationship with this person until after the first few dates anyway. I don't know. Am I making sense here?

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Pixie·MzAwesome♠ƤĦĂĔŢ♠ 2012/05/18 03:29:37

After the second date

+1
damn thing jumped I hit before the first date. I would friend them as soon as I meet them...

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Vitalani 2012/05/18 03:28:51

After the first date

Hell I just add people after I meet them!

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Firefly 2012/05/18 03:26:36

Never

+3
Been there, done that ~

NOT gonna happen again...

All fun and games, and THEN

YA GIT YOUR EYES POKED OUT !

Bitter much, Firefly ?!? YEUP, INDEED ;p

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Kabrelle 2012/05/18 02:42:41

Never

+2
From what I've read, the six steps on what to do before accepting the friend request is basically lie/change everything about yourself for that one person, and that's never a good thing.

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Christopher Kirchen 2012/05/18 02:30:31

After the third date

There's no single time. It depends.

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Fenabarb 2012/05/18 01:59:21

After the third date

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believe me I have let them on to my facebook page and regret that I did not get to know them better

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Visipunkbot sXe 2012/05/18 01:55:44

Never

+4
Facebook is just a bad idea in general.

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♌βļąƈʞƦơșƐ3033♌ 2012/05/18 01:47:53

After the first date

+1
Make sure you're actually boyfriend/girlfriend first.

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Bibliophilic 2012/05/18 01:44:42

Before the first date

+2
Does having a crush mean that it has to develop into a relationship? Seriously? I add people who are interesting and live near me- friends and acquaintances.

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Inquisi... to Bibliop... 2012/05/18 05:58:16

I do that, too.
In fact, I recently added couple friends from forums elsewhere, and all of them live quite some distance from me. Our identity just seems to be so "out there", I've grown okay with it.

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Jo 2012/05/18 01:44:22

Never

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It really isnt a good idea for couples or those otherwise involved to be facebook friends.

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gregaj7 2012/05/18 00:31:15

Never

+4
Don't do FB!

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L1 2012/05/18 00:06:23

Never

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I don't mix real life with cyber, and I don't like FB.

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Rockang... to L1 2012/05/18 03:34:44

It sucks I have 7 generations on facebook I wished my one couzin.

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Rockang... to L1 2012/05/18 03:37:46

It sucks I have 7 generations on facebook I wished my one couzin. Never gotme to do it and I hate it I just wished god put all single woman and man and put big park and see what happens at the end of the day

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L1 to Rockang... 2012/05/18 14:31:16

Maybe, but it be too easy for some people if God did that.

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geneticmistake 2012/05/17 23:27:30

Never

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Facebook gets to know virtually nothing about my life. I'm extremely picky about Facebook friends. Facebook anti-social about sums it up. Only there because I have to be for business. There are other social sites that don't harvest all one's information for marketing purposes like Facebook does.

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Sakura11247 2012/05/17 23:08:18

Before the first date

+3
You have to be friends before you can start a relationship (Not like friends on facebook, but real friendship.)

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Sterling 2012/05/17 23:07:27

Before the first date

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I don't understand why people try to hide things about themselves. I mean you can clean up things that have legitimately changed about you since high school (and lets face it there will be a lot), but I don't understand why you think entering a relationship under false pretenses is a smart idea.

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Sakura1... to Sterling 2012/05/17 23:10:53

+4
I completely agree. Friendship comes before relationships.

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jackie to Sterling 2012/05/18 04:55:17

Idk. I want to feel comfortable in a relationship and I want him to feel comfortable to. Hiding stuff isnt right to me :/

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