What ONE piece of advice would you give to a couple getting ready for marriage?

by Treasure ♥ijm♥ Posted 2009/10/18 01:41:30

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Disko Pickle 2009/10/18 02:55:49

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DON'T!!!!!!!!!
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Brosia 2009/11/17 00:22:21

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Accept that he loves you and chose you over anyone else. Remember this when you see him standing next to another woman. Remember this and resist snooping, unless he has given you actual reasons to suspect something shady. Talking to females is not a reason.

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Ghostlyhaunt 2009/11/04 05:43:51

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live together first.. for a long time.. like eternity.. marriage is over-rated anyways..

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Darling Biscuits 2009/10/26 05:36:41

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Get pre-marital counseling.

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professor71 2009/10/26 00:54:46

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Never, ever take anger to the bedroom with you under any circumstances. Let your bed be where you take all the stresses of life out on each other in a positive sexual way. Use your bedroom as a place of solace for the both of you. Always.

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Treasur... to profess... 2009/10/26 00:56:28

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GREAT advice Professor!!!! : )

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profess... to Treasur... 2009/10/26 01:00:11

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I tried in my marriages, but when the reason for my anger was in the bed beside me... lol I'd do it that way if I ever desired to get married again, I suppose.

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tazimad 2009/10/24 16:37:52

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If u call each other names and r mean dont think ur getting away with it. Eventually there will be so much hurt u leave cause its impossible to fix.

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Molly 2009/10/22 02:19:20

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Laugh and play and watch what you say, words can never be taken back, make sure this is what want.

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jitko 2009/10/21 03:53:03

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DON'T DO IT!

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jitko to jitko 2009/10/21 03:56:46

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Ooops. I see Disko Pickle has given that advise. I'll change mine to don't get hung-up on preconceived ideas about who is supposed to do what and feel/react how.

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j 2009/10/20 15:42:03

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sometimes it is better to hold your tongue.

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Nica24 2009/10/20 03:32:11

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Make sure you really love each other & know the person...because don't be surprised if your getting annulment or divorce couple months later....Just take the time to know one another ;)

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LawMan5150 2009/10/20 03:30:55

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Deal with jelousy and control issues. If you can't have your own life you won't be happy when together. Make sure you have time with your old friends away from each other and don't bad talk your spouse when w/ your friends. One way to find out if theirs control issues is dance with somone else in front of him/her. If it makes them angry they probably have issues.

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RegMama 2009/10/20 03:02:39

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Don't marry someone that you are afraid to let live because you are scared they will cheat on you. If you are not happy while dating/living together getting married won't make it better. Be sure you know what you want in life and the right partner WILL be there to give support.

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Eric ~ The Logician 2009/10/20 02:45:55

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I REGRET NOTHING!

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Rebo 2009/10/20 02:06:18 (edited)

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Find some premarital counseling before tying the knot. Try a church retreat if you're affiliated with a church, ome other specialist in the area. Can be extremely insightful. Wish I had done it before I got married. And regarding trust--agree to conduct yourselves throughout your marriage in a way that continues to earn the other's trust. Trust once broken takes a very long time to regain, and not worth losing the greatest companion you could ever have forever. Forgiven is not forgotten.

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Hula girl - Friends not Fol... 2009/10/20 02:02:39 (edited)

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Read this book before the wedding....

That way you'll know not to put the barriers up that cause the communication break downs.

Also, don't save the good linens and the china for special occasions. There is no one more special than your spouse and your loved ones.

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ekp :D 2009/10/20 01:53:07

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dont rush it, you have your whole life to get married :]

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l 2009/10/20 01:43:48

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put in a lot of work into it, don't just ride things out and expect your lives together to be o.k. Love, trust and respect each other.

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Satalink 2009/10/20 01:41:16 (edited)

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Agree to disagree. Don't expect your pardner to be an opposite sex version of you. Respect each others strengths and help each other grow. Life is challenging every step of the way. Being married gives you support to get through the tough times. Oh and most importantly.. children are the best things that will ever happen to you. They will love and respect you unconditionally. Be wise together and find strenght in each other.

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Rebo to Satalink 2009/10/20 02:09:35

You are very funny. Or you have no children and are being serious! Or you can't remember how you treated your own parents!

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Satalink to Rebo 2009/10/20 02:15:15 (edited)

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Children are especially challenging. They have all of your flaws and 100 times the immaturity level. But in the end, children are the most rewarding part of your life. It won't be your carreer that remembers you and tells stories of who you were.

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Rebo to Satalink 2009/10/20 02:59:51

That's encouraging-thanks for sharing--sounds like you have a wonderful family!

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Outraged 2009/10/20 01:41:13

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Live together instead. The wedding is too expensive, divorce is even more expensive. Keep your separate accounts, keep separate credit ratings, live together and have a great life!!!

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otter -Don't Look Down!! 2009/10/20 01:31:05

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Some say marriage is a '50/50' partnership. I say, each one should give 100%. Otherwise you are 'keeping score' and will resent your spouse if you don't think he/she is 'pulling their weight'. But on the other hand, understand that at times, one spouse may not be able to give all they can for whatever reason (illness, overtime at work, etc.) - and that's when the other is there to help fill in the cracks.

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Luke 2009/10/20 01:28:20

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Wait at least 6 months before doing it.

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J03Y W@$ H3R3~In Kira I tru... 2009/10/20 01:12:56

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umm...I am not in the position to be giving that kind of advice

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elizabethbath0ry 2009/10/20 01:11:51

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if he goes to a bachelor party, dont go to the one the stripper across the hall works at... laughs. But also keep the romance going, try not to forget little things that you take for granted, even a picked flower from the garden one morning or asking her if you can brush her hair mean so much

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SNIPER 2009/10/20 00:33:53

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get the kids done early so you have time for the grandkids

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xbeachx 2009/10/20 00:05:25

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WAIT!!

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kayla 2009/10/19 23:59:48

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dont lie and trust each other. even if you think that you are lying so that you wont hurt him. just tell him the truth and if he gets mad then he will get over it sooner than he would if you lied to him, and he got mad at you.

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Merlin 2009/10/19 23:18:12

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Always trust each other, love forever, and always be happy to support that person even in the toughest of times.

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~ Veronica Arin Ayne~ 2009/10/19 23:17:46

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Never go to bed angry or without saying "I Love You".

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dead fairy 2009/10/19 22:40:41

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if you were high heels make sure there not big you dont want to trip on your weeding day

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twiggy 2009/10/19 22:14:21

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BE PATIENT and dont sweat the small stuff. Good luck!!!

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FitzRoger 2009/10/19 21:50:30

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Stay out of bed before.

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Emmett's Gal 2009/10/19 21:41:46

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Be honest and make sure you're ready for your commitment.I mean it's not like you're going to say yes to eternal damnation (like in Twilight)

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tiotom77 2009/10/19 21:04:03

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Stay eternal friends.. Don't let money, jobs and other people between you

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freetobeme 2009/10/19 20:46:25

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Go through marriage counceling beforehand.

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bld092895 to freetobeme 2009/10/19 21:31:04

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yeah and agree on 3 things before you tie the knot:
kids
money
religion. idc what people say, if you dont agree on religion, its gonna raise hell.

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