The vast majority are spoiled, lazy, and self serving (not all of them mind you, but quite a few). They have never had to go without and have never been told no. But you can't blame it all on the teenagers, instead how about the parents who raised them this way? Parents too lazy or too busy to raise their own children ... parents who expect the government to regulate what kids hear/see/eat instead of using their parental discression. That lazy, self-centered, apathetic attitude is nurtured and cultivated, not born.
My household was different, I had chores (with no allowance mind you), I was expected to have manners and be compassionate to others, and if I wanted some new peice of electronics I had to pay for it myself. There were no time-outs for bad behavior, there were spankings and groundings. And while my parents were usually the most strict around, I believe they did me a favor. I've been supporting myself since I was 19, paid for my own college and worked my ass off to get myself a career. Now at 24 yrs old I'm far better off than anyone else my age that I know because I'm not sitting at home expecting mom and dad to take care of everything for me.
For the most part I think they are disrespectful, lazy & have horrible manners. Now that's not to say ALL of them. Because I do know there are respectful, goal oriented, caring & honest teens too. I have one myself, and I know that I have raised her to act like she has sense when she is away from me & I know she does so because I always get positive feedback on what a great kid she is. Ultimately if a teen is that way, I think the first place to look at is the home.
Giving respect to those who haven't earned it is stupid. Focusing on goals at that age can be self-destructive. Honesty is the biggest lie in our society. Woo-Hoo!
Focusing on goals at that age can be destructive???? Are you aware that at 18 you're an adult & mommy & daddy aren't going to be there to hold your hand. Honesty to a liar may be the biggest lie but to an honest person, it's far from that.
Get some years & experience behind you, then come back & tell me how you feel.
To your first reaction; I am aware that when I'm an adult "mommy" isn't going to be there. I'm talking about setting yourself to high standard, and focusing on all of the infinite possibilities when you're supposed to be demonstrating that you can handle even one of them. Honesty to an honest person is a paradox for as we all know, no one goes without lies for three days flat without dedicating heart and mind.
Setting goals don't have to be high standards, just that you have a better place you wish to be & a plan on getting there. I go without lies for much longer than three days, it's natural, I have no reason to lie about things.
That's right. Please don't think you're the first person who accuses everyone of lying to call that a lie. I don't have this great desire to prove it to anyone, I know what & who I am and that's what matters most. Ta ta
They are the children of the rich generation. They get chauffeured everywhere. They have laptops, cars, iphones. They've never had to do without. They live in fantasyland. Just wait 5 years and their disneyland lives will come crashing down on them, and guess what..... they'll be better off.... in the long run.
Exactly. Where in there are they being taught about how things are in the real world? Because in the real world, things are not handed to you & no one gives in to your temper tantrums!
I am all for this:
My household was different, I had chores (with no allowance mind you), I was expected to have manners and be compassionate to others, and if I wanted some new peice of electronics I had to pay for it myself. There were no time-outs for bad behavior, there were spankings and groundings. And while my parents were usually the most strict around, I believe they did me a favor. I've been supporting myself since I was 19, paid for my own college and worked my ass off to get myself a career. Now at 24 yrs old I'm far better off than anyone else my age that I know because I'm not sitting at home expecting mom and dad to take care of everything for me.
Get some years & experience behind you, then come back & tell me how you feel.