What is wrong with my boyfriend?
Jenjey
2012/07/28 04:54:33
me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 months now. we have a great relationship and we are very happy. but for some reason my boyfriend never cares to have sex. he never asks for it, not even bow jobs. and when I ask for it, he either turns me down or approaches it in a negative manner, like it's a chore. he will never have passionate sex with me either, no making out or sensual foreplay, its always strictly business. I never peak. he also refuses to eat me out. ever. we only ever do it once every 2 or three days, as of right now we havent done it in over a week, but part of this time ive been on my period, and he wont touch me when im on my period. when I try to be sexy and sensual when we are having sex he huffs at me as if to say "okay lets get on with it." one time I tried to kiss him while we were having sex and he pushed my face away and down towards his dick. i got so angry that i didnt even want to do anything at all after that. the way he acts about it turns me off so bad, and I am so sexualy frusrated that i dont know what to do anymore. i try to talk to him about it but he shuts me out and refuses to admit there is a problem. I dont want to break up with him because i really want to be with him, but the sex just isnt working for me. and also if it helps diagnose the problem, we originally met as a one night stand. oh and he still watches porn and jacks off when im not around so i know he has some kind of sex drive, but he doesnt use it on me :'(. can you see why I am frusttated and confused??? and its NOT THAT HE IS GAY. he is not gay. dont even try to make that an argument because I will not accept it. and no it wouldnt be because i am in denial, I KNOW. dont even comment if thats your diagnoses or solution.
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Jennifer 2012/09/11 00:24:47
+3Hello...I completely understand how you are feeling. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and at first we had sex quite frequently and it was good, We use to take showers together,cuddle and just really enjoy each other's company. Now and for the past month and a half or so...I have no idea what is wrong. I bought new undies and bra's and even sex toys to "spice' things up. If feel that if he ever do anything anymore...it's not what he wants...and he won't talk about it!!!!!
Having said that I would have thought that (assuming you're similar ages) that he would have been more 'up for it'. It's a common assertion that teenage boys are walking erections... I know I was at that age!
Will he become more passionate in time? Frankly I would doubt it. I know that I've 'mellowed' with age. Surprising as it may sound you do start to lose interest in sex as you get older and either look for other ways to liven things up or put a TV in the bedroom!
I had a quick look at your photos and you are, to my eye anyway, very pretty. I can't tell how sexy you are because that is much more complex and can't be accurately conveyed without actual interaction but I would guess you are in the normal range for your age.
What was his previous experience? Was he just as reluctant with previous partners? It might just be that he isn't all that demonstrative.
http://www.asexuality.org/hom... << some information on the subject but is not a one size fits all kind of thing like anything dealing with sexuality