Whats the best way to break off a relationship?

by Rebel Uke Posted 2012/07/01 13:26:19

Related Topics: Relationship, Dumped, Break, Person, Need, Advice, Time

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	In person...	27 votes	66%
	They are going to be hurt no matter what...	14 votes	34%

Ok guys i need some advice! So i have never "dumped" anyone before and i have a really hard time hurting other people's feelings. Whats the nicest way to break off a relationship?

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Steve King 2012/07/01 14:13:48

In person...

+5
Be honest and straight forward. Say it isn't working for you and briefly state why. Don't be mean, don't lose your temper, wish them well, then leave. Don't debate it, don't linger.

If the other person cries or gets mad, walk away.
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Sinister Ken Doll™ 2012/07/02 17:56:46

In person...

+1
just be honest and respectful

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Pele Emerging 2012/07/02 00:43:11

In person...

+1
And be truthful--maybe not the whole truth, but don't lie. Also, break it off before you go looking for someone new.

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MAZ142 2012/07/02 00:20:51
Bob, the reasonable one 2012/07/01 22:22:48

In person...

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Don't get angry, just state that the relationship isn't working and she knows it too. Don't get dramatic and defensive and get into an argument over who's fault it is...

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Pixie·MzAwesome♠ƤĦĂĔŢ♠ 2012/07/01 19:50:10

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+2
so you should do it the most painful way you can think of. either out in public with all their friends and tell them every thing they did wrong! Or over face book on thier wall telling them everything they did wrong.

Ok sarcasm aside I would do it in private one on one.

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David William 2012/07/01 18:39:11

In person...

+1
At least do it in person, and it's going to hurt. Just deal with it. But better for you both to be able to move on.

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GothicaVende††aSquiggles\(#... 2012/07/01 17:47:57

In person...

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+2
Yes, they're gonna be hurt either way, but don't be a complete dick and break up over the phone, iPod, computer, etc. Get some balls, have some respect and say it to their face.

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METALheadMom 2012/07/01 17:10:26

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+1
Tell them it's just not working out for you anymore. No need to go into details, because that gives them time to talk you out of it.

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Maddog 2012/07/01 16:43:56

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+1
Just don't say: "It's not you, it's me..."

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Christopher Kirchen 2012/07/01 16:38:13

In person...

+1
In person is the only way, if you have the slightest honor.

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tblackb 2012/07/01 16:30:23

In person...

be an adult and let them know face to face

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Piwan 2012/07/01 16:00:10

In person...

+1
Just be honest and tactful. They are gonna be hurt, but it makes you a better person to handle it that way, and eventually they will get over it.

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Missile 2012/07/01 15:31:47

In person...

+1
Just be diplomatic and sensitive and don't say it's not you it's me.!!!

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rachel 2012/07/01 15:29:32
Sister Jean 2012/07/01 15:26:54

In person...

+1
with great caring

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DoxieDad 2012/07/01 15:24:21

In person...

+2
Be man enough to end the relationship face to face. Then of coarse if she has left that is another matter.

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Artist 2012/07/01 15:21:51

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+1
...just make sure they never find the body, lol!

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Tony 2012/07/01 14:14:03

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+2
There is no "best way" to dump someone.

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Steve King 2012/07/01 14:13:48

In person...

+5
Be honest and straight forward. Say it isn't working for you and briefly state why. Don't be mean, don't lose your temper, wish them well, then leave. Don't debate it, don't linger.

If the other person cries or gets mad, walk away.

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rand 2012/07/01 13:52:56

In person...

+2
...and without terminating the friendship aspect of the relationship. The other person may well opt to do that for you. Don't reject others but be willing to accept rejection.

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HOMBRE 2012/07/01 13:52:54

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+2

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jeane to HOMBRE 2012/07/01 18:59:17

+1
nope - honest and up front -MAN UP!!

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Nikki 2012/07/01 13:50:43

In person...

+3
keep it classy.....be a grown up....

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ziad 2012/07/01 13:49:25

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+2
Deliver a message with someone else

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jeane to ziad 2012/07/01 18:56:00

+2
Depends on the culture - that won't fly with most Americans Ziad. It would appear to be insensitive and cowardly. Other cultures it is the right thing to do.

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ziad to jeane 2012/07/01 20:26:28

+2
That's right jean
But here gets the same thing

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jeane to ziad 2012/07/01 21:44:55

+2
Ahhh - well goes to show people are people!

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Gloria 2012/07/01 13:45:16

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+2
If they are weird & getting stalky don't do it in person. But no matter what if they won't take no for an answer try, "I am sorry but I am responsible for myself & this relationship is not good for me."

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mrdog 2012/07/01 13:39:36

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+3
FAX them...bark

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jeane to mrdog 2012/07/01 18:56:37 (edited)

+3
Shame on you.............BARK BARK!!!!!!

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Bob, th... to jeane 2012/07/01 22:15:36

+1
LOL!!!! :)

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jeane to Bob, th... 2012/07/02 03:35:52

+1
Hi Bob!

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Bob, th... to jeane 2012/07/02 04:22:03

Hi Jean!! I'm just sitting here being coy! :)

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_Ganjaa 2012/07/01 13:38:49

In person...

+3
Even though they are going to get hurt any way, at least they would respect you for telling them in person

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Jack's Pearl 2012/07/01 13:37:35

In person...

+4
And with sensitivity but outright honesty. No stringing them along for their sake.

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Fighting4U 2012/07/01 13:30:27

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+2
Tell them the truth why you want to break up, and heck he might change for you,then no need to break up.

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TasselLady 2012/07/01 13:29:55

In person...

+4
But just have a decent talk with the person, and let them know in a nice way that things are not working for you, and you feel it's best that you leave. Even though the other party is going to be hurting for a while, you may be doing them a favor and yourself in the longrun depending on the circumstances. Be honest about it and don't try skirting around issues. Tact and diplomacy and some sympathy have to be put into play here.

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Vision of Verve 2012/07/01 13:28:43
HarleyCharley 2012/07/01 13:27:25

They are going to be hurt no matter what...

+2
do the fade...

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jeane to HarleyC... 2012/07/01 18:57:44

+1
No - be honest and upfront - MAN UP!

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