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What would you say and do if your 16 year old daughter told you she was pregnant and didn't want an abortion, her boyfriend was not too happy about this...

GoldDustWoman.♥ 2010/01/06 15:07:09
(the baby in the picture is a drawing i made from my niece Danielle)
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  • Tara 2010/03/13 20:48:29
    Tara
    +4
    I would let her have the baby, and raise it. She needs to be responsible and then I would tell that little boyfriend's parents. I'd probably kick his ass too. It's something both parties should deal with.

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  • Tara 2010/03/13 20:48:29
    Tara
    +4
    I would let her have the baby, and raise it. She needs to be responsible and then I would tell that little boyfriend's parents. I'd probably kick his ass too. It's something both parties should deal with.
  • wah-yaw 2010/01/10 11:22:34
    wah-yaw
    i would support her, what else could i do? if the boyfriend didnt man up i would beat the living shit out of him
  • gottalovetherain 2010/01/10 06:18:10
    gottalovetherain
    I would tell her to keep the baby, and ditch the boyfriend. we would decide if she could keep the baby, maybe give it up for adoption.
  • justonemom 2010/01/07 02:51:24
    justonemom
    +1
    I would die if my daughters ever aborted...ditch the boyfriend and move forward...it's all you can do.
  • Nous 2010/01/06 18:09:58
    Nous
    My friend in China is going through a situation similar to yours.
    But she is 20 and she is scared to tell her parents because they are very tradittional, her boyfriend wants her to have an abortion, she wants to keep it. And above all she lives in the south of China where they are very strict because in China it is illegal to have a baby when you are not married. If she'll have a baby there she will have to pay abonormal high fees and her baby will have no rights or whatsoever. No healthc care, no education, and no social security number and other important things. She might also be forced to do an abortion, but she already is 12 weeks. So I am really scared for her, yet I don't know how to help her or what to say to her..

    But I did say that I will always be there for her..
  • GoldDus... Nous 2010/01/06 18:15:34
    GoldDustWoman.♥
    That is a very tough situation..
    Normaly i wouldn't say this, but it sounds to me that the best option would be to abort.. just because it would be unfair to the child, and especially because it would be illegal.. you don't want her in some jail do you..??
    I don't know if she can still have an abortion with 12 months.. then it already sounds like killing a baby..
    but, can't she get help from some organisation? this can't be the first time something like this happened there..

    Good luck to her and her baby !!

    :peace:
  • Nous GoldDus... 2010/01/06 18:29:18
    Nous
    hi, I was thinking the same, but if she was in Holland it would have been too late to abort. So it feels really bad to tell her that she could have one, so I didn't tell her that. I told her that it's her decision to make and I can only be there for her whatever she decides. And she showed me the sonogram photo and you could really see that it was already a baby, her other friends are saying she should have an abortion. She'll let me know what she has decided.

    Thanks for your advise
  • GoldDus... Nous 2010/01/06 20:18:34
    GoldDustWoman.♥
    ik zie nu pas dat jij ook nederlands bent.. XD
    mag het met 12 weken niet meer..of kan het dan gewoon niet meer..?
    wat een vervelende situatie !
    sterkte voor haar!

  • justonemom Nous 2010/01/07 02:49:56
    justonemom
    I'm sure there would be foreign adoption options.
  • Nous justonemom 2010/01/10 14:36:50
    Nous
    +1
    There are few, but it sure is a better option than abortion. Thanks
  • gottalo... Nous 2010/01/10 06:21:32
    gottalovetherain
    I personally would get her out of China if possible, if the can be born in the U.S or another free country she wouldn't be forced to have an abortion. There is already enough killing in China, her baby doesn't need to one of the hundreds of thousands that are killed. I wish the best for your friend and she is in my prayers.
  • Nous gottalo... 2010/01/10 14:36:04
    Nous
    +1
    Hi, thanks for your your answer,I told her that she should come to Holland, and she is considering it.
  • Fluttershyfan 2010/01/06 17:11:46
    Fluttershyfan
    this obviously is not the best situation, ad you may be upset with her right now, but i would say the best thing to do is support her, whatever she decides.
  • randomnena143 2010/01/06 17:07:14
    randomnena143
    Well of course its not alws the ideal situations for the teens or the parents. Her boyfriend doest have to be happy about this, but he should take responsiblity and if she doenst want an abortion, I would support it, but I also would bring up other options and birng to light realitty, and whats going to happen what shes going to have to do if she decides to keep it. I would support her but thats doesnt mean Im goign to take care of her child..
  • Waiting 2010/01/06 17:01:45
    Waiting
    +1
    I would talk to her and make she she understood the reality of the situation and if that was what she wanted to do I would support her.
  • PurpleAshes 2010/01/06 16:47:34
    PurpleAshes
    +1
    Obviously not an ideal situation. I'd support her decision, but at the same time I would tell her that this is her child and I won't be raising her child for her.
  • Appletree 2010/01/06 15:58:08
    Appletree
    Let her do what she wants, she has to learn with life and the ways she choose
  • Autarchic 2010/01/06 15:42:47
    Autarchic
    Very good drawing! I'd tell her that she made her bed, now sleep in it! That reminds me of a story/joke. This boy comes home and tells his father that he got his girlfriend pregnant. The father starts yelling at the boy: "Haven't I taught you better than that? What the boy says: "Don't you try on a pair of pants, before you buy them?" Yes, but I don't shlt in them!"
  • Sasssy 2010/01/06 15:29:42
    Sasssy
    She got pregnant without her mothers' help. She has to take care of the child without the mothers' help. She's only telling her mother because she want her to help with the responsibility. She needs to grow up fast. It was her choice to get pregnant.
  • Nichelle 2010/01/06 15:23:47
    Nichelle
    +1
    i would never stand behind my daughter if she told me she wanted an abortion!!! I don't believe babies are disposable and just just be killed cause you don't the child.. I gave her life she will give life to that baby.
  • crotchrot 2010/01/06 15:10:55
  • shellyd... crotchrot 2010/01/06 15:13:35
    shellydraven
    +2
    hm... and you'd be in jail :)
    hm jail
  • crotchrot shellyd... 2010/01/06 15:22:52
  • Nichelle crotchrot 2010/01/06 15:27:19
    Nichelle
    +1
    how could you say that why would you want to kill something that cant fight back!! why don't you go try to kill a person who can fight back not a child who cant!!!! And thats why young girls get abortions even though they want the child cause of people like you..
  • crotchrot Nichelle 2010/01/06 15:35:07
  • GoldDus... crotchrot 2010/01/06 15:36:12
    GoldDustWoman.♥
    +1
    you sound like a fun person...!?

    :peace:
  • crotchrot GoldDus... 2010/01/06 15:38:04
  • Nichelle crotchrot 2010/01/06 15:50:15
    Nichelle
    +2
    run along and get back to what i was doing?!? really you need to work on your communication skills with people! leaving a comment like that did you not think someone wasnt gonna answer it? and how would i know that we leave stupid comments all the time i dont just sit on the computer all day to watch what you are doing. I didn't leave a rude comment i was just asking you how you could say that..
  • crotchrot Nichelle 2010/01/06 15:52:31
  • Nichelle crotchrot 2010/01/07 00:41:59
    Nichelle
    +1
    goodbye :-)
  • justonemom Nichelle 2010/01/07 02:54:25
    justonemom
    some freaks have nothing better to do than try and shock...
  • Waiting crotchrot 2010/01/06 17:02:38
    Waiting
    Wow you are a scary person.
  • hi imja... crotchrot 2010/01/07 01:04:24
    hi imjaredleto
    +1
    wow you really are a piece of shit. see you in hell?
  • Nichelle hi imja... 2010/01/07 04:07:26
    Nichelle
    who is that for?
  • crotchrot hi imja... 2010/01/07 05:29:32
  • shellydraven 2010/01/06 15:10:43
    shellydraven
    +1
    I'd support her, I'd help her juggle motherhood and school and try to create as bright a future as I could for my daughter and my granddaughter. The guy will just have to deal with it, he's responsible too, but if he wants to pretend the kid doesn't exist go for it.
  • GoldDus... shellyd... 2010/01/06 15:12:01
    GoldDustWoman.♥
    absolutely!!
    :D
  • Nichelle shellyd... 2010/01/06 15:25:14
    Nichelle
    +1
    Thats right i would bend over backwards to make sure she still has a great life and takes care of her baby..

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