What would you do if you found out your husband had visited a call girl?

Does the name Lorraine Bobbit mean anything to you?

I would NOT tolerate a cheater. i have more respect for myself and believe i am worthy of a man that will love me 100%. If he wants to cheat he can do it on his own time not mine.

Yeah, but what if his reason is that things aren't so good on the homefront so he has to get it elsewhere?

For better or for worse those are the words that are spoken by both when getting married. And besides he can take matters into his own hands and dip the wick..

I couldn't be with him after that. I would feel completely betrayed and I could never be with someone if I couldn't trust them, regardless of how much I loved them.

none of the above because what it takes to get a man you have to double that to keep him ,and besides there is nothing wrong with a little foreplay before the real deal, i mean we all know like the song millie jackson said you be a little sweet , be a lady in the street and a whore in the sheets lol

You have a great point. But most people are the opposite and get super freaked out because of their own insecurities.

NO EXCUSE FOR THAT - if he feels he needs to pay for sex, he can pay ME and I will dress all slutty and wear a wig.....

I'm sure if you did that, there would never be a need to go elsewhere for the action!

all those emotions. Can't really say. I'm not married. First thought, kill him! ;-)
But that's not practical. So, probably put him out until I could decide what would be the next step. Counseling is a great idea because if someone is stepping outside the marriage then communication has broken down somewhere and that needs to be addressed.

Then I would get tested.

But on the other hand, what if the wife drove him to it by being too domineering or having to many "headaches"? If you feed a man at home, he doesn't need to go to a restaurant. Good point on getting tested.

Not necessarily,but even if that is an excuse why shouldn't he just leave? People stray for all sorts of reasons,one being Bi Polar in which Hypersexuality occurs during the manic phase.It's always easier to place blame on the true victim and then you,yourself can become the "victim"., possibly giving them a disease that you may not know you have for months on end.all the while denying your partners right to a committed one on one relationship.Your partners health you should not hold in your hands!!!!